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Introduction To The Holy Grail

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Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Loosely defined, the Holy Grail (the chalice allegedly used by Christ at the Last Supper) has been the object of quests of fanatical proportions. To search for the Holy Grail in metaphoric terms is to search for an object of such great value that one would go to the ends of the earth to find it. No cost is too high, no sacrifice is too great.

This concept parallels and defines the search embarked on by millions to rid themselves of the tyranny of obesity.

I have spent countless hours in reflection trying to get a handle on why is it that this time I have been successful versus all of the other failures and false starts. Why is it that I would self destruct, almost on cue, after losing about 20 pounds even when i was enjoying the process and felt better about myself?

I found that the answer was not found in any one nutritional method or any one particular exercise routine. The answer lies within.

In my quest, I have learned that there is not a pill, a "superfood", or a device that can be used for 10 minutes a day that can fix the problem. We get so hung up on styles, methodology, and legalistic adherence  that the real reason we are in the place we find ourselves is lost. 

Is exercise important? Is balanced nutritional intake a must? I say that neglect to do both will result in terminal failure. However, one can do this and more and still wash out. 

In the end, I firmly believe I have found what would be considered the "Holy Grail" of weight loss and wellness. The real reason I have succeeded. 

I can hear the reactions now.... "..well that works for YOU but...I'm different, special, ...(insert excuses here).." I know that that is a really bold statement to make but lets reason..

If we were really all that different then the following would have to take place..

-Doctors would have to shred their degrees because a broken bone for one, is not the same as a broken bone on another etc..
-Personal Trainers...same thing, exercise programs would be useless because of the myriad of variations for each person would make training clients a monumental task. hmmm Why do so many running training plans follow a similar, core pattern?

-Psychologists, forget it Sigmund.

-Pharmaceuticals....waste of research money.

-Food Industry.. hmmm millions spent just to ensnare just a handful into an addicted lifestyle... poor investment in my opinion. IF such a thing were true.

The truth is, everytime I hear the "well that works for you BUT...." clause, what I am really hearing is a thinly veiled cop out resulting from a knee jerk reaction when one is confronted with an uncomfortable truth.

The bottom line is that we share enough things in common in their FUNDAMENTAL form that some truths can be applied across the board.

Fortunately, none of these truths that i have found are harsh or unrealistic but I strongly believe they are absolutes. In a world of loose and shifting values, the concept of absolute truth is met with resistance.

They are (as described yesterday, but for the record)
1) Drying out - recovering from food addiction
2) Re-programming the brains reward center.
3) Mastering the ability to choose ones response in the face of powerful stimuli
4) Emotional stability and balance

These are foundational values. Like legs of a table, if any one concept is missing, the platform that supports your journey will become unstable and collapse.

Over the next few weeks, i will be detailing each of the following concepts over multiple blogs. I will try to be concise but to fully develop the thought and concept to its proper depth will take multiple blogs over time. I will not confuse the continuity of these blogs with interruptions with blogs of an unrelated nature, they are that least to me.

In short, they will not be a glancing read but i feel they are important. The point of the following blogs is to give hope. To give structure and a core reference point that can be adapted to any lifestyle.

It would be a sin for someone, who figured out the secret of getting cancer to go into remission, to keep it to themselves. So it is with finding the foundation for losing a substantial amount of weight AND keeping it off.

A socially responsible person would make it their duty to help as many as possible with the knowledge they have even if it is not complete. If you find a path through the wilderness, even if it is nothing more than a goat trail, please share it.

With love,


Next in series - Emotional balance part 1 - journey to the center of the problem

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JOANNHUNT 2/5/2013 10:30AM

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  I like you writi g style, and the image of the table is a good one that I will use! Thank you!

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ALIDOSHA 10/17/2012 6:52PM


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LAURIE5658 6/22/2012 8:57AM

    Since I am home for the next week with our grandchildren (yay!) I now have a chance to read this series. So far, I love it! You are a gifted write, my friend.

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NIGHTOCUPS 6/19/2012 11:08AM

    Thank you for sharing. I'm looking forward to reading more of your posts on this subject.

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NINNY165 6/18/2012 5:56PM


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PATTISLIM2 6/9/2012 2:13PM

    May I please follow your blogs? I believe you have found the path that we all seek!

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DASEEMAN 6/8/2012 12:33PM

    Thank you again. I am going to be following you closely for motivation. I am one of those that can find those flimsy excuses. Not anymore. Thank you!!!

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GAILITCH 6/5/2012 12:58PM

    Thank you: I am in awe.

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RELLINGS 6/5/2012 6:06AM

    I like this blog

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RELLINGS 6/5/2012 5:59AM

    Mastering the response to strong stimuli is a very interesting phrase.

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NIMAWEYGH 6/1/2012 8:09PM

    Gr8 and yep the truth is hard to swollow when your trying to eat it with a twinkie stuck in your mouth. Way to go! NO excuses!!

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ZENSTEPH 5/29/2012 3:06PM

    thank you. I seem stuck at 5lbs-keep losing/gaining/losing same 5lbs. I am grateful for this series of blogs

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TRAVELNISTA 5/28/2012 3:55PM

    emoticon blog and I love the analogy!

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GOOSIEMOON 5/28/2012 9:29AM

    Excellent - Solid thoughts, well-expressed.

Thanks for sharing!

