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I've officially decided that I am meant to be single forever

Tuesday, May 08, 2012

And let me tell you why.

And I'd also like to note that I am not sad or depressed, angry or resentful, spiteful and negative in any way.

So, I have had my fair share of piece of sh!t boyfriends but recently I also met a guy who was the nicest guy on the planet. Great guy! Great dad, great, great, great.

Within a few weeks of entering into a relationship with this guy, I realized something.

I do not need a man to make the rest of my life happy. Hear me out.

He says I complete him.
I say I completed myself.

He says I make him happy.
I say I am the key to my own happiness.

He loves spending every free moment of his day communicating with me in some way.
I love my free time to enjoy solitude.

He would rather do anything or nothing WITH ME than alone.
I would rather cuddle up with a book and a cup of hot tea ALONE.

I spent my entire adult life with someone else.
I want to spend the rest alone.

I like friends. If I need social interaction, I'll hit up friends.
If I want to get laid (lets be real here.) Then I'll call up a "good" friend. (lol)

See where I'm going with this?

I have evolved into such a solid individual through hard work, perseverance and dedication. I love myself just the way I am. I find myself beautiful, self soothing, self sufficient and happy in solitude.


I always agree with everything I say.
I have never fought with myself.
I will never go to bed angry at myself.
If I let myself down, I only have myself to blame.
My opinion is the most important one.
I buy myself whatever I want for holidays and birthdays.
My children don't have to adjust to being with me.
I'll never have to explain where I am going, what I want to do, where I would like to travel to.... anything. I just do it.

I like me. I'm just gonna date me for a while.



I'm going to take myself out to do things I wish some douchebag would have done.
I'm going to travel to places my ex and I discussed but never went.
I'm going to pamper myself more.

Yep. I'm going to be the focus of my love life. I spent too long neglecting myself...

It's time I show myself some love!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
DENNETJ 5/8/2012 11:57PM

    Sounds like you have figured out exactly what you need for you :) I need to get to that point with myself or at least part way.

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CLAIRE_LEFT_SP 5/8/2012 4:18PM

    You still haven't found the man who is as grounded and self-aware as you are.

I'm very solitary, so one of my criteria was that my guy be solitary, too. We've learned to be solitary in the house at the same time - I'm here, he's over there and we might not say a word for hours.

In any relationship, the person should be a nice addition to a full life, not a crutch upon which to prop ourselves - and most people don't get that because they are self-aware enough.

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PAMNANGEL 5/8/2012 10:56AM

    I also am not half a person. I am a complete individual. I sometimes disagree with myself and have been known to argue with myself, but I always work it out. I like individuals, but I don't care for large groups. I've never been comfortable in crowds. Even as a kid I preferred to curl up with a good book and a cup of tea. I was a strange child.

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BEAUTIFUL_REINA 5/8/2012 10:55AM

    This is what I've been doing for the past...14? years. And I enjoyed being single a lot. But now I am wanting to start dating, find someone to love. And I'm finding it hard to break back into dating after being happily alone for so long.

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REDSHOES2011 5/8/2012 10:47AM

    Wonderful blog I can relate to! I loved your perks and I realise I thrive in my own company too. I had a wonderful husband whom passed and the sh!t boyfriends will never come near to what he was to me and my kids..
It has taken me sometime to found out- happiness is in my own hands..

I hope you write more wonderful blogs!

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