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Come on a little close ... i have a secret to tell you

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Friday, May 11, 2012

* finger curled motioning you closer
* this is important so come on a little closer

What i am about to tell you will shock you and for that well I can not applogize for but hopefully you will understand. Last night during a conversation with my son it happened something I dearly hate ... He knows this because before he says that horrible thing he says " no offense mom" ( in my head i am screaming no dont say it ) then he says it ... She is your size she is big like you ... he keeps trying to clean up to make it sound better ... I said oh stop it ... you mean she is "fat" he said well yea i am sorry i shouldnt say that mom ... I said i understand However come here and let me let you in on a secret " i am not fat " Oh i no the horror right there i am weighing 309.6 and I dare say " i am not Fat" ... So here let me let you in on this secret ....

I am the product of two wonderful parents
I am the sister two a wonderful brother
I am a wife to at most times a good man
I am the parent of two great sons
I am the grand mother two awesome grandsons
I am smart
I am funny
I am a fighter
I am a survivor
I am honorable
I am honest
I am a good friend
I am a force to be reckoned with
I am a b*tch ( only when pushed that way)
I am a respectable member of society
I am caring
I am trusting
I am so much more than most will ever see because all you see is that i am fat ... here is the secret .... I am not fat my body is fat ... there is no government index that measures me .. I am the only one that defines who i am not the world ... My body weighs 309.6 but who I am weighs so much more than that and that I will never lose . now just to be fair I will tell you the last thing that i told him about who i am ... I am one perpetual eye roll from unleashing more attitude on you than you will ever want to see ... So the next time you want to compare somebody to me make sure they truly live up to who I am .... I dont buy into the whole say something nice about yourself or self praise however sometimes the world needs to do as I do and look past the numbers that flash on a scale...
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JOANNHUNT 2/14/2013 10:47AM

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KRISTINWISHON 5/26/2012 2:53PM

    Well said!

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JEANNINEMM68 5/26/2012 11:47AM

    This is a great blog!!!!! There is so much more that defines us then our weight.

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BAREFOOTMTNGIRL 5/25/2012 9:47PM

    Hell to the ya!

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LIVIN2BEFIT 5/24/2012 9:47AM

    This blog was so amazing and truly it has blessed my spirit on today..... This makes me smile emoticon

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THEIS58 5/21/2012 4:58AM

    Great blog!

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SUSANMYERS1 5/18/2012 12:18PM

    You are totally correct. You have to admit people can be so cruel. You are correct all they see is the obesity. Hey I am the same person inside. Thanks for putting it into perspective. I actually have men speak to me now that would not have given me the time of day before. Alot of people are so Superfical. Thanks for sharing!

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BRAVEHEART4ME 5/18/2012 11:01AM

  Great blog and so accurate! Good for you! emoticon

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VICKIEALEXANDER 5/17/2012 7:18PM

    Amen, Sister!

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JSTHIESS 5/17/2012 12:35PM

    Thanks for such an amazing perspective shift! You are just SO RIGHT! I don't look at other people and compare them that way, but i do treat myself that way, so for me to start thinking of myself as i really am and not what i weigh... THANKS AGAIN!!!

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PRAYINGSUZIE 5/17/2012 12:32AM

    Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to read! I get told all the time that I am fat and I know that I get looks that say the same thing! I am so glad that you gave the list of what you are! I am going to do a list too! Thank you so much!

Suzie

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CRINKLYMONKEY 5/16/2012 3:01PM

    That was an awesome come back! emoticon

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MEESHINTHEUK 5/16/2012 9:30AM

    I feel like there should be a loud "boo-ya" and fireworks at the end of your blog.

Love it, thank you!!!

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JXOCASIO 5/15/2012 10:39PM

  You're a an excellent reminder to look past the cover and with 'tude. :)

Loved it.












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DIAMONDP21 5/15/2012 9:58PM

    I loved this one -- you tell 'em girl.... emoticon

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 5/15/2012 5:10PM

    You're dang skippy! That's right!

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DENISE474 5/15/2012 4:53PM

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You just said it all so brilliantly ! I would be proud to have you as a spark friend. Ive added you feel free to add me! I loved everything you said!!!

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MSLOVELY87 5/15/2012 3:53PM

    I love this!!! you completely made my day ! YOU GO GIRL!!!

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LILLILYNN 5/15/2012 3:35PM

    Truely inspiring!

