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Selfish Mom

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Summer break has begun for my little grandson. He has officially graduated from kindergarten. This means I don't have to go pick him up from school anymore but it also means he arrives every morning for Grammy to tend him.

I'm not much of a morning person however, I made the decision to wake up earlier and get out for my wog before he arrives at 7ish. My daughter called last night to ask if she could drop him off to spend the night so she wouldn't have to drive him in this morning. I've been trying to be as supportive as I can but I pondered having to give up my wog all together and decided it couldn't happen. She first suggested he could go with me. Hahaha. No. Even the princess girl, who's a walker, wouldn't be able to keep up with me. He isn't a walker, much less a jogger, and would whine before we even got started and he's too big to put in a jogging stroller. Well, she seemed rather unhappy when I told her morning exercise is part of who I am these days and I couldn't give it up. I know she runs early in the morning while her kids are still sleeping. She has an arrangement with her neighbor to keep an eye on her house. I don't have that option.

So, anyway, my alarm went off this morning jarring me out of a deep sleep. I fumbled with my new phone, knocking the screen and having to try to get it back so I could turn the alarm off. My husband awakened and started in... Grrr! I got dressed, let the dog out, and started my coffee. My dog chose this morning to wander and I had to go out to find him. Grrrr! My husband got up while I was outside searching and let the dog in. Greeeat! I turned on my ipod and realized hearing blaring music is an assault rather than a motivator. I wore my walking shoes instead of my running shoes. There is a big difference in how they feel. They're heavier and I felt clumsier than usual. Fortunately, I didn't trip and fall and, after a little while, enjoyed myself. I got home with 15 minutes to spare so I poured my first cup of coffee and relaxed.

It isn't easy to put myself before others but I need to this time and I have. Being healthy is a gift to my family and being selfish is the only way it's going to happen.
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CARAMELANGEL247 5/31/2012 7:13AM

    Good for you!!!

Mom's and grandma's have to remember to TAKE time for themselves because no one gives it to us very often. Or they dont give us enough of it. And then they give us the stink eye when we either blow up becaue we need a break or when we say no- its my personal time.

Way to take care of #1

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CALI_POPPY 5/30/2012 8:19PM

    I think you made a wise choice! If I had made these types of "selfish" decisions in the past, I wouldn't have to work so hard to fix myself today and I would have more time for everyone, every day. Your daughter may have huffed and puffed but at some point in time, she will be standing in your shoes and realize you made the right decision and it will have a positive impact on the decision she makes for herself.

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ROCKANDROLL7 5/30/2012 5:54PM

    Well my shoes on the other foot so i do not know what to say . "To they own self be

true"

I have read i will say that much.

My granddaughter is five and starts K. in the fall. I have kept her some every single

day of her life. Never been off on a vacation with out my daughter either and i be 63

soon.

I have signed up already to be a teacher's helper 2 or 3 days a week. I do plan also

to eat lunch with granddaughter daily if allowed. She has never been away from me.

She has her mom and dad young, but probably forgot that.

I be lost with out her so i want to go .

Each of us have different needs in life tho and YOU got a right to live your life like

You need to same as my choice.

Daughter should buy you a jogging stroller double wide or

find you a neighbor willing to keep the child while you do your run .

Lots of options.

Just do what is best for you as if your not happy the kids can not be happy.



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DEERLADY45 5/30/2012 7:34AM

    You made the right decision! I spent my whole life putting all my family members first which im glad i did cause they needed HELP, but i should have made special time for myself! Now i am alone and so i have more time to pamper my self a little! Make sure you get your walk emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Sending Love and hugs! BONNIE

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ELIZPARKER 5/29/2012 4:37PM

    Oh, your blog really hit home with me. Lately, I've been e-mailing with a SparkPeople friend about how codependency was taking the focus off myself and my goals/efforts-- and putting it onto my grown daughter and her goals/efforts. Not a good thing. My friend responded with the good advice that "my shoulders are not broad enough to carry everything." So true.

I keep reminding myself we have to be a little "selfish." If we don't take care of ourselves, we won't be around to help anybody!

Chin up. I'm rooting for you!


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DARWHOHOO 5/29/2012 1:35PM

    So many times we put other's needs above our own, especially that regarding to being healthy, and we suffer in silence for it until the physical effects begin to show. The fact that you sacrifice sleeping in to get your workout done shows how important it is to you never forgot it is!!

You are emoticon !!

Dar

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AUNTB63 5/29/2012 10:17AM

    I commend you on your decision, although I don't think it is selfish....how many years did you put everyone else first all of the time? All those years deserve at least 1/2 those years for YOU time....putting YOU first is now a priority for you and others should be grateful that YOU are doing this. Besides I have found that morning exercise makes my day go much better....hope yours does too. emoticon

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