Sunday, April 22, 2012
Over the last few months, I've learned something valuable in my dealings with my friends and family and my new healthy lifestyle.
There is a difference in mentality about the words "Can't" and "Don't".
I can't eat that... says that you want to but are not allowed.
I don't eat that... says that you have the ability to eat it, but choose not to.
It's a subtle difference, but people pick up on it.
"I can't have a slice of cake" is always met with the hostess insisting that you need to treat yourself. Or your mind insisting that you could have just one piece and work out harder tomorrow.
"No thank you. It looks delicious, but I don't want a piece" is met with acceptance. And because you have already "made up your mind" you don't end up second guessing yourself.
Don't is assertive
Can't is passive
Don't is a choice
Can't is a fate
Don't gives you the power
Can't gives the power to someone else.
We can eliminate the idea that we can't have something because we, "are on a diet". Let's think rather that we choose not to have something because we don't eat sugar/go over points/overeat/binge/eat crap.
*Side note: there is also a can't that gives you power. It's the can't that says "I can't eat that- I am vegetarian/gluten free/vegan (insert other lifestyle choice). This can't is a "Don't" in disguise.
Let's take back our power!