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Monday, April 30, 2012

Just a short note about what I have been up to. I have been giving alot of thought to my weight loss journey and what has made this time different form all of the other false starts. I am not ready to publish them as of yet. I want to make sure that my thoughts are well documented, compiled, and easy to read. I really feel that everything I have done flowed from these 4 principles and anytime i got back on track if I fell on my face was because I re-rooted myself in these principles.

I think it is a waste of time to labor over the details of what I did IE... I ate such and such every day, did this XXX fitness routine 30 min a day for a month, yada yada yada... Those are just the externals. Externals are driven from within. It is the internal environment and the filter through which I view my weightloss journey that determines my ultimate success or failure.

This will take some time but to give a basic outline of my train of thought that I will expound upon later, in reviewing my journals and recalling my personal history over the 4+ years i have been doing this, my successes or lack thereof boil down to 4 principles.

1) The need to "dry out" in relation to food addiction.
2) Reprogramming my brains reward center
3) Mastering (or trying to) "response-ability" or exercising my ability to choose my response.
4) Striving for emotional stability

Most of the skills mentioned above are based on a "mission statement" philosophy. As a human being, I have found it difficult, if not impossible, to legislate a rigid, legalistic program or diet plan.

It is far easier and more effective to be guided by core values that have been assimilated over time as bad habits are shed and healthier habits have taken their place.

I am far from done from compiling all of my information. It also needs to be condensed into something that can be easily read.

The goal is not to dictate but rather to share information and to generate some ideas that could be modified to fit someone else's situation. My situation is certainly not representative of all or even most, but, as people in general, we share alot of common scenarios and feelings. It would be logical then to write the narrative in such a way that the reader can place themselves in the same scenario, mentally compare it to a similar situation and hopefully an A HA moment is generated that will help.

I hope I am successful.
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PAISLEYQUEEN 5/26/2012 9:27AM

    I am starting the get healthy journey - again - and that has had me thinking about why I have trouble making a lifestyle change. I am excited to find your blog, I too am not good a rigid rules, so a mission statement sounds great. I look forward to reading the rest of this series.

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MISSLISA1973 5/6/2012 12:53AM

    You are emoticon

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DUXGRL1 5/4/2012 8:55PM

    I think about this too. This is the longest time in my 40+ year dieting career that I have been able to lose, maintain the loss, keep losing, and maintain a consistent exercise program. Looking forward to your thoughts!

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BEATLETOT 5/3/2012 3:44PM

    Love all the 7 Habits references! I'm working my way through those as well!

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JULESRULES78 5/3/2012 8:39AM

    I love this blog and it's wonderful insight. Thank you for sharing.

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SERASARA 5/2/2012 11:41PM

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CLPURNELL 5/2/2012 6:35PM

    You will definitely be successful!!!

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CM_GARDNER78 5/2/2012 12:45AM

    YES! I can't wait to see it when you're done! :-) I need to be able to place myself in the story - so I think you're on the right track. It's a practical way for people to understand.

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NIGHTSKYSTAR 5/1/2012 8:43PM

    great blog Robert!

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JUSGETTENBY42 5/1/2012 6:37PM

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THINNYGINNY 5/1/2012 6:19PM

    I have been doing something similar - wondering what it is about this time that is different - in the past I have stuck to a plan for a month or two - all the while cheating on it and hiding my eating, even from myself. But I have been going strong since beginning in december with exercise alone and then easing into nutritional changes. have lost weight - yay - but I am more pleased that I FEEL different - more alert, more in the moment - more like ME. I have fallen into a kind of detox - no sugar or flour - no soda - no junk food. I am eating clean for the first time: protein, veggies, fruits, whole grains and so much water!!! I think you are on the right track about the brain reward centers - they must get a huge hit when we eat cheetos or ice cream or other processed foods... It is gonna take a long time for me to fully recover and make my new habits stick - but for now I can't imagine going back!

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LARSEN_84 5/1/2012 4:50PM

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MARGARITTM 5/1/2012 4:45PM

    Looking forward to it:

Sounds like you are going to shed some new information on us and maybe a new way to think about wieght loss.

HMMM

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BIRDLSLAURIE 5/1/2012 4:03PM

    Yes! I just had an A-Ha moment. Thank you.

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MARITIMER3 5/1/2012 3:58PM

    Great blog - thank you!

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123ELAINE456 5/1/2012 3:34PM

  Awesome Blog As Usual. Well presented. You can do it. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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SALLY_MANDER 5/1/2012 3:00PM

    You always have interesting and thought-provoking things to say Robert; I'm looking forward to reading your weight-loss and lifestyle revelations. Take care.

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POLSKARENIA 5/1/2012 1:55PM

    An interesting approach, well presented!

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FARIS71 5/1/2012 12:56PM

    I look forward to it! I love it when people share a struggle or victory and I gain an A HA moment from it.

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MOMMY445 5/1/2012 12:55PM

    what a great blog! thanks for sharing! have a terrific day!

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LEANNIE84 5/1/2012 11:18AM

    Loved your blog!

If you can help just one person have their A-HA moment (I love Oprah) then all your efforts are rewarded.

Good luck on your journey - we are all rooting for you! emoticon

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TYLYNN61 5/1/2012 2:15AM

    You make alot of sense to me. I can not wait to read more of your blogs. Thank You.

