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Sometimes Doing What's Right Doesn't Always Seem Fair


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Monday, June 04, 2012

My job involves a lot of time in the car. What I value most is the time when all the technology is muted and I am left alone to think, to ponder, and to unravel life’s mysteries. Friday afternoon while driving through a rather uninspiring patch of highway my mind wandered to the story of the prodigal son. Regardless of your faith belief, you have heard the story. The miscreant son demands his inheritance, runs off to the ancient equivalent of Vegas, and blows it all. He heads for home contrite and ready to live as his father’s servant for the rest of time just so he has a roof over his head and a meal in his belly. Dad, seeing him walking up the driveway rejoices and throws a party. His lost son has returned. That leaves us with the “other son.” He is the son largely forgotten in this parable of forgiveness. He is the son who has always done the right thing. He has always been there in a pinch. If anything, he has tried harder to make up for his knucklehead brothers behavior. So there he sits, cleaning the garage when he spies his brother sauntering up the driveway and utters an “Oh shoot,” or a derivative thereof. Dad hugs the younger brother; he forgives his sins and failures, orders the older brother to fire up the Weber grill, and emails all their friends. “My son was lost and now is found.” It’s Miller time. There stands the good son, sweat, and grime pouring down his face, lower back twinging from all the lifting and moving and junior is being fitted for a Brooks Brothers suit. Life does not seem fair. The story is largely one of forgiveness so you do not make too much noise when you find yourself relating to the older brothers anger. Doing what is right just is not sexy. You joined Spark, you followed the process by eating within your calorie level, exercising, getting rest………. All the things you are supposed to do to be healthy. Some days it is no fun. Actually, it is rather boring. The weight slowly drops off, some weeks you can only measure it in ounces but you keep to the program.

There is satisfaction as your pant or dress size diminishes with time, until you read a blog about someone who held up a Cheesecake Factory, saw the light, and dropped thirty pounds in a month. You might sigh for a bit and wonder if it is all worth it. You struggle like everyone else; you just do not make a huge deal about it. You clean out the garage because that is what you are supposed to do. You have been exercising for years, it is what healthy folks do, and you do not always understand why people make a big deal about someone who finally walks a mile.

It is not fair, is it? Oh, you will not verbalize it too very often, will you? I have to be honest with you, I rarely find myself in the good sons shoes. That is a foreign perspective. Usually I am the person trudging up the driveway looking for one more chance to “get it right.”

Take heart dearest ones. Your constancy, your often-overlooked consistency and your will to do the right thing is the backbone of our universe. It gets lost in the shuffle but without you, there are no landmarks for the journey. Doing the right thing isn’t always fair but I’ll hazard a guess that once you reach your goal weight you will stay there.

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ALIDOSHA 10/21/2012 5:28PM

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TEACHING1ST 6/11/2012 4:19PM

    Great as always, John!

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AHAVAH123 6/10/2012 8:12PM

    Excellent blog!


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PENOWOK 6/10/2012 12:52PM

    Love the analogy!

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SANDEBUE 6/8/2012 2:25PM

    Well said my friend. That was stated exactly correct. I wish I could put my being over weight burden on someone else..... That would be so easy.
Thanks.

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DMANN104 6/8/2012 1:40PM

    Very well said... emoticon

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 6/8/2012 1:20PM

    Love the perspective. As one who has been prodigal many times in this journey, I've finally realized what I should have long ago.............this is a way of life, not a one time crap shoot. Hopefully, I'll end up like the "good son" and keep on doing what's right, grumbling at times about it. I hope NEVER to be the prodigal again!

Thanks!!!!!

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NINAOZZIE 6/8/2012 12:29PM

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CJMCCA51 6/8/2012 10:15AM

  Thanks. I needed that!

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SUNSHINEGB 6/8/2012 9:45AM

    I enjoyed your blog John, thanks for sharing with us!
Sure gives me a lot to think about!
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NEWTINK 6/8/2012 7:50AM

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DURANGOREDDOG 6/7/2012 11:14PM

    Appreciate the insight. Well said.

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SIMOFDIM 6/7/2012 9:57PM

    Well said!


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SADOLDGRAY 6/7/2012 9:42PM

    Great perspective! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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GINGERDOG16 6/7/2012 9:16PM

  Great blog! I needed it today. I worked hard all week exercising and dieting and only lost one pound. Your blog makes me realize not all days are weeks are rewarding,but you have to continue on.

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OPTIMIST1948 6/7/2012 8:08PM

    Heartfelt words. Thank you for voicing something that will continue to echo in the silence of my heart.

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DMARIE1061 6/7/2012 7:20PM

  Thank you for these encouraging words.

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SARAPARK1 6/7/2012 6:58PM

    That feeling of unfairness is an overwhelming one. It can appear in all aspects of my life; my job, my family life, my friends. I work so hard and it feels like no one is appreciating it. This blog gives me a lot of encouragement that I am not alone and I should continue to persevere.