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CATHERINE514 5/15/2012 3:03PM

  I LOVE your blog post NEWTINK, especially " I am not fat my body is fat". You are a wonderful inspiration and have seen past your body to your mind and soul. I needed to read this today...thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight. emoticon

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MARIANNELK 5/15/2012 2:51PM

    I really enjoyed your blog and also the comment from IZONPRIZE. What the world "thinks" it sees is usually so much less than all the parts.

Really prize the "inner" values & "outer" skills that we have in ourselves and then do the same for those we encounter. Our world could than be headed toward a richer, better place.

PS-I'm losing weight not for other's eyes but for how it makes me feel: more energy, less stress & a wardrobe that I don't have to keep replacing!

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MRSGOAT9699 5/15/2012 1:19PM

    Hear, Hear!! emoticon

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JESSU2008 5/15/2012 12:54PM

    I totally agree. That's just awesome! Thanks a million. It's such a great perspective!

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SCUNNINGHAM2002 5/15/2012 12:51PM

    I couldn't put it better!!! Right On!! emoticon

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DOTTY7267 5/15/2012 11:48AM

    This is great! We are all more than what appears to be seen.

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CIARANICOLE85 5/15/2012 11:25AM

    Wish I could think more like that. Great words of inspiration.

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IZONPRIZE 5/15/2012 11:16AM

    I LOVE your blog. I have a little book I read over and over to my 3 year old granddaughter called "WHO AM I". It is basically saying we are not what we do. Just because I do good things, does not make me a "good person". Just because I do bad things sometimes does not make me a "bad person", just because I can swim like a fish does not mean I am a fish. Who we are is not what we do or how we look. We forget that we are spirit first, soul, THEN body. This is just an "Earth Suit" that is a container of the REAL US. When we judge ANYONE (Thin or Fat or In-Between) by their Earth Suit, then we are being VERY shallow and VERY narrow-minded and are limiting who we choose to be friends with by their cover. Some of the best "books" I have ever read were very old, dusty and dog-earred. If our world would stop judging one another (and stop judging ourselves as well), by the appearance of the outer container and start really looking "inside", we just might begin to really LIVE. Thank you for sharing your heart. You are beautiful!

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BACKATITAMY 5/15/2012 10:29AM

  emoticon You go momma!!! You are also so AWESOME!!!! I love it!

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WILSON425 5/15/2012 9:38AM

    Well said!

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PSYCHOPIXI 5/15/2012 5:55AM

    Exactly what i needed to hear. Thank you :)

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THEIS58 5/15/2012 5:32AM

    You go!

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SERAPHGYRL 5/14/2012 7:46PM

    Well said indeed! Oh, I put on a good show and I tell myself I'm fabulous but, I have been dragging myself through life feeling badly about myself most of my life and, as I put on the pounds, my self esteem took a nose-dive. Lots of people are so judgemental. I found Sparks and am on my way to having a fit and healthy body. I got an extra bonus when I joined SP though. I found a whole community of beautiful people. People who teach me to love who I am. Thank you :)

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GROWNINOP 5/14/2012 12:16PM

  Wow! You said it all wonderfully!

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YULLABELLE 5/14/2012 10:00AM

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POPCORNCARLA 5/13/2012 10:18AM

  YOU GO GIRL! I absolutely agree with you 100%. I am on my weight loss journey because I want to be, my choice, not because I don't/didn't fit what society told me I should be. I was comfortable in my own skin and it made me sad that others didn't see me for who I was and not what I looked at. I have 2 beautiful grandaughters ages 2 & 6 and I hope to show them how to be happy and healthy.

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TURNINGTABLES21 5/13/2012 7:45AM

  Great perspective!

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BLUEJEAN99 5/13/2012 3:42AM

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NASFKAB 5/13/2012 2:06AM

  great TRUTH

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ALASKAN 5/12/2012 11:40PM

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**RENEE** 5/12/2012 6:13PM

    Amen!

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WORLDSERIES11 5/12/2012 4:05PM

    You go girl!!! emoticon

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TERRIJ7 5/12/2012 3:02PM

    I think you taught your son some valuable lessons right there! Hopefully, he'll chew on that for a while and be a little wiser for it!

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FARIS71 5/12/2012 1:59PM

    Preach it sister!!

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AVANDREA_ 5/12/2012 12:20PM

    Way to keep on track!! emoticon

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TERRRI 5/12/2012 11:51AM

    Great blog! Love it!

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