Wednesday, May 09, 2012
So my DH and I went out to eat yesterday before he begins his big diet. He wanted to go out with me since he was gone 3.5 weeks and we hadn't had "our time" in a long time. We went also and got him some Slim Fast as that is the diet he says he wants to be on..............you know the old "a shake for breakfast, a shake for lunch and a sensible dinner". He said he wants to do something easy. so I vote for that. Easy is better for me as then I don't have to be preparing two meals all the time.
Anyway after a couple of beers yesterday my DH told me that when he was up in Pennsylvania that his ex-wife, the wife he had his boys with who cheated on him many times and then finally left my DH for the service manager where my DH had purchased her a new Transam car way back when. The same wife who then married the service manager from the car dealership. They took my husband to court for additional child support even though they had shared custody. When I came on the scene, I had an attorney friend who looked into my DH case and found out that the ex and her husband were lying and cheating and not reporting all their income. So finally my husband got some relief on the big month child support he was paying. anyway there was a lot of anger between my husband and his ex. they could not stand to be in the same space at all. But after my DH and I married and one of the boys moved in full time with us in Washington State, I was able to convince my DH that he and his ex and her husband needed to make a better effort to get along for the boys sake. So when the son that was living with us was graduating High School, I called the ex-wife and invited them from Pennsylvania out to Seattle to attend the graduation and party. They accepted and came and it worked out well. I started the trend that everyone could be in the same environment and get along. So we all started to attend things together. and now that there are grandchildren it's even more important that we all make an effort to stay on friendly terms. So this time when my husband was up north for the granddaughter's birthday, I knew my husband would be in the company of his ex. This is the ex that lost that her husband one year ago. He had a bad heart and dropped dead while they were out walking one day. Anyway, back to my husband and lunch and a couple of beers in him. First of all he told me that his ex-brother-in-law, of whom my husband is still friends with said that the ex-wife has been saying negative things about me. I didn't even want to know what....don't really care. Then he told me that the ex-wife invited my husband out to her country club for dinner (along with the grandkids). Make a long story short, I think she is trying to get to me for some reason. Not sure why as I have always been nothing but nice to her. The good news is that my DH thought it would not be appropriate to go with her. He said he would not like it if I went out with another man for dinner. the whole thing just made me smile. I have never been a jealous person. Just not my nature. I figure if someone you are with would rather be with someone else......so be it! I would be hurt and would miss my DH, but I am a survivor and would go on. I trust him and feel that he loves me and I am not worried at all. I just am amazed at how some women think. I wonder what the motivation was for the invite. Oh well there I had fun writing this little soap opera.
Hope you enjoyed the "gossip".
On another note....I ate a hamburger and two beers and lost a pound. Go figure!!
Today though my DH and I are on track to eat healthy and help him shed a few pounds before we head back to Pennsylvania for the grandson's birthday. We leave on the 23rd and will be there for 3 weeks. I would love to have a few "cushion" pounds off so then I can enjoy a Phildelphia cheesesteak without guilt when I go north.
Hope all my sparks buddies are doing well.
Make it a great day.