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Can't versus Don't (aka take back your power!)

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Over the last few months, I've learned something valuable in my dealings with my friends and family and my new healthy lifestyle.

There is a difference in mentality about the words "Can't" and "Don't".

I can't eat that... says that you want to but are not allowed.
I don't eat that... says that you have the ability to eat it, but choose not to.

It's a subtle difference, but people pick up on it.

"I can't have a slice of cake" is always met with the hostess insisting that you need to treat yourself. Or your mind insisting that you could have just one piece and work out harder tomorrow.


"No thank you. It looks delicious, but I don't want a piece" is met with acceptance. And because you have already "made up your mind" you don't end up second guessing yourself.

Don't is assertive
Can't is passive
Don't is a choice
Can't is a fate
Don't gives you the power
Can't gives the power to someone else.

We can eliminate the idea that we can't have something because we, "are on a diet". Let's think rather that we choose not to have something because we don't eat sugar/go over points/overeat/binge/eat crap.

*Side note: there is also a can't that gives you power. It's the can't that says "I can't eat that- I am vegetarian/gluten free/vegan (insert other lifestyle choice). This can't is a "Don't" in disguise.

Let's take back our power!

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    well said! emoticon

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EVER-HOPEFUL 4/23/2012 3:16AM

    really love this blog love and i can see you have really put some thought into it.we were brought up with the saying there is no such thing as canīt so it is something that is not often used in my volcabuary any way.thanks for sharing.i am going to post a link to this blog on the fitgirls thread.take care and keep smiling. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HEATHERHUNTER 4/23/2012 12:01AM

    greatest blog ever!

I'm so glad I read this because it came at a perfect time.

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CONDA86 4/22/2012 4:47PM

    You said it perfect!!

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    I love this! Such a great point, and so well written :-)

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