Monday, May 14, 2012
I have mentioned before how we have had faced some hard times since my husbands pay checks have been garnished for about 3 years now. Since then this family has gotten lazy. The house and yard has suffered, along with our weight and health. We don't get out nearly as much nor host any bbq's, bon fires ect like we used to! And it has just made us fall further and further into a type of depression, and become more like hermits then ever before!
I have started taking Vit's and basically started on the right mind set on changing this. I think it's started getting to my husband now too! He is talking about quiting his on line game that he has been pretty much addicted to! He spends pretty much every waking hour when he's not working playing it, or chatting to friends who play it! I have to admitt that I have gotten a bit jelous! When he get's home I usually like to talk about our day, etc. But he just kinda ignores me. He gives me that fadded look, and just nods his head! There was a time when he actually acted annoyed with me or the kids for talking to him while he is on! So I had gotten pissed a time or two, and voiced how it's not nice or fair to ignore his family. Esp for me! I stay at home all day, every week, with no one to talk to! A normal person has people they see all day, at work, maybe the store, gas stations, ect. I don't get any human contact on a regular bases other then my kids, and him! And it was basically all his idea that *I* home school the kids, and have no job. And because we don't have money the reason I don't drive! It's not fair that he keeps me caged up with no interaction except for him, then ignores me! I get really annoyed when he sits there on the comp talking to his online friends, and ignores me! I mean some of them know more of what's going on with him, or at work then I do! I have been trying to get him to spend less time on his dumb game, and more with me and the kids. My brother teases him about it all the time! Even when his brother came over here he wouldn't even get off to spend time with them! (he even eats his meals at the desk 95% of the time!) He never wants to go out and do anything out of the house or do anything around the house on his days off. He say's "I drive 30 mins to work and work, and put up with people all day 5 days a week, the last thing I want to do is drive around, visit people or work on my day's off!" Ok I can understand that, but like I have been telling him, all the rest of us do is sit around the house all week! And that's not fair to us!
Finally he has started to see what is going on! He knows 1 he has put on a lot of weight sitting all day on the comp. He used try and say "I walk a lot at work, so I burn the callories" yeah maybe! But what good is it to walk all day at work but then come home and sit on your butt the whole time! And 2 he is seeing how behind the house and yard is becoming.
I can see how he can get so caught up in games. I was pretty addicted to face book games for a long time! I was one of those who spent all day on all those 'Ville's ' 'cities' and 'farms'! And sim games! They suck you in, and then you are stuck having to do up keeps and quests! I have quit all of those games. Now I just pretty much play slots and with those all you have to do is log in to get more points. But there is still times I spend all day just playing those too! But I started watching how much time I spend.
So this weekend we went and bought some plants for the yard. Then we went to a car show where our daughter was working for her play. Then Sunday we bought some more plants, and then went on a mothers day picnic at the river. He is now planning on doing some work on the pond and yard when he gets home, and has started talking about going for walks in the evenings.
We are going to be pretty busy the next couple of weekends. There is a city wide yard sale next weekend, (which we go to every year) then the next weekend is memorial weekend, and we plan on going on a camping trip with my brother and his family. Then the next weekend we may go to his neices granduation party (if not we may stay and hang out with my brother for his birthday) So maybe after all that I will let him sit and be lazy for a weekend. lol
I am just glad after all this nagging, about doing more and getting into better shape he is finally on board with it!