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TPETRIE 6/7/2012 6:54PM

  Great blog. Thanks I really needed this blog. You are so right. emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 6/7/2012 5:15PM

    Very well written, and gives a lot to think about. Love It!
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HIKETOHEIGHTS 6/7/2012 4:46PM

    Another good blog, thanks emoticon

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MELISSA5824 6/7/2012 4:19PM

    what a terrific blog! have a fabulous day!

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SANDEBUE 6/7/2012 2:47PM

    Great blog....written well.

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PRSPLACE 6/7/2012 2:47PM

    thanks for posting!!!

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MLMEYER98 6/7/2012 1:30PM

    Great blog! Thanks

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JLPEASE 6/7/2012 1:29PM

    What a great blog. Thanks for sharing!


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SNOWANGELDIVA 6/7/2012 12:41PM

    On this adventure I stake claim to the brat that began to mimick the older brother's ways to true daily success.
Turns out he did know the right way after all...sheesh, siblings are annoying...
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CORYGIRL42 6/7/2012 12:38PM

    This really helped after my morning after giving into peer pressure and eating badly. Thanks!!

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TBOGENER 6/7/2012 12:18PM

    I second all these emotions.
when do I count? I am the good son and I am growing weary. Thank you for your comments perhaps later today it will fall into place. emoticon

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ANDRAYAYA 6/7/2012 11:49AM

    Well now THAT was an enjoyable read! And encouraging! Thank you for sharing.

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 6/7/2012 11:49AM

    This is a wonderful blog entry. Thank you so much! I truly needed to read your words today.

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MEH50BEWELL 6/7/2012 11:37AM

    Awesome blog - I love the modern flair of the story! Thank you for sharing.


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BRENDAGAIL9 6/7/2012 11:03AM

    Thank you for your insight.

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SHELLIECAN 6/7/2012 10:58AM

    WoW John,
That was so well written..I was captivated by your interpretation and now just have to go and read more of your blogs......
Thank You for sharing your thoughts.

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NWFL59 6/7/2012 10:35AM

    Sounds like one of the tales of my family life. I'm the unheralded grunt doer rather than the lauded slacker. emoticon

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PYNETREE 6/7/2012 10:27AM

    Yes, that is just the way it goes.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Have a good Week.

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KMMR87 6/7/2012 10:04AM

    It has been awhile since I last heard the prodigal son story. And thanks for the modernization of it. Your story reminds me to unplug technology, open the window and spend time with my thoughts.
Thank you.

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MAMABEE480 6/7/2012 9:44AM

    This is just what I needed to read this morning. I can't thank you enough. emoticon

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SJKENT1 6/7/2012 9:21AM

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GINA180847 6/7/2012 9:01AM

    Thank you John, The son who was cleaning the garage would be one of my many sisters and I would be the one who never showed up again and just had an adventurous life off somewhere.

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LULUBELLE65 6/7/2012 8:48AM

    Thank you so much for this. In the end, those of us who do what we need to do, and lose our weight without the drama will be rewarded as well--although not with a fatted calf, maybe with a veggie platter.

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INGMARIE 6/7/2012 8:42AM

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PROVERBS31JULIA 6/7/2012 8:22AM

    I loved the re-interpretation of The Prodigal Son, with the way we do things today! Hilarious!!

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Not only do we need to continue doing the right things, day in and day out, (cleaning out the garage would be something we need to do at our house, too!), but we can't hold grudges against the Prodigal sons and daughters who do repent and return, even if they did lose more weight quicker -- I know I do! The results from lack of forgiveness places a heavy toll on one's own body. That includes forgiving yourself of being bitter towards and about the "unfairness" of some one who seemingly effortlessly loses their excess weight faster than me. It's an ongoing issue that I struggle with, in any case...

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NAYNAY69 6/7/2012 7:39AM

    I'll bet many can relate to this in many ways...

I'm one who trudges on...day in and day out...


Wonderful blog....

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MAMAWALMART 6/7/2012 7:29AM

    WOW! That's deep. Makes me realize I should thank you to all those before me who have made it easier for me.
Thanks for making me think.
Keep Smiling
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Karen

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GARDENCHRIS 6/7/2012 6:50AM

    don't you just love those quiet times, when we can think and ponder and come up with something so profound?? emoticon

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JEWELLE217 6/7/2012 6:42AM

    Thanks for another incredible blog. Love your messages and your insight!
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DWEXCEL 6/7/2012 6:36AM

    That just about sums "everything" up. I'm glad I stopped by for a read. Thank you. emoticon
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SRHALLIN 6/6/2012 10:18PM

    Great blog. And, yes, doing the "right" thing seems never to go unpunished these days. But, it is still the right thing. And I would hazard to guess that most of us would rather do it and receive little acclaim for our efforts, than not do it, and be hard-pressed to look at ourselves in the mirror the next day.

The results will come easier for some than for others. That is just a fact. But, they will come for each of us, eventually, if remain true to our courses and diligent in our efforts.

Stay strong, and stay positive, and you *will* reach your goals. :)

Best wishes to you on your journey to good health and personal happiness!

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