I do not believe in "abstinence".
I know it works for some people,but to me it just seemed not quite right.
If that's all it took for me not to binge, I would've been binge free a long time ago,cause I had been "abstinent" from sugar for a year and a half.
And back then,I had self-control. If my sponsor said "no sugar"- no sugar would pass these lips of mine under any form
But ,sadly,it does not work that way.
The binging monster was still there,waiting to pounce.
It is there now,but I think I have a little more control over it.
Now,I do not try to shove him under the carpet.
I bring him to the light right away and I'm honest about him.
Monsters do not do to well in the light-they seam to disintegrate.
And I do not "feel" bad about having him inside of me anymore.
When he comes out , he's telling me there is something in my life that I need to look at and deal with.
Then, not liking the light, he retreats.
And I have a reprieve once again.
Some times he wins the battle but he hasn't won the war.
I don't need more books, articles,counseling,seances.
I just need to deal with what is in my life as it happens,as it is right there.
My tendency to ignore what I don't like in my life is not really working for me right now. So as Dr. Phil would say-what can I do to change it? is what I need to do.
I have lost 25 lbs without weighing or measuring my food except on rare occasions when I want to "see" what a portion looks like.
After all these years, I know what to eat and not eat.
I know what is healthy and not healthy.
I just need to put it in practice for the rest of my life!
And do lots of ZUMBA!
Have a great day!