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Feeling better today

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Things are better today, between my hip, the rain and some issues at home, it has been rough this week. Really felt like I was falling apart yesterday or more I was falling apart due to the love of my life falling apart. Hubby suffers from depression and it had never been too bad, just a bad day here or there, the feeling something is wrong but not knowing what it was but the past few weeks have been harder than usual. So we never really did anything about it, I just enhanced his diet and I try to get him to exercise with me and do some yoga. Not sure if my weight loss pursuit has been exacerbating the issue but there is some coinciding timeframes. Finally yesterday was the breaking point, things had been a bit off this week and he snapped at me about my perfume in the morning and then made me feel bad about not offering to drive to work when he already had the keys in his hand, after that I was floored. He never takes his moods out on me and he had been pulling away which was making me feel rejected and causing me to pull away too. So finally we took some steps to help this and not let it get any worse. He just started taking st john’s wort yesterday and we talked pretty much all day, then instead of the normal night in front of the tv, we played games and laughed and tried to take him out of his head. He said he still felt sad but today he is in a better place. So yes my workout may have suffered yesterday but my marriage and my husband’s well being are more important than my workout schedule, back on track today, btw and making up for yesterday.
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    Sounds like you are onto it and just as well because it is a long journey when your loved one suffers from this horrible illness. One thing I feel we need to keep in mind when dealing with illness in our close family is the need to put yourself and your health first. That way you have the energy to support your loved one and to pick up the load that he is at times unable to tackle. Exercise is so very helpful for people with depression and that is probably one thing that you should take very good care not to let slip, for the sake of the two of you. If you establish and vigilantly maintain good exercise habits, it is good for your health and also your dedication to activities creates many regular opportunities for DH to be inspired or even if not inspired, to accompany you and share the very real therapeutic benefits of exercise.
    Unsolicited advice I know, but I hope this helps.
    2012 days ago
  • LYNLE0423
    You know what, I don't think your work out really suffered all that much. If nothing else, your emotions just seemed to get a work out, which probably exhausted your body as much in a physical activity.

    And yes, I understand days like that so much. My husband and I work for the same company. I imagine what our house is like at times. With him being an only child that was spoiled rotten to the core and me be the oldest of 4 who is use to have the VOICE and attention of the others -- wow! It can get pretty emotional...especially since I am convinced that both sides of our families are not really all that normal.

    And I understand snapping at a loved one...I did that the other day; at the kids. Boy, I felt bad all day and had to apologize for it when I got home.

    I'm glad everything is getting a bit better.
    2013 days ago
    Sorry to hear that you both have had some bumps in the road but i'm glad to hear that your pulling yourselves back up with each other's help. Maybe this nicer weather will help out all around. Take care.
    2014 days ago
    I'm so sorry that you and your husband are dealing with depression. He is so lucky to have a supportive wife. I know your week has been rough, but I'm happy you were able to enjoy yourselves tonight.
    2014 days ago
  • TXLADY110
    Ah the hormones of weightloss. Sorry you are dealing with this but it is highly likely it is part of the weightloss journey. Glad to hear you are both dealing with it well.

    You can Make it Keep going.

    2014 days ago
    Family is so important. It sounds like you did the right thing. emoticon
    2014 days ago
    We need to set priorities and family always comes first with me. emoticon emoticon
    2014 days ago
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