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I need a reality check!!!

Wednesday, May 09, 2012

OK, I KNOW I am not right right now so someone please, pop me upside the head!

OK, heres the deal. I work a LOT of weekends. Just finished working 2 in a row in fact. K works M-F no questions, no nights, no weekends. OK. So I have been looking forward to "MY" weekend for what feels like FOREVER, looking up hikes that are nearby. Getting myself all geared up to GO BE ACTIVE. So last night he tells me that he has made plans for us to spend the day with his mom....and I am still angry. Thing is, I know its not right. I feel guilty about it....but also still angry. Its not that I dont like his mom, shes a wonderful lady, has helped us out a lot, shes great.....but I wanted to GO OUTSIDE. No, she wont go, it will be a dinner someplace. le sigh, even more, I am so mad, i wanna cry.
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  • LIBRA73
    Anger is a fully warranted emotion and guilt is a waste of energy! I know, easier said than done!

    I think Justme has a great idea, meet them for the meal and go outside yourself! You deserve some time off!
    2139 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I hear you. Believe me. I can't say I've been in the exact same situation, but I've been in similar ones often enough to truly feel (and fully support) your anger. Then you start feeling petty on top of it (or at least I do) and that's just makes you madder. He totally should have checked with you first knowing that it was your rare weekend off. But, it's Mother's Day weekend and she's his mom so...

    Maybe you can spend some time with them, then go for a walk by yourself and let them visit, and then return and join them for dinner?
    2140 days ago
    I agree with Ceker9.

    Don't feel guilty about being angry! Guilt is a needless emotion that we as women spend far too much time feeling, simply because we've been conditioned to do everything for everyone else and God forbid we EVER take any time for ourselves! emoticon
    2140 days ago
  • CEKER9
    Sorry, I agree with you. K should have been more considerate of you to check in and see what you wanted to do instead of planning your weekend without asking you first... especially since was your first free weekend in two weeks!

    Just remember you have two days in the weekend... request that one day is yours to be outside. On that day enjoy!!! Yes, I know that's giving up one day... but this weekend "is" Mother's Day weekend so maybe you could unbend just a little.

    Don't feel bad about being angry... I think you need to "request" firmly more consideration from K in the future.
    2140 days ago
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