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Story of a Boy

Thursday, May 03, 2012

For those of you wondering about the Boy who has been making me smile lately, here's the scoop:

We first connected in 2008 via eHarmony (yeah, yeah, I know). I was just one of those casual free members, when I got notification that he wanted to get to know me. So I ponied up the dough for a month to talk to him.

We had a lot in common and appreciated the characteristics that each other had, but nothing really ever came of it and it just sort of dissipated. Later that year, I sent him an email because I had gone to a concert that I knew he'd be jealous of. New Kids on the Block. And yes, I'm positive that he's straight.

I didn't get a response for about a month. In the mean time, another guy came into the picture (the AZ guy I've mentioned before). So I get the response in December. Turns out the Boy got shipped out on his second deployment (he's an ARMY Sergeant), so he was in Kuwait.

Now we've got a friendship. We were writing email novels to each other every day. I was sending care packages full of necessities and things to make him smile. You know: Magic 8 Ball, Etch-a-Sketch, Big League Chew, bubbles, random DVDs, burned CDs, the whole nine. We planned road trips to amusement parks and to visit my family in Nebraska, a list of things he'd teach me (snowboard, dirtbike, etc.). He was the one I confided in when I was being sexually harrassed at work. He was the one who got to hear about my day. He looked forward to hearing from me and vice versa. He even sent me a musical camel (yes, a musical stuffed camel) from Kuwait. I let him name her. It's completely inappropriate, but it's perfect for her. She stays in my car and keeps me company on my solo trips :)

Granted, at this point, we still hadn't met in person, LoL. When his tour was over 9 months later, it still took us 3 months to finally meet. He dragged me to see the second Twilight movie. Haha. He paid (woot woot) and we were the annoying people in the theatre making fun of the whole thing. 'Ooh, he sparkles!'

We would randomly meet up at Chipotle when we were both back home (his office was 2 hours from home, so he was only back on sporadic weekends). He got so mad when I paid for us the first time, and ever since, he lets me order first and then he jumps ahead of me in line to pay, haha. I was crazy about him, but he was just wanting a friendship. Which sucked, but at the same time was fine because I was dealing with AZ guy at the time (a situation it took me years to let go of). I think that the Boy was kind of waiting in the background.

When I would comment about moving to AZ, he would say, "boooooo". He didn't want me to leave. But he never specifically told me that he wanted me to stay. I think that if he had just said, "Stay," I would have.

So it had become a long distance friendship once again. We never did anything on the list we made. I still have a buttload of 'mad cool extra credit bonus points' for all the packages I shipped overseas that I get to cash in. I just haven't figured out how I want to spend them. It has to be something good! LoL.

Last March, he was deployed for the third time. To the front lines in Iraq as a medic. Not as cush a job as he had in Kuwait. This time I was worried. Thank God for online updates! More packages sent. He came home at the end of November, just after Thanksgiving. I can't tell you how relieved I was!

When I flew home for Christmas, I was trying to figure out flight times and rental cars and all that fun stuff. He offered to pick me up and drop me off. Excited girl :) We had time to talk and laugh and just hang out for both of those 30 minute drives.

Since my weight loss journey began this year, I have become more confident in so many ways. From my appearance to my thought process. Now, I have always had a raunchy personality, but it seems to be more prevalent right now for some reason.

I was supposed to meet up with the Boy in San Francisco during my last trip home, but he had to cancel because of work. Grrr, but I couldn't be mad. So I was bothering him via text, haha. During the car ride back to AZ, we were texting for hours. We came to an arrangement for when I'm home (read into this what you will).

I do think he's interested in me now. What's nice is that I know it isn't just because I come in a smaller size. He liked me in the very beginning. There was something about me back then that he was attracted to. So yeah, I may be 'hot' now or whatever, but I think the biggest part is that I'm more confident and not afraid to kind of go after what I want. I think he's attracted to that.

We had a conversation in his truck about the AZ guy. He told me, "You NEVER move for a boy!" Yeah, lesson learned. But now he keeps asking when I'm coming home. It's cute. Granted, he's not the reason I want to move home, but he's one hell of an incentive :)

I used to always be the one initiating conversations, but for the past week, he's been the one to start my mornings off right. It's a nice change to be the desired one. It's about time, LoL. The other day, when I was feeling blue, I texted him, saying that I could really use a hug. He made a sweet comment about hitting the road and he'd see me in 18 hours. Then he asked what was wrong. And he actually wanted a legitimate answer. That's new. And he's always reassuring me that I'll be home soon, even when I don't believe it will happen.

