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The Thorn Beneath The Rose

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Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Our oldest daughter called last night and would I give her a ride to work today? As we drove she asked if I minded stopping at McDonalds. “Its tax relief day and sausage biscuits are only fifty nine cents!!!” I looked over at her for a moment and responded; “…..And about four hundred thirty calories.” She smiled. “Yeah but dad they are only fifty nine cents!!!” There is a line in one of my favorite movies, O Brother Where Art Thou that says “It’s a fool who looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.” My daughter’s intentions were pure and good. I gave her a ride to work; she was going to buy me breakfast, her way of thanking me. It would have been really easy to accept her logic and later today when I tallied my calories use her as a convenient foil. I mean isn’t making her sure her feelings aren’t hurt much more important than the nutritional value of my breakfast? I am not sure where we draw the line in the sand. I quit smoking seven years ago this week. I promised myself I wouldn’t be “one of those people,” and I’m not. If my health is as important as I claim, then there has to come a point in time where I truly believe I deserve the success that waits around the bend for me because I’m worth the effort I put into myself. Couched in all that sweetness, like a thorn next to a beautiful rose, is the nasty realization that I have to be accountable for my actions. You can love me half to death but in the long run I choose what goes in my mouth.

If this were easy ANYONE could do it. You and I aren’t anyone, we are amazing someone’s who mustered up the courage to walk this journey and sometimes fight the fight that is so difficult. I love sausage biscuits!!! Yes, I know one small slip or miss-step wouldn’t have been the end of the world but where is that definitive line in my life I have to draw and begin to get healthy? It’s never easy, you and I know that. But here at Spark we have a support system in place to guide us. It’s up to us to take advantage of the opportunity. Is this an amazing tool I can utilize to help me achieve and maintain a healthy balance in my life or is it a social networking sight for people with weight and health issues? Maybe it is both. I sure do enjoy the love and support I get from many of you and I am closer to some of you than I am some people in my non- virtual life. That’s all well and good, but why do I log in here every morning?

I didn’t eat the sausage biscuit. Instead, I let her buy me a large un -sweet iced tea. Yeah I know it’s got caffeine in it but no more so than a cup of coffee. I took it home and drank it while I ate my yogurt and banana. Everyone was happy. My very dear non-biological younger sister gave me a really cool Christmas present. It is a daily calendar from Hay House. As I sat down to write this morning and I tore off yesterday’s inspiration I was greeted with this message: “I recognize my body as a wondrous machine, and I feel privileged to live in it.”

Yeah, accountability is often that prickly thorn that sticks deep and causes us much pain. Hidden behind the rose of goals and nice ideas it reminds us that this journey can be arduous at times. Take consolation in the fact that you are indeed WORTH every painful decision you have to make, and you DESERVE all the praise you give yourself when you make the best decision for you. That is one decision no one can make for any of us and it sure feels good when we make the right one. Reaching out goals is like building a tower. With each success we reach higher and the building itself gets stronger.

If ya need me……….. I’m here.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
STOPPLAYING2011 4/18/2012 8:51PM

    I am proud you made the decision to choose eating healthy but at the same time you didn,t hurt ur daughters feelings and everyone was happy at the end great job emoticon and i love ur spark page set up it helps you to make positive affirmations about your goals and what you want out of your life.

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IGSBETH 4/18/2012 8:35PM

    What a great blog!

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FRANCES-AGAPE 4/18/2012 8:32PM

    emoticon emoticon

emoticon on your
intelligence, determintion
and self-control !!

I probably would have
just took the food &
regretted it the rest of the day

emoticon on your
7 years smoke-free !!!


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NWFL59 4/18/2012 8:29PM

    Thanks for posting this blog. I too am often challenged by well meaning friends and relatives who stil don't get it and thus provide me an opportunity to test my self knowledge and resolve.

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W5VEOTX 4/18/2012 8:21PM

    Super - way to go !

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ASPENHUGGER 4/18/2012 8:09PM

    Thank you.

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MARYJEANSL 4/18/2012 8:05PM

  It's always hard to turn down tasty food, and you can be very proud of yourself.

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A1DENSMOM 4/18/2012 7:56PM

    Thank you- that was a lovely post.

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DOLLBABE56 4/18/2012 7:48PM

    John, great blog.

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QUEENVIXEN75 4/18/2012 7:39PM

  Congratulations on making the right decision. My battle with my inner voice when it comes to justifying what I'm going to eat is the hardest part of my struggle with losing weight. I feel like I sabotage myself and then feel guilty. I'm at the beginning of my journey so I hope it gets a little easier to stand up to myself.

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TERRIPAL1 4/18/2012 7:23PM

    Way to go! You should be very proud! emoticon

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MORNINGWALKER 4/18/2012 7:23PM

    emoticon Right 4 you and nice for your daughter.....great dad and daughter moment!

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MI-ELLKAYBEE 4/18/2012 6:51PM

    emoticon You did good. For all the right reasons! emoticon

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HEALTHYMIX 4/18/2012 6:47PM

    Oh my goodness, this was so good! Thanks for sharing your story. Very inspiring for me! Let's live life to the fullest!

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SLIMLEAF 4/18/2012 6:45PM

    Thanks for writing this - it is great to hear you doing so well, making positive changes, being bold, daring to change. And also what I need to read/hear. Too often I make excuses for my poor choices.

I will try to follow your lead!

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CIRANDELLA 4/18/2012 6:36PM

    Congratulations to you for your strength! We really can do it, can't we? And we do it one decision, one day, sometimes even one moment, at a time.

