Monday, May 07, 2012
I have a very close friend who is struggling with my weightloss success. She was heavier than I, but it used to not be by much. Now it's getting close to a hundred-pound difference between us. Because of where she was emotionally, I was saying nothing to her about my weightloss, but last week she finally mentioned it and her desire to lose weight.
"The problem is," she said, "I really don't eat that much. How can I cut calories?"
I am certain that she really believes that. But when we went to Five Guys for dinner that evening, I began to see the problem:
I got a single-patty burger; she got a double-patty cheeseburger.
I drank water; she had a large milkshake.
We each split french fries with our hubbies.
Yet, if you asked her today whether she and I had eaten the same amount at that meal, I really believe she would think it was close. We each had a sandwich, a drink, and fries. Surely that's equivalent!
Yet, her meal was probably at least 700 calories more than mine.
I think this happens to everyone when they aren't tracking calories: it's easy to forget what you've eaten, underestimate how much, and ignore or justify. Over the weekend, I saw people who are frustrated with their weight nibbling on handfuls of chips--because it's just a few, right? Well, not if you do it every time you walk past the bowl!
I find it very eye-opening to watch these behaviors, because I know that they are behaviors that I fall into if I'm not paying attention. At this point, I really can't say anything to this friend as she is not ready to hear it. But it's really important to keep the possibility of calories that squeeze in through the cracks in mind.