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Do you have trouble with positive comments? .....I do…

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Do you have trouble with positive comments? I do…

I find myself feeling strange when people say nice things about my weight. I know I should be happy running around telling everyone I lost 100 pounds. (I thought I would enjoy the positive comments much more than I have)

Since I have quite a few pounds to go I feel like I would be lying if I love the positive comments.

Don’t get me wrong I appreciate all the kind people that have supported me and made such wonderful comments about my weight loss. I just have a hard time dealing with all the positive attention. I was shy and less vocal, I got real used to hiding in the background and trying not to be noticed. Now as I have shrunk so much, it is hard to be invisible. More people notice me even people I do not know very well make such nice comments.

I thought I would share my feelings on positive comments in case others have similar experiences. We need to learn to embrace the positive comments and stop dwelling on the negative ones. I have trouble even knowing what to say when people compliment me. For the time being I say, “Thank you very much”.

When someone says something nice to you don’t be negative, don’t feel bad. Be happy you are looking good and people are noticing. Make sure you give yourself praise too! You may have a long road ahead but you are working toward that goal and that is good!

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    I think people are trying to be nice and encouraging when they compliment, but sometimes it makes me wonder... what were they thinking about me before??? haha
    1684 days ago
    Thanks for sharing this!! I am also bad with compliments. And it's not just ones related to my weight or appearance. It's all of them.

    Thanks for reminding me that I should accept them with grace not judgment.


    1687 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I also am uncomfortable with all of the comments I get for losing weight..I can handle the compliments, but I also get tired being the focus of attention. I just want people to accept me for the weight that I am as normal..It will take time.
    1688 days ago
    I am bad about positive comments. I tend to deflect them or turn them around or what not. I've been working on this for a while. IDK why I do it. The whole situation feels to akward for me. I always have felt like there is a motive to the niceness and I think that came with some of the things I was raised with.
    1689 days ago
    Thanks everyone!

    I do say thank you when people make the comments. I just feel very uncomfortable when people make them.

    I ams ure I will get used to them though.
    1689 days ago
    I am just getting started but I feel this way. I don't like compliments about myself at all. I havent gotten weight loss comments (yet I hope) but I do have self esteem problems and reading your blog makes me feel less alone. Congratulations on your success! I hope to be there some day.

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    1689 days ago
    Always pays to be grateful, even if we feel we aren't "there yet. I use compliments as proof that I should keep on keeping on with the good work. emoticon
    1690 days ago
  • JANDK156
    I had this problem when I was young, before getting heavy, and someone kind just told me I had to stop saying, "No, I'm not [looking good, playing flute well, whatever]" and just simply say, "Thank you." Done that ever since.
    1690 days ago
    We should all learn to be a little more positive. We'll get there it will just take a little bit of time.
    1690 days ago
  • MOM23ES
    I would actually love it if no one would notice! If they say boy you are shrinking I just say Yeah, I am working on it or if it is a looking good comment I just say thank you. BUT where the problem comes in is in my whacky head! I hear the comment and then KNOW that person now knows I am losing weight and it just makes me feel more pressure to succeed. In other words all these "noticing" people will now know if I fail. It is starting to bother me less and less and I imagine I would have a whole other complex if no one was noticing. emoticon
    1690 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/25/2012 1:10:33 PM
  • BARBIE1967
    Oh, ((Karen)), big hugs. I thought I was the only one having this issue. I was so used to being invisible and all of these comments mean that people have been paying attention not just now but when I was heavy too. It also bothers me now that I have hit my goal weight because as Paula Dean said in Prevention magazine, it is easier to lose weight but it takes a Real woman to keep it off. The maintenance scares me. We love you for more than what you weigh. You are a wonderful, intelligent, strong and capable woman.
    1690 days ago
    1690 days ago
    It was REALLY hard for me. Being so big, of course, I never compliments except from my husband. Then I lost a bunch of weight and everyone was saying how great I looked, blah,blah, blah. It was really hard getting all that attention, but now I say thank you and hope they move on, lol! It's still a little uncomfortable, but I'm better with it.
    1690 days ago
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