Thursday, May 31, 2012
I am really worried about my DD. She is 14 years old and does NOT eat right. I blame myself for this. From the time she was a baby, she would projectile vomit baby food. (We know now that it was acid reflux.) When she was about 3 years old and learned that meat came from animals, she refused to eat meat. We would try and make her eat it, and she would throw up all over herself. The pediatrician said it was psychological and that we shouldn't force her to eat meat but to supplement her diet with Pediasure so she got the proper nutrition. We thought she would outgrow it, but she didn't. My family doesn't understand why I "cater" to her eating disorder, and for our Christmas Eve dinner two years ago there was absolutely nothing at the table she could eat. I felt terrible for her, and left the dinner to run home (10 minutes away) in the middle of a snowstorm to grab some leftover spaghetti for her. By the time I returned, my roast beef was cold and everyone else was done eating.
I want to respect my daughter's love of animals, but the problem is that she doesn't eat vegetables either! She thinks that being a vegetarian means eating cheese and pasta. I have gotten her to the point where she will eat a couple of green beans or carrots at dinner, and I got her to eat shrimp by breading it. I also started taking her to a therapist who specializes in eating disorders, but I'm not sure it's helping.
Over the years, my DD has put on weight and it's really starting to show. The pediatrician told me she should weigh about 110-115 lbs, and she is 158 right now. My struggles with my weight have negatively defined my life for decades, and I don't want that to happen to her. I was hoping she would join WW with me, but after she went to the first meeting with me, she said she didn't want to. I can't force her to do something she doesn't want to do, but I feel guilty because I have not been a good role model for her eating since I have been eating like a hog since she was born. How do I turn this around at this late date?
This week I went and bought some Morningstar Veggie Burgers. I thought they would be good for both of us, but she wouldn't even try it because it looked like meat and she couldn't bring herself to (even though she knew it wasn't meat). I can't keep revolving my meals around pasta! I also bought lots of fruit for snacks, but she just grabs the bags of buttery popcorn. When I try to mention her eating habits and/or my concerns about her weight (in as tactful a manner as I can), she either cries and tells me that I am hurting her self-esteem, or argues and yells at me.
This is so frustrating!