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IRISHAM1 5/26/2012 11:28AM

  Great, delighted to find this and reading now from the beginning :)

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IMANADJECTIVE 5/26/2012 10:20AM

    Yep, I knew my weekend would be great!!! brother John whom I call Rev.Payne found the Grail just like you and he encourages me everyday!!! I need extra care though...My soul has been in excuse pattern for so long that it is going to take a lot of movement to bring down my soul!!!

Ha....There's more to excuses though....I will move, eat well and drink lots of water today!!!

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GIHUTSON 5/26/2012 7:29AM

    LOVE IT....reading all of them!

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URSULA125 5/22/2012 5:28PM

    I appreciate your sense of responsibility! Thank you!

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IMIN2GENES 5/21/2012 10:21AM

    Looking forward to your insights in these future blogs... rock on Robert! Keep inspiring us to greatness!

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SAPUTO 5/20/2012 12:35PM

  I woke up feeling today was going to bring many blessings to me. Your thoughts are counted as the most beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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GOLFLADY11 5/19/2012 6:51PM

    Looking forward to the next instalments ......

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    You are a very wise man - I'm in awe of your blogs (it's all I've been living and working towards - but you put it in words so eloquently and I'm very thrilled to spread the Spark on this one by sharing with all the teams that I lead).

Congrats on all that you have accomplished, all that you do and all that you are! You are emoticon

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ALDEBARANIAN 5/17/2012 6:00PM

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HAPINANA 5/17/2012 5:20PM

    EXCELLENT!! emoticon "hungry for more" emoticon

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TXHRT4U 5/17/2012 2:10PM

    AMEN!!! emoticon blog! I look forward to the blogs ahead.

Have a blessed day!

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LUCINDARW 5/9/2012 8:35PM

    I enjoy your informative message. Look forward to the rest of the series. Lucinda

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THERESASE11 5/7/2012 1:07PM

  I also am looking for the Holy Grail. I felt I had found it the first 7 years I spent with my husband, then lost or for got once family came along. Want it back.

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LMPEATROWSKY 5/6/2012 11:56PM


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PATTYV77 5/6/2012 8:58AM

    I have done this same thing many times. Look forward to reading more!

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SERASARA 5/5/2012 10:19PM


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MISSLISA1973 5/5/2012 9:36PM

    You are a fabulous human being.

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SBNORMAL 5/5/2012 8:42PM

  I am subscribing, because I have had several good loss,but then went back up. Since during spark I have learned that I have to change my exercise every so often to keep my muscle and metabolism going.

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BECCA315 5/5/2012 4:31PM

    Sign me up for future wisdom...

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SWTHNY- 5/5/2012 12:33PM

    I am also looking forward to following your blogs thanks for taking the time to do them.

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TALVARADO6 5/5/2012 10:50AM

    I'm looking forward to reading your following blogs. I do the same thing, I start out to lose weight and after 10 pounds I just feel like giving up, even if I'm doing pretty well. I'm interested to see what you have to say about it.

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MYTURN11 5/5/2012 10:25AM

    Thank you, looking forward to your blogs. emoticon

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CAROLZ1967 5/5/2012 10:24AM

    I look forward to reading your thoughts. I feel strongly about this topic as well....why some people can "want to lose weight" and then set out and make it work while others say the same thing: "I want to lose weight" but fail time after time. I think the main reason we have such different results has to do with our brains, how we think, how we behave, if we take personal responsibility for our actions or always blame others, etc. do we make it a priority, a REAL priority or find excuses to not follow through? For true, long-term success, I think we need not only the healthy lifestyle (eating & exercising) to be there BUT the right mentality & outlook as well.
Lately I've been reading several blogs on this topic and have been relieved to see people being open & honest. That is how we can help each other, especially those who continue to struggle with weight loss and healthy living.

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WENDENANNIE 5/5/2012 9:24AM

    Amen my friend....looking forward to future blogs....I think you hit the nail on the head!

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IMEMINE1 5/5/2012 7:15AM


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SHIRE33 5/5/2012 6:06AM

    I'll look forward to them. For me, it's been about consistency. Success on small levels has given me strength to tough out the times when I've been tempted to eat more or slack off exercise. I like your categories. Persistence = progress.

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LUCKEGIRL40 5/5/2012 12:54AM

    I agree! Thank you for sharing. I'll look forward to reading your additional blogs on this topic

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CHATTIEGIRL 5/4/2012 10:58PM


We have our own way of loosing weight and what works for me may not work for you. All I know I have always eaten healthy and been very active so I continue to that with God's help along the way. Keep doing what you are doing and helping other people. Knowledge is the best thing to obtain in life and when more people are giving it to us the more the better. God bless you always.

Smile Joyce

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DUXGRL1 5/4/2012 8:57PM

    I do think that it can take a long time to figure out what will work for you on a long-term basis, and it can be a combination of many different elements. Good blog!

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MOTIV8TEDMOM23 5/4/2012 4:37PM

    Looking forward to your next blogs! I've been mulling this topic over for a blog of my own for weeks now, but haven't yet gotten to it. Thanks for sharing your insights!

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MAMA_CD 5/4/2012 4:37PM

    Thanks for sharing

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LMULLINS4LIFE 5/4/2012 4:13PM

    Can't wait to read them!

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CATBECKY 5/4/2012 3:35PM

    I for one am looking forward to your future blogs!

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CATBECKY 5/4/2012 3:34PM

    I for one am looking forward to your future blogs!

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