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SPARTANGIRLIE1 5/1/2012 1:15AM

    Awesome blog Robert... I really loved your Responce-ablitiy principal so true and such an awesome thought!

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RUDITUDI2000 5/1/2012 12:51AM

    Such a worthwhile process. Definately more about personal growth than calories. Not easy, but if we want to keep moving forward we must face things and overcome! emoticon

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GINA180847 4/30/2012 9:55PM

    I like what you are planning and am looking forward to reading the final written statement.

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OPTIMIST1948 4/30/2012 9:28PM

    I like this post because it speaks to more than just your own journey, but helps those who are still struggling to find direction. Good luck putting the finishing touches - but I know it will be awesome.

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 4/30/2012 7:49PM

    I can't wait to read it! I know you'll be a success, because you want this so badly.

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MAUREENGRACE1 4/30/2012 6:09PM

    Hi Robert I always enjoy your blogs they make me think! I know you will be successful in whatever you do - look at what you have already achieved. 'Keep going we need you' to show us the way. Maureen emoticon

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MRSDAVIS09 4/30/2012 6:00PM

    You are very wise, and I appreciate your willingness to share what you have been learning along the way on this journey that so many of us have in common. I look forward to reading your post when you finish it. Your 4 principles definitely make sense to me, and I can see how focusing on those will help me as I ride this roller coaster of learning how to change my life, especially the "drying out."

Food addiction is what keeps tripping me up, but I know I am learning how to overcome it because the amount of time between my lapses is growing and the amount of time from start to finish of each lapse is shrinking.

Thanks so much for sharing!

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KMSIMMONS1 4/30/2012 3:43PM

  Looking forward to what you have to say - it's always worth the wait! Keep on keeping on - we're all in this together.

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EVER-HOPEFUL 4/30/2012 2:42PM

    sorry too tired to take it in today have to come back to reread it another day.thanks for sharing though.

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MIMOTOGO 4/30/2012 2:21PM

    Nice job. It's so true, it has to be core values or principals that we live by. It makes life so much more manageable than the hard and ridged rules. Thank you for helping us with our own journey. You seem to inspire the desire to give it our all. That is special. Keep on doing what works for you, it's all we can do for ourselves.
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MICHELLE_391 4/30/2012 1:47PM

    Thank you! I'm looking forward to reading the compilation of your thoughts!

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BLACKROSE_222 4/30/2012 1:32PM

    What awesome principals. Thanks for sharing, and look forward to following along!

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SUNNYSIDEUPMARY 4/30/2012 1:31PM

    Robert - I am eagerly looking forward to what you will be sharing. I can do the exercise - even lots of it or sort-of-big feats. I am a vegetarian and eat generally healthy foods. But how I use food, and finding alternative ways to cope are my biggest challenges. TFS!

- Mary

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KITHKINCAID 4/30/2012 1:01PM

    Look forward to reading it!

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LILPAT3 4/30/2012 12:56PM

    Awesome!

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KDYLOSE 4/30/2012 12:41PM

    Sign me up for a copy of your book!

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MIQUEY73 4/30/2012 12:27PM

    Looking forward to reading it!

Have you ever thought about writing a book? I bet it would be very insightful.

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KISHYMARIE 4/30/2012 12:10PM

    I can't wait to read it either. You are so motivating and insightful anyway, it's going to be wonderful...!!

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JACKIEANN1968 4/30/2012 12:07PM

    Those 4 principles really hit home for me. I have only been with Spark for 6 weeks, but for the last 3 weeks I have been trying to articulate some positive changes taking place within me. I have been trying to explain it to my husband but never having experienced the struggles with obesity & comforting with food, he doesn't get what I have been trying to explain. I feel like my whole inner self is lighter because I am letting go of so much "baggage". My whole attitude has transformed. My enthusiasm & positive feelings are bursting out of me. When I try to express it, it is like everything is just bubbling up with joy. My husband tends to be very pessimistic & negative so my joy tends to overwhelm him. I am so looking forward to your full compilation. Thank you for being so inspirational and for sharing your journey. It is people like you who are helping me so much by giving your support.

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LRSILVER 4/30/2012 12:06PM

    Now with a plan you will succeed.

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LIGHTNINGRUNNER 4/30/2012 11:55AM

    I know you will be a success - if for no other reason - you have a plan...flexible yet structured enough.

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CHANGINGSAM 4/30/2012 11:44AM

    I can't wait to read it!

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SARAWALKS 4/30/2012 11:43AM

    Those four principles make a LOT of sense to me. I too cannot manage a rigid legalistic plan or even a firm set of goals. There has to be elasticity in the approach in order for it to work for me (no pun intended!).
I think I am just beginning to be able to live by these 4 principles after nearly 2 years on Spark. Thanks for articulating them!
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LIV2RIDE 4/30/2012 11:39AM

    It is much easier to list all of the external things you have done to get where you are (exercise, diet etc). But to list all of the internal changes is much more complicated. It's amazing the transformation on the internal person. Good luck with your writing. I'm sure it will be an interesting and informative read.

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RUNNERRACHEL 4/30/2012 11:35AM

    What a emoticon blog!

You're right--it's not about the externals, exactly what worked for you isn't the most important thing. And it's not a legalistic thing, either.

emoticon ideas and look forward to the rest of your philosophy.

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