Sunday, April 29, 2012
Struggling to stay focused this weekend and just maintain. We have had a very sad event this weekend. Yesterday morning, my DH went to check on his father who has lived with us since 1993 and found that he had passed away, peacefully in his sleep. Although his health had not been well for the past year; he had a weak heart and had been slowing down a lot and in some pain for the past couple of weeks; it was still a shock. DH had taken him to the vascular Dr. just last week and he was advised that there were no blockages and his blood was moving freely through his veins. He looked peaceful, as though his heart had just stopped beating, there was no sign of struggle.
So, yesterday was spent notifying family and meeting with the funeral director. Today, will be making arrangements with the restaurant for after the funeral and I'm sure making more calls. My oldest DS was quick to remind us all that we need to eat through this process, even if we may not want to. He has been great trying to keep everyone focusing on good memories of Grampa and take care of everyone. Pretty amazing for a 17 - almost 18 year old.
My youngest ds, at 13 has probably taken it the hardest. He unfortunately found out when he came out of his bedroom yesterday morning and overheard me telling dh's aunt. He was extremely close to his Grandfather and just collapsed in tears.
My dd, at 14 is quietly dealing with her emotions - helping to find pictures with Grampa for the DVD at the funeral home and sharing her own memories. She chose not to participate in her opening day softball game. Grampa used to drive her to practice and games all the time. It's hard for her, thinking of that.
My Father-in-Law was such a special man. He never said a lot, but his love for his family ran deep. He loved his sons, his grandchildren. He was a simple man, a farmer at heart, raising chickens, caring for the cats and dogs. Spending time with his brothers and sister that were all nearby was important to him and he was always there to lend a hand to family, friend or neighbor. He loved the outdoors, hunting and fishing. He and his brothers built this home we live in, so his memory will always be with us and his spirit will surround us. He will be greatly missed by all of us.
I will be doing the bare minimum of sparking for a few days here while we work through this time of mourning.