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The Thorn Beneath The Rose

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Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Our oldest daughter called last night and would I give her a ride to work today? As we drove she asked if I minded stopping at McDonalds. “Its tax relief day and sausage biscuits are only fifty nine cents!!!” I looked over at her for a moment and responded; “…..And about four hundred thirty calories.” She smiled. “Yeah but dad they are only fifty nine cents!!!” There is a line in one of my favorite movies, O Brother Where Art Thou that says “It’s a fool who looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.” My daughter’s intentions were pure and good. I gave her a ride to work; she was going to buy me breakfast, her way of thanking me. It would have been really easy to accept her logic and later today when I tallied my calories use her as a convenient foil. I mean isn’t making her sure her feelings aren’t hurt much more important than the nutritional value of my breakfast? I am not sure where we draw the line in the sand. I quit smoking seven years ago this week. I promised myself I wouldn’t be “one of those people,” and I’m not. If my health is as important as I claim, then there has to come a point in time where I truly believe I deserve the success that waits around the bend for me because I’m worth the effort I put into myself. Couched in all that sweetness, like a thorn next to a beautiful rose, is the nasty realization that I have to be accountable for my actions. You can love me half to death but in the long run I choose what goes in my mouth.

If this were easy ANYONE could do it. You and I aren’t anyone, we are amazing someone’s who mustered up the courage to walk this journey and sometimes fight the fight that is so difficult. I love sausage biscuits!!! Yes, I know one small slip or miss-step wouldn’t have been the end of the world but where is that definitive line in my life I have to draw and begin to get healthy? It’s never easy, you and I know that. But here at Spark we have a support system in place to guide us. It’s up to us to take advantage of the opportunity. Is this an amazing tool I can utilize to help me achieve and maintain a healthy balance in my life or is it a social networking sight for people with weight and health issues? Maybe it is both. I sure do enjoy the love and support I get from many of you and I am closer to some of you than I am some people in my non- virtual life. That’s all well and good, but why do I log in here every morning?

I didn’t eat the sausage biscuit. Instead, I let her buy me a large un -sweet iced tea. Yeah I know it’s got caffeine in it but no more so than a cup of coffee. I took it home and drank it while I ate my yogurt and banana. Everyone was happy. My very dear non-biological younger sister gave me a really cool Christmas present. It is a daily calendar from Hay House. As I sat down to write this morning and I tore off yesterday’s inspiration I was greeted with this message: “I recognize my body as a wondrous machine, and I feel privileged to live in it.”

Yeah, accountability is often that prickly thorn that sticks deep and causes us much pain. Hidden behind the rose of goals and nice ideas it reminds us that this journey can be arduous at times. Take consolation in the fact that you are indeed WORTH every painful decision you have to make, and you DESERVE all the praise you give yourself when you make the best decision for you. That is one decision no one can make for any of us and it sure feels good when we make the right one. Reaching out goals is like building a tower. With each success we reach higher and the building itself gets stronger.

If ya need me……….. I’m here.
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MRSSCHENCK 4/18/2012 8:36AM

    Great blog. What will-power you have! 59 cents? I would have gotten more than one for that price. emoticon Maybe that's why I haven't met goal yet. emoticon

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MELOSPARKLE 4/18/2012 8:33AM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing.

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DEBK0923 4/18/2012 8:31AM

    Great blog, good job

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JACKJACK91 4/18/2012 8:26AM

    Thnx for sharing! I'm responsible for what goes in this temple! emoticon emoticon

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MSTAPLE1 4/18/2012 8:26AM

  Awesome post!!

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NOW2DAY 4/18/2012 8:25AM

    You did good John.

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DORY914 4/18/2012 8:22AM

    Making the right choice isnt always easy emoticon emoticon Thanks for posting

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TERRI289 4/18/2012 8:21AM

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JOHNMARTINMILES 4/18/2012 8:18AM

    We have all faced the choice with which your daughter confronted you. Sometimes we make the right choice as you did. Sometimes we succumb. The important thing is to benefit from the experience. Fall down seven times, stand up eight.

Make it a great day

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A_NEW_JAN 4/18/2012 8:17AM

    I haven't read your blog before, but when I saw it in my Best of SparkPeople mailer, it called to me. Thank you

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SARAHCLARK5 4/18/2012 8:11AM

    I blogged about something similar I am facing. My husband is unemployed and cooks for us - it is not only helpful but makes him feel useful. But because we are struggling so badly financially he is obliged to choose the cheapest food and make the best of it : not always the best choice health or weight wise but one which we can afford. I am often faced with a meal I know will never fit my calorie allowance , and to refuse it will mean that I will firstly not eat as there is nothing else and secondly run the risk of rejecting his efforts. It's not , in my case , a simple matter of hurt feelings , for us it's more complex. So I weigh each day up as it comes and make my own adjustments where I can. As I am learning here at Spark People , if I get there in the end , that's what matters. It's not a race. And I would like to have a happy and fulfilled husband at my side , not a bitter and resentful man instead. I know I can have what I am aiming for !

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KMSIMMONS1 4/18/2012 8:09AM

  Loved your words - encouraging and inspiring. Thanks for sharing!