This may turn into something when I finally move back to California. Then again, it may not. I'm just going to roll with it. Not predicting anything. Not hoping for anything. Just letting what happens happen. And enjoying the smiles, giggles and blushing along the way...

And that's the Story of a Boy.
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MONICA_W 5/11/2012 10:24PM

    Just stumbled across this entry, after being curious about your status line! "suggesting activities"...pfff... :) Do they include sweeping you off your feet? I met my soon-to-be-husband (Eee!) on eHarmony, so "I know, I know" too - there is some magic in that science of theirs! Make a move, girlie - this Boy's a toe-curler and there's no reason to be shy!

(And "hi", emoticon thanks for blogging and letting a total stranger jump into your personal life... it's funny but i can't help it because it's exciting and you seem super nice! Best of luck with all your Spark and everything-else goals!!!)

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DAUGHTEROFTWIN 5/8/2012 4:41PM

    What a great blog! Thanks for sharing. Your story made my heart go "Thump! Thump!" The possibilities are so exciting.

emoticon Here's to living life!

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RICKYDAF 5/6/2012 5:31PM

    great blog!!!

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RUBEE22 5/5/2012 9:46PM

    Aww what a sweet story :) Move to CA already haha!

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CLOVER2 5/5/2012 3:08AM

    Wow, I have really forgotten what it is to be "in LIKE" with someone, I envy you! And no matter what happens, you have such a healthy attitude about it. It's like I told you before, you should have about a dozen guys trying to figure out how to get to the head of the line! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
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CLAIREHASGOALS 5/5/2012 2:02AM

    The friendship you've developed is a great foundation for a more intimate relationship. Love and happiness to you both.
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ZANNBEE 5/4/2012 2:49PM

    Glad you're having so much fun. He sounds really sweet.

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BACKATITAMY 5/4/2012 2:01PM

  Good luck to you both :)

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THEEASYKILL30 5/4/2012 1:42PM

    Aww, honey, there's nothing wrong about meeting someone on the internet. We live in 2012!!!! I met my husband on an internet dating site. That was almost 5 years ago now. I'm glad to hear that you are happy though. Your own happiness is the most important thing in the world. Do what you feel is right and what will make you happy.

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NIKKIV2 5/4/2012 12:49PM

    What a sweet story! I hope you find the happiness you are looking for and so deserve!

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LISALGB 5/4/2012 9:42AM

    Awww, what a sweet story!! I am so glad you shared - I'm smiling for your happiness.
I hope all works out! He sounds like a great guy!!
Can't wait to hear "the rest of the story."
Hugs!!

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TANYA602 5/4/2012 9:15AM

    Ahhhhh. I've been with my husband (and best friend) for 24 years....I forgot about how "new love" feels. This guy of yours sounds pretty sweet. Keep us posted.

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MARSCK 5/4/2012 9:04AM

    I hope the best for you guys! I too met my guy online so there are some good ones out there to meet and it looks like you have found one.

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WUMPASTAR 5/4/2012 8:36AM

    emoticon sooooo cute! And what an awesome friend! I really hope everything goes fine with you guys, if something happens, obviously. But above all I hope you're ever happy!

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RYDERB 5/4/2012 8:31AM

    That's a great story! I hope it becomes a happily "neverending" story. emoticon

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MERETONI 5/4/2012 7:29AM

    Sounds like regardless of what happens with the Boy, you have made a friend for life. He sounds great! And never worry about meeting people online. That is where I met my fiance. :)

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JOYCECAIN 5/4/2012 7:25AM

    Wonderful story. I bet everyone smiled. I'm 63 yrs. young. Take whatever you can, LIFE IS TOO SHORT to just sit back and , later on, to wish you did something. Enjoy the moment. emoticon

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TORIAMAE 5/4/2012 6:47AM

    That's a great story and I can definitely see why it's making you smile! Sounds like a great person to have in your life!

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SCBAGRL09 5/4/2012 6:13AM

    Yea! He sounds like a neat guy. Good luck!!

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LULUBELLE65 5/4/2012 4:00AM

    This is so sweet. I hope something wonderful happens for the two of you.

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ROOSTER72 5/4/2012 3:30AM

    sounds like a lovely fella - and a bit of fun too. nice!

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LUCINDARW 5/3/2012 11:52PM

    I hope it all works out for you. :Long distance relationships are hard and take allot of work. Glad he is interest finally.

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JENNNY135 5/3/2012 11:48PM

    Great blog, I wish the best for you two, sounds like you have a great guy.

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