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Putting out the trash...

Friday, May 04, 2012

So I finally tossed out an unhealthy friendship...something I should have done months ago, and I hate losing a friend, but I guess it took me till yesterday to realize we never really were friends and I don't need want or was not put here to be used, and now I know and believe I deserve better, but I also know I need to start with me first...so, today I got up worked out with my wii, and have the motivation to work out some more today...I am hating this rain though...if I can give up something I have held on so long to and put so much focus into, maybe it is time to start putting that time into me, start working on not just getting healthy but start working on developing the type of body I want, I want to be stronger in mind body and spirit, I want to start getting back into dance and martial arts to loves that have always stayed with me...so here is to today and the beginning of a long a wonderful journey :)
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STEPH-KNEE 5/4/2012 10:36AM

    I am sorry to hear that, but definitely sounds like you are so better off without them. I also commend you for realizing what you need to do and following through and looking out for yourself. A lot of people aren't strong enough to do what you did, so congrats! :D

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BBGRL112 5/4/2012 10:08AM

    Thank you both....chris as for getting out of an unhealthy friendship...well it was a guy I had been friends with (or I should say known) for over 10 years, we went to highschool together and have some mutal friends...we had both gotten out of bad relationships, and I guess kind of became a crutch for each other or turned into a friends with benefits situation... not something I am proud of...neither one of us was ready to jump in a relationship...but I did what those things of companionship of actually hanging out as friends, and for 9 months he gave me a million excuses and would get mad if I asked him for so much as a movie every once in awhile...9 months later after a lot of arguments and excuses, I got fed up and walked away, essentially I don't like being treated like a whore or a booty call, its not what I was wanting or what I deserved, and if he was a better friend he would have listened to me and cared how I felt about it...as well as if I had cared more about myself at the time I wouldn't have allowed myself to be treated in that way...it sucks letting go of someone you have known for so long, but I guess as it so happens maybe I didn't really know him that well after all...however I have had to leave other friendships that weren't healthy or for my own moral reasons...no not only because of sex, actually this is the only fob situation I have had and I wouldn't suggest it, seems like someone always sets themselves up for hurt...but not too many years ago i walked a way from a friend that I considered a sister, I was very close to her children, but she was making bad choices left and right, not providing a stable home for her children, bring random men in and out of their lives..just things I didn't agree with and a stuck around a lot longer than I would have had it not been for the children, but I just didn't agree with the things going on and I didn't feel like it was a healthy environment for me any longer...it is tough to walk away from that comfort, but it is about what is good and healthy for you, when you walk away from that comfort I try to surround myself with people and family that are good for me, reflect on my accomplishments, things that are good about me, things I want to accomplish cause you have that renewed energy to put into things that are constructive, also try to get out and not dwell on it...while it might not feel like it now it really will get better and you are better without the negative energy

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FARRAH511 5/4/2012 8:56AM

    Congratulations on getting out an unhealthy friendship, it's always difficult to take the first step, but now that you did, I'm pretty sure you'll br grateful that you did really soon.

As you said, you deserve LOT better, Have a wonderful day!

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CHRISZ40 5/4/2012 8:46AM

    I read this and so can relate,, I have had a unhealthy friendship with somone for many years,, I have had a hard time knowing what to do about it.. any advise to what helped make that happen?

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