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BACK2CUTE 4/18/2012 6:27PM

  Thanks for this wonderful story (and I love the wallpaper). I started reading it this morning, but then had to dash off to take the kids to school. Your thoughts really resonated with me because I'm on Day 2 of the South Beach Diet. The first phase is really quite restrictive and it's difficult when I'm making the kids waffles and strawberries for breakfast. However, like you, I managed to overcome the wonderful, tempting smells and stick to my boiled eggs and fat free yogurt. So, I'm going to give myself a building block on that tower you suggest. Continued success on your journey, and I look forward to reading more from you. emoticon

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KALISWALKER 4/18/2012 6:03PM

    Wow you said it!

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KMMAKI 4/18/2012 5:59PM

  Great Blog. Many times in a similiar situation I did not always make the right choice and did regret it later. emoticon

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JIBBIE49 4/18/2012 5:57PM

    emoticon Great to see your blog featured in the spark Mail. What an inspiration you are to others. emoticon

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WENDENANNIE 4/18/2012 5:35PM

    Thank you for always have some really good thoughts and advice.....I, for one, appreciate it. Keep up the great work!

Hugs, Wendy

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LYNCHD05 4/18/2012 5:29PM

    We always have choices don't we? Thanks for the great blog!

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NEEDINGANEWME 4/18/2012 5:23PM

    Your blog posts are wonderful. It is so nice to read your words that ring so true in my life. Thanks for taking the time to write such encouraging posts.

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MARITIMER3 4/18/2012 5:21PM

    congratulations - thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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NANCYANNE55 4/18/2012 5:10PM

    GREAT way to handle the situation! I've found that if I take a deep breath and a moment to think in sticky food spots, I can usually find a wiser choice or a graceful way out.

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CHACHAOREO 4/18/2012 4:54PM

    Great blog and you do have "Self Respect"! Thanks for sharing.

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CAROLJ35 4/18/2012 4:43PM

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Such a nicely written blog and real encouragement for the rest of us!!!

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POLSKARENIA 4/18/2012 4:41PM

    Well decided to benefit both of you!

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SCOTTYDOG76 4/18/2012 4:03PM

    Sometimes we have to be strong. You made the right choice, and although I don't know you, I'll bet you see the numbers on that scale getting smaller and smaller.

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PYNETREE 4/18/2012 4:02PM

    Hey doesn't your McD's have the $1.00 yogurt/fruit parfait? It's about the only "friendly" breakfast option at McD's.

I'm battling (not very successfully!) my husbands Tax Day Savings...Brueggers Bagel tax day deal = Bakers Dozen Bagels and 2 spreads for $10.40 emoticon

I wish you Strength on this Healthy Journey!

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KHAMMARGREN 4/18/2012 4:01PM

  Thanks. Great response.

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JANWHOSOEVER 4/18/2012 3:53PM

    I'm glad I didn't hear about 59 cent Sausage McBiscuits (lol), and really glad I missed out on the bargain. Great blog - thanks for sharing.

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LREIGLE 4/18/2012 3:45PM

    Thanks for writing this bog! Enjoyed it! Very inspiring!

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TIFFY0906 4/18/2012 3:44PM

    Love this blog - emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 4/18/2012 3:43PM

    This is the kind of blog that sticks with me. Sometime in the future, I will be in a similar situation and your blog will come to mind. It will give me things to consider as I make the right decision.

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LOOKSLIKELILY 4/18/2012 3:34PM

    emoticon and can I say, you write so very beautifully!

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BLESSED2BEME 4/18/2012 3:33PM

    You made me cry! Thanks for reminding me I am worth this difficult journey of sacrificing decisions to get healthier! Yes! We are amazing! We deserve to treat ourselves with healthy choices:)

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WUMPASTAR 4/18/2012 3:32PM

    So inspiring! Thank you and have a wonderful day! emoticon

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GRAMPIAN 4/18/2012 3:11PM

  Inspiring! emoticon

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SKINNITA 4/18/2012 3:05PM

    I don't know what a sausage biscuit is, as we don't get them in New Zealand, so I looked it up. This is what you missed out on:

Nutrition Facts
1 regular size biscuit (117.0 g)

Calories: 430
Calories from Fat: 243
Cholesterol: 30mg 10%
Sodium: 1080mg 45%
Total Carbohydrates: 34.0g 11%
Dietary Fiber: 2.0g 8%
Sugars: 2.0g
Protein: 11.0g

Good choice to go with the tea!!! Your daughter is going to be so proud of you as you get healthier and are around for a looooong time for her!

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NEWMOM20121 4/18/2012 3:02PM

    Great blog. Love it.

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GIRANIMAL 4/18/2012 2:56PM

    It isn't easy, but it has gotten a lot easier for me since my process now looks like this: Do I consider this actual food? For fast food, the answer is always a solid NO.

I still have unhealthy foods now and again. My local Mediterranean place has these herb fries (sorry! I know, trigger food!) that are A-MA-ZING. The BF and I split an order sometimes. It's not healthy, but we chat with the owner and know what kind of ingredients he uses. They are still deep fried, but at least I know there's nothing in those fries except POTATOES, fresh herbs and the oil they were fried in. :)

Unlike the way I fool myself with organic cookies (that just sounds stupid the more I think about it), this is a time when I am making a mindful choice to splurge a little, rather than fooling myself into thinking an unhealthy food is better for me than it really is.

Seriously, look up the sausage biscuit ingredients on the McD's website. You'll feel even better about your choice of unsweet tea instead. And I'm pretty sure there wasn't any liquid margarine or preservatives in your banana.

Wondrous machines need good, clean fuel, and you delivered! emoticon

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MOMMY445 4/18/2012 2:40PM

    thanks for the inspiration,John! what a great blog!

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    How right you are! So well the analogy!

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