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Wednesday, May 30, 2012

We all have them. Life delivers a sucker punch and youíre left scratching your head wondering what the heck you did to deserve it. Perhaps itís a health issue, relationship problem, family drama, or financial crapóit doesnít matter which area of your life the challenge lies, chances are it leaves stains on all the good in your world as well. In other words, when youíre neck-deep in crap, it can be hard to smell the roses.
Down days are fine, and not something we should feel guilty about having. Surrendering to your sadness, or whatever other unattractive emotion is trying to come to the surface, does not make you a bad person. Nor will it manifest into anything undesirable. We donít have to be happy one hundred percent of the time. In fact, itís not good for us to suppress our emotions like that. When we donít let the not-so-attractive stuff out, it festers inside and contributes to even bigger issues or manifests into physical ailments. Feeling is healing, my friends. The trick is to not allow these down days to turn into chronic periods of depression.

So, what can we do to pull ourselves out of the doldrums?

1. Get some perspective.

Put yourself in someone elseís shoes for a while and know that as bad as things seem for you right now, there is always someone else who is far worse off. We humans are pretty freaking amazing. We can deal with the harshest conditions and find strength amidst the worst kinds of adversity. Understanding this has been my emotional savior while dealing with my own cancer diagnosis and that of my mum. All I had to do was turn on Oprah and I would see someone whose life was so much tougher than my own.

2. Look for the blessing.

Acknowledge the situation youíre in. Try to understand why you may have been given the challenge (there is always a greater reason!) and then surrender to learning the many lessons that are sure to unfold from it.

3. Keep trusting.

We are never given a problem that we donít know how to solve. Just trust the process of life and accept that everything that comes up for you is there for a reason. When you truly believe that the universe is a kind place, and that youíre just one part of a much bigger plan, it makes it easier to understand that what youíre dealing with is a necessary part of the puzzle.

4. Do something that makes you happy.

Whenever Iím feeling a little icky, there are a few things that will instantly make me feel better. These are going for a walk, sitting on the beach, and spending time with my dog. Let whatever it is that makes you happy crash your pity party.

If none of the above works straight away, remember thatís okay. Honor your feelings, sit with them and really feel them. If you resist them they will only get worse, but if you allow them to froth to the surface and become exposed, they will soon pass and youíll be left feeling lighter and more free than ever.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
1BEACHWALKER 6/2/2012 11:13PM

    Cancer?! Was that before or now? Hope not now!

Just what I needed! I just posted a blog about how frustrated I have been with myself! More than just the weight issue really, but didn't mention the others in my blog! But, you're right blogging or talking it out is better for you-not bottling it up inside is better! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BELTONWALKER67 5/31/2012 1:27PM

    This is the most uplifting blog and I really appreciate you taking the time to write such wise words! Definitely a keeper to remind us that we need to be grateful for each and every day we have on this earth. Thank you so much for putting it all in perspective! emoticon

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MOTLEM 5/30/2012 11:34PM

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3016DEBRA 5/30/2012 11:57AM

  I love your blog...reminds me that we all go through bull-$#!? and we can come out of it better than we were! Thanks for sharing...HAVE A GREAT DAY!!! emoticon emoticon

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LVMAMAW 5/30/2012 11:31AM

    Well Said, my friend!! Thank you for sharing that! emoticon emoticon

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PATTIE441 5/30/2012 8:30AM

    You are awesome my friend! Thank you so much! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 5/30/2012 7:16AM

    Well said my friend ..
I can so relate to that....
We just have to get on with it and do our best ..
Yes we are entitled to feel down, and sorry for ourselves ...

We then have to accept the nature of the beast, then try to fight it all the way ..
There is always someone worse off than us ... and we have to live life to the fullest whilst we can ..
I think the biggest lesson I have learned, is to accept what we cannot change and do our best to help others.
Start every day with a smile and a plan to be cheerful and loving to one another ..
My greatest reward is to put a smile on someones face, and show hope for the future generations that are learning from what we have experienced..

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Love and Hugs Susie

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OPALMOON 5/30/2012 6:58AM

    Well said!

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GOANNA2 5/30/2012 5:53AM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!
A wonderful uplifting blog. emoticon emoticon

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