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Lifting My Head Up


Friday, May 11, 2012


Iíve been noticing something about myself lately. Maybe itís the same for you. I spend a huge amount of time with my head down. I sit at my desk 32 hours a week looking down at papers or my computer screen. I sit on the train 2 hours a day looking down at my book. I sit at home on my couch each night looking at my smart phone or at my computer. My perspective is so limited during these times. I feel closed in, dissatisfied, constrained. Everyone once in a while during the week, I break away. I head out for lunch or walk from the train to my office. If Iím really lucky, Iíll hop on my bike for a brief while or get together with my friends. During these times, my head is up. Iím taking in the world around me, noticing how beautiful and how ugly things and people can be. It feels great, like Iím learning and growing. The effects are both physical and emotional.

The past two years have been ridiculously hard. It was at about this time two years when my mom started feeling crappy. The doctor said she had Lyme disease and gave her antibiotics. She didnít get better. The doctor said she must have gotten Lyme disease again and gave her more drugs. And she still didnít get better. Oh, gee, I guess itís terminal cancer! So my head was down as I devoted myself to supporting my mom. After she died, I put my head down to tend to her estate. There were papers to deal with and the massive job of cleaning out her house. I thought maybe things would ease up when we sold her house 9 months after her death. Itís been harder than ever. Her house being gone means that sheís really dead. Oh, and did I mention I look at that house every day because my mom was my neighbor? So my head is down a lot of the time as I wipe my eyes and nose with an endless quantity of Kleenex. I also spend a fair amount of time looking down at the roll of fat around my waist. After two years of emotional eating and limited exercise Iíve gained about 30 pounds.

I think Iím finally ready to lift my head up. I want to live a life where having my head up is the rule and not the exception.

Step 1: I gave notice at work that Iím leaving in mid-June. Iíve never really enjoyed my job and have fantasized about quitting for a long time. And I canít afford to continue having it drag me down. Iím done. So there!

Step 2: I have retained the services of a life coach. Over the years Iíve gotten a much clearer picture of what works for me and what doesnít. I just donít know how to turn those into a satisfying vocation. Iím hoping an impartial observer can help me get there.

Step 3: I told my boyfriend Dan that we have to figure out where our relationship is going. Weíve been dating four years. So are we going to move in together or are we going to move on? I need to know so I can figure out my life. Weíre starting that discussion in earnest this weekend.

Step 4: Iím ready to take care of myself again. Not working will give me time to take care of three big things that are a drag on meómy lack of exercise, my poor food choices, and the clutter in my physical environment.

Iím not fully there yet. The grief Iím dealing with constantly tugs at me. But I think having my head up will help me deal better with it. The sun is shining right now, the lilacs are blooming and my head will be up for the rest of the day. And for many days to come.
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VALERIEMAHA 8/30/2012 9:21PM

    After reading about your big plans over with the nuns, I wandered over here into your neighborhood to scout about, looking at photos and then came upon this now three-month ago blog.

It's really a wonderful statement of awareness and purposfulness. And the cross-country trip is testimony! If you cruise through central AR, let me know! I live near Little Rock.

Blessed be!
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DMPRIDER 5/15/2012 9:43PM

    I'm glad you are ready and able to take care of yourself again, and I mean all 4 of those steps.

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CAROLISCIOUS 5/12/2012 11:08AM

    Good to hear from you, MAL...you've had some rough days. Hugs to you and kudos for putting it out there...not in a "whoa is me" fashion...but in a way that shows you are resilient and strong. I admire you.
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JESPAH 5/11/2012 12:47PM

    Man, grief can really drag down your head.

But you are strong.

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QUEENOTHEFOREST 5/11/2012 9:19AM

    Oh lordy how good it is to see you here and read these words. I have been wondering how it was going for you. You sound so full of hope and great energy. You know where to find your teammates if you are ready for that and we are so ready for you. Got fingers and toes crossed for you to keep your eyes fixed on your stars.

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