Saturday, April 28, 2012
This week has been extremely stressful.
There was major drama at work regarding a new employee I had trained. It started last week when I let my frustration show that she wasn't doing as I expected. It was a minute head shake but she saw it. This led to her calling me out on it in front of 4 other coworkers and reception area patients (which is completely inappropriate). Since the incident, she has gone to my manager and told her that I was bossy, condescending and I let my lead position go to my head. . . yada yada. She has even bad mouthed me to a doctor I am really close with. Of course, all of this is getting back to me because I have worked with my company for 2 years and everyone knows that I'm really not the things she says I am.
We finally had a sit down meeting on Wednesday with our manager to discuss everything and clear the air. The conclusion is that she didn't feel very supported in her training and she realizes that it's not my fault because of all the extra duties I have to do now and during the time of her training. I also did not feel supported in training her because we were short 2 or 3 people and the office was super busy. Ok, then. She also was unclear about some of the specifics on doing things. Why her concerns warranted her spreading these tidbits about me, only she knows. I am a person who despises drama and people who spread it. If she thrives on drama then she will not last very long. We'll see what happens on next weeks episode of "Dental Office Dramatics!!"
The second thing, on Thursday I found out my sister in law is leaving her boyfriend whom she has two kids with. One is 2 and one is 4 months. She also has a 10 year old whose dad committed suicide last October. She is definitely alone in this with 3 kids. That being said, I haven't had any contact with her in over 3 years because of said boyfriend. A little back story: Her and I have been friends and have known each other for 21 years. She is a very strong minded person and is going to do what she wants. There were things said and such and we have been on the outs since. The boyfriend is bad news. He is very manipulative and mean. She is finally realizing this and wants to get out. My husband says she may call me and try to patch things up. I don't know if this is because she wants to or she realizes that we are the only ones who can help. Either way, I don't feel like it will be sincere because of the timing. I feel kind of on edge about the whole thing. I want the best for her and the kids but I don't want a relationship with her. She always find's a way to blame me for parts of her life and I feel like she is going to do this again at some point. I'm not sure what to do if she calls me. I guess I'll hear her out and say what I need to say.
Anyway, the point of my rambles is: with all the added stress this week, I have not turned to food. I have not went over board and binged on everything I could get my hands on. I've stayed within my calorie range everyday this week. Before sparkpeople, I would have stuffed my feelings down with food. I love that in the past year I have somehow learned to cope without binging. It wasn't something I was actively seeking to learn but just came about with all the other knowledge I have gained through out the past year. Thank you SP!