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EARLYBIRDM 4/18/2012 8:04AM

    Thank you for sharing that story. You not only put into words what many of us feel, but you are an inspiration to those of us who are about to give in to daily temptations. Thank you for reminding us that we are the only ones who can make us reach our goals.
Emilie

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SBUSH7 4/18/2012 8:01AM

    Great post! Kutgw!

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SANDRAFIVE 4/18/2012 7:55AM

    Thanks for a great post, it came at just the right time. emoticon

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NARNIAROSE2003 4/18/2012 7:45AM

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart and your thoughts in this blog. It was SO timely for me and so affirming. You rock!

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MRSJ953 4/18/2012 7:42AM

  loved it! emoticon

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TEACHINMOM 4/18/2012 7:41AM

    Hey! I'm just "getting back". I haven't been here for a year now - since I started my new job and used it as an excuse to NOT be accountable for what I eat. The only one hurt is me. So, I get on here this morning - 40 pounds heavier than when I left - log my food, and see your blog that one of my friends commented on. Oh my gosh!! So what I needed to come back and be told! Thank you so much for your wonderful words of wisdom and encouragement!! Congrats on your decision to not have an excuse to eat the sandwich!!!
**"You and I aren’t anyone, we are amazing someone’s who mustered up the courage to walk this journey and sometimes fight the fight that is so difficult." I WAS this person once -I now HATE how I look and feel every single day- and I choose to be her again!! Thank you! emoticon THANK YOU!!!!!

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GRRARRGH 4/18/2012 7:40AM

    Great post! And kudos to you for willpower in the face of sausage biscuits! emoticon

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SIZE8NOTSOMUCH 4/18/2012 7:40AM

    Thanks so much for sharing. I am feeling lost in a sea of poor me, and you (thank you) were the slap in the face. I am not sure where I have strayed, I come every day, but I am lost. I need to remember that it is a gift to live in my skin, and I need to make it the best life I can. So, Thank You, VERY much...
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EXCIRA 4/18/2012 7:39AM

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LILPUP312 4/18/2012 7:30AM

    Great Blog, thanks for posting, I needed to read that this morning!

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PURPLEPEONY 4/18/2012 7:24AM

    I love this quote “I recognize my body as a wondrous machine, and I feel privileged to live in it.”
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JANEMARIE77 4/18/2012 7:22AM

    respect for both people isn't that wonderful! Great

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JILLKH37 4/18/2012 7:22AM

    Great post and great will power. You are so right, if we don't make the right choices we can't complain when we don't see results we want. :-)
Have a wonderful week!

Jill (My first week here) :-) emoticon

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KIPPER15 4/18/2012 7:17AM

    Great job facing down the temptation in such a respectful manner. emoticon

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BELIEVING-N-ME 4/18/2012 7:14AM

    Thanks for sharing! Great blog!
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MUSOLF6 4/18/2012 7:10AM

    Thank you for sharing. You have great will power. keep up the good work. emoticon

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TURBOADDICT444 4/18/2012 7:07AM

  Great blog and great willpower!

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TEACHING1ST 4/18/2012 7:04AM

    As always, wonderful insight and a great way to start the day. Thanks, John! (and 'Oh, Brother, Where Art Thou was one of my husband's favorite movies!)

Mary

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AZCHALLENGE 4/18/2012 7:02AM

  Great blog. I like the way you respecting yourself and also respected your daughter's needs emoticon

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DMF2012 4/18/2012 6:58AM

    Great, thanks for sharing!

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MANILUS 4/18/2012 6:54AM

    Amazing work John, congrats on being strong and doing good for you! It is so hard with people we love to do the right thing, kudos to you and keep it up!

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THEIS58 4/18/2012 6:50AM

    Just great thank you

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KTNEWJOURNEY 4/18/2012 6:49AM

    Great blog!

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EUEK098 4/18/2012 6:47AM

    Good choice

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LANNIEMANUEL 4/18/2012 6:43AM

    great blog thanks for sharing


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JGRAY76 4/18/2012 6:41AM

    Well done and congrats to you for your strength to resist what is bad for you.

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LRSILVER 4/18/2012 6:39AM

    Great blog. So true.

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THINKPINK06 4/18/2012 6:33AM

    Thanks for the blog post!

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MARJORIEWRIGHT 4/18/2012 6:33AM

    Thank you for sharing. Great job not giving in but finding a way to still make her feel good.
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THINGETTINOUT 4/18/2012 6:28AM

    That is a great blog. Thanks for sharing.

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PENOWOK 4/18/2012 6:24AM

    You are SOOOO rght and we are SOOOO worth it! Thanks for reminding us of what is really important!

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CAM2438 4/18/2012 6:21AM

    Thank-you for sharing. I enjoyed reading your blog. I can certainly relate to it as well.

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TATTER3 4/18/2012 6:16AM

    As I sit with my yogurt and water this morning I can totally relate!!! Keep Sparkin'!!

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DFROMTX 4/18/2012 6:00AM

    Great blog!! Pertains to all of us at SP at one time or another.

Congrats on being "smoke free" and Keep on the SP journey to even better health.

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PIONEERFORLIFE 4/18/2012 5:48AM

    Thank you for sharing

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