F.U.N. dealing with stress
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
It is common knowledge that stresses both good and bad can lead to illness. My husband pointed this out to me just the other day as we had a mixed week of both extremes in news.
I made up my mind right then and there to tap into all I know about looking at the glass half full, rather than half empty.
I came up with a quick way to help my mind; The F.U.N. system. Now in some ways, I've been doing this years ago, but now it is a more purposeful outlook. It has taken all the events and wrapped them up into what appears to be a goal driven journey.
F - keeping the Focus on the (positive) Future. How did this event have a positive impact on what is ahead? Keeping a gentle outlook for the whole future, rather than being jerked around by the Fears of bad things and change. Calm in the storm knowing a rainbow will follow - not being so caught up in a sunny day that the stresses give sunburn to the spirit.
U - Understanding for the viewpoint of (U)others. Ok, others just sounds like it starts with a "U", but it has helped me remember this. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!!!! When you have positive stress, remember to reflect gratitude. When negative, that others may be hiding their own burdens. Listening and being open to others allows the journey not to be a lonely one, rather filled with connection and support.
N - Noble purpose. Seeing everything fitting into a plan; having ying and yang balance. The need for leaves turning brown to make way for bright spring foliage. The sense of calm that comes from perspective to look at the whole picture.
So much good and good people have touched me. The friend that paid for the final vet bill. The friend that donated the adoption fee at a local shelter for a young shepard/lab mix. Getting multiple cards, emails, text messages, spark goodies and comments that give comfort.
Also DH is off in another state looking at a position that seems remarkable him. As much as it is hard to say, I would have never with my limited ability been able to take care of an ailing dog with DH away. The out of state trip couldn't have come at a better time for DH - he needed something that would redirected him and quite frankly after such a long time of taking care of all the senior members in our joint family (and myself) it was time for him to see some new scenery.
Directing my attention towards helping him get ready to leave, made me feel better capable of taking care of myself while he is gone. Tomorrow I've set my alarm really early so I can pray for him while his meetings start and so I will have loads of time to get ready and deal with the wheelchair challenge.
Oh there were a ton of tiny stress points....the last minute broken zipper, having my computer go down every few minutes as I was attempting do renew my professional license online with only literal seconds before the deadline, being soapy in the shower standing on one foot
being careful not to fall (with not one else around to help)....
Yet, I've been having F.U.N. I know it is only a few more weeks until I can set aside the wheelchair - walker - then cane. Besides what good training for when I'm older and grayer. The wheelchair has been great strength training for my upper arms. Our community pool is now open and I'm going to get a bathing suit Thursday, so I can start swimming - which is not weight bearing, I tested out getting myself there and back this last weekend. My computer being nasty has forced me to use my phone more for texting and email - I'm getting fast. Also read that my favorite author Nelson DeMille hand writes his books. No excuses for putting off writing due to this limping circuit board.
I was thinking if the doctor ok'ed me this week to put a small bit of weight on the foot to use a chair and mow the front lawn .....ah but that might be too much fun. F.U.N. deals with the long term outlook. Fifty pounds is not lost in a day and lawns aren't mowed at the risk of more harm. I'll be there soon enough.