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New mental attitude coming alive

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

I've been on SP for over 2 years and while I SAY I want to get fit and healthy (and lose weight in the process), I've done very little to make it happen. So far I've lost 30 pounds and most of that in the first few months.

I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and have realized that it's my mental attitude that is holding me back. Because I've been overweight my whole life (since I was 2, so I've been told, and I'm 55 now), I have the attitude that "I can't lose weight", that "I'll always be fat", that "nothing works". Well, OF COURSE if I go into it with that attitude, that's exactly what will happen.

So now, I'm working on changing my attitude to one of "I can be fit", "I'll get to my goal of being fit and healthy" and "I'll make it work". I am working on changing my thinking, too. Instead of focusing on what I CAN'T have (like chocolate, which is a HUGE trigger for me), I'm going to focus on what I CAN have (like the bowl of pineapple and melon I just finished). Instead of thinking "I have to work out", I'm going to focus on "I get to work out and get stronger".

My suggestion to anyone struggling with keeping focused on the goal is this:
take a look at your inner dialogue. Are you subconsciously sabotaging yourself before you even get started? You need to find what motivates YOU. If losing weight isn't it (and it may not be), then find what is. Don't think about what you think it SHOULD be, what because someone said that it must be that. Just because for someone else it's X, that doesn't mean that for you it's X.

When I first joined SP, I made my vision board:

and a lot of that is still true. So why am I still struggling? Because I've had the mindset of a "fat person wanting to be fit and healthy" rather than "a fit and healthy person" For example, I'll obsess on the fact that chocolate is a trigger for me and that I need to stay away from it rather than obsessing about which new fruit or vegetable am I going to try next. I think "I have to go to the gym" instead of thanking God that 1) I am still alive after having breast cancer for the second time and 2) I can afford the gym membership (which was not always true) and 3) my son is going with me so it's something we can do together which is bringing us closer. I'm trying to think as a thin person thinks, which is not easy since I've never been a thin person.

I'm going to stay focused on my WHYs and remember that if I keep focusing on the negative, I'm going to get the negative.

So that's my new mental attitude. What's yours?


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TRACYZABELLE 6/6/2012 3:30AM

    It is not easy when we look back and see we have not made the progress we thought we should have but as long as we stick with it, we are bound to win the battle!

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WALKINGWOMAN07 5/17/2012 7:31PM

    Way to go - great new attitude.

You asked how we motivate ourselves - I recently have found my motivation - not in a great way I am afraid, but apparently it is what it took for me. I have been going through some heart tests, and it turns out that fear is the motivator that works for me. I thought that I was doing this for my health, but it wasn't til I felt my health was really threatened that I finally found the motivation!

All the best to you.


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REJ7777 5/17/2012 6:30AM

    It sounds like you've renewed your focus and gotten yourself a brand new, winning attitude!
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XRSIZE18 5/17/2012 5:50AM

    Love it! I think our inner dialogue directly affects our success. I think I had the same story as you - the first few months I was SO gung-ho and then I hit ONEderland. After I saw a one in front of my "number" I just seemed so much less motivated - the goal didn't seem quite as urgent. But then I realized that it was like I was scared to be skinny. I'd hidden behind my fat and my humor for so many years that it was strange to be thought of as attractive. I'm not "the girl with the pretty face and good personality" anymore. I'm the girl with the voluptuously rockin' body and spirit of positivity. Redifining WHO I wanted to be really helped me.

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EDWARDS1411 5/16/2012 8:57PM

    emoticon on your New Attitude!!! emoticon

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SLIMXTINA 5/16/2012 8:07PM

  Speaks for me too - this is a great post thanks . Even if I "fall off the (food) wagon " I've been working on still looking at the positives and carrying on/ making healthy choices rather than what I used to do which was spiral further into unhealthy eating. emoticon

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LORI1132 5/16/2012 6:01PM

    I loved this entry... it so speaks for me. I am in the same boat... I always joke that my "cuteness" maxed at 2 yo. I can be so successful in so many areas of my life. I am smart, educated, thoughtful, and yet this is something that I can't seem to solve. I have had similar revelations as those you've shared, and yet, its so hard to keep them "front and center".

You really spoke to me and challenged me! Thank you!!!

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BLUE42DOWN 5/16/2012 3:00PM


What an excellent point. There is a difference between the lifestyle of a "fat person who wants to be be fit and healthy" and a "fit and healthy person" - and the one we are living creates who we are.

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RDGISME 5/16/2012 2:16PM

    What a wonderful realization! I also look at ,myself as overweight and okay. I want to lose this weight but haven't particularly thought that I am fit and getting healthy. As recently as the end of last year, I was hitting the gym 5/6 days a week and setting some pretty high standards for myself! Wasn't losing regardless of the fact that I was at the gym for an hour each time. My thinking was focused on the gym time and not the eating portion! I weigh-in tonight and lost 3lbs over the past 2 weeks which I have tried to maintain this week! Again, thank you for your message!!

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