At the weekend the in laws came out and took little man out for a bit and me and the Hubbie went to the cinema....
(or should I say I dragged the Hubbie) to see Titanic in 3D....
I was so super excited as it is one of my most favourite movies of all time. We got our popcorn and went into the big screen and all of a sudden I found myself transported back to my 16th birthday when I last saw Titanic in the cinema, It was as though I was transported to an alternate universe I was a 16 year old girl peering into the future, instead of sitting with my friends I was with my husband, instead of dreaming of first kisses I was married with a gorgeous little boy... and it got me thinking if I could talk to 16 year old me what would I tell her.
I guess My letter would go something like this....
Right about now the world revolves around friends, boys, music, fluffy pens and pretty much anything pink and glittery! Believe it or not, time passes, quicker than you will ever imagine and one day you will be all grown up, even the grand old age of 30...ancient huh?? Your current motto is "No Regrets" and what a great one it is...hold it in your heart and dont let it filter to the back of your mind. Its a great way to live so keep it up!
Put your head down and study, rather than procrastinate over studying, buying colourful pens, making pretty time tables and drawing lines under words in books to make it look like u did something...just do it!! Every teacher you ever had said you had amazing potential if only you would stop daydreaming and focus...and you know what they were right!
Rebel a little, you don't have to be perfect all the time!! Dye your hair, date a boy, stay out late...LIVE!
Say yes more! Travel, go away with friends, go out dancing in clubs you've never been to before. You will be old and not have the freedom or the inclination to go out dancing every night with your friends...as mum says you will be a long time dead!
Be kind to ur mum...she can be difficult but so can u...her heart is always in the right place. Hug your dad more, he may seem tough on the outside but inside he is a total softie who loves you to bits!
Appreciate your friends...some will stay...some will go...embrace the ones who stay and don't beat yourself up over the ones who walk away from you...it's their loss not yours.
Remember anyone who is mean to you is jealous...perhaps they can't afford some of the nice things you have, maybe they don't have a loving family, maybe they think you are more secure, more confident and more beautiful than they will ever be...and if its a boy giving you grief he probably has a crush on you...Let it roll of your back, like water off a duck.
Don't put up with any crap from men, if he loved you he would treat you better. Have self worth and get out of relationships at the first sign of trouble....Its not called failing, its called moving on. Your heart is like a parking space, if another wreck of a car is parked there you will never get a Porsche or another spandangly car, bring the wreck to the junk yard and let all the nice ones come in.
Food is not your friend, your crutch or your hobby...nor is it your enemy!! It is fuel for your body to run just like petrol for a car. Don't let it control you. You don't need to diet as you are a perfect weight. Don't start with the bulimia thing, u think its a way to eat what u want and still look great...no...bad idea, it will make u miserable...and fat!! Yeah i bet u didn't see that one coming!! You are perfect as u are honey....don't let food take over.
Keep up with the exercise, you can swim like a dolphin! Its a great way to stay in shape, at times you may forget all about it but you really love it...You have a fabulous stomach right now, lets try and keep it that way!
Want me to let you in on a little secret??
I probably shouldn't but hey your brain is all full up with my advice of what to and what not to do that I'm going to tell you anyway...guess what??
You live happily ever after...you go through a rough time but you come out a million times better for it...You get that Porsche metaphor man of your dreams who loves you for who you are!! You have a beautiful baby boy and you have the most wonderful wedding day!
See how happy you are!! And right now you have never been happier!!
So live life...enjoy growing up, enjoy making mistakes and messing up...because it will all be ok in the end!
30 year old Trish
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