Advice to me
Sunday, April 15, 2012
I am the queen of unsolicited advice.
Even if you didn't ask for my opinion, I will certainly share it. I once told a friend that I was thinking about giving up gossip and unsolicited advice as a New Year's resolution, to which she responded, "But what will we talk about?"
So as I think about my own weight loss journey, I think it's helpful to take a step back and honestly assess why I'm not where I want to be.
First of all, I think you should be commended for wanting to take charge of your health. And it's okay to admit that while having a lower cholesterol number is a fine goal, it's also perfectly acceptable that you want to have a more shapely butt and wear a smaller size.
If I had to give you an overall assessment, I'd say that you struggle with consistency. According to your reward system, some days you'll earn $4, then nothing the next day. Wouldn't it be nice if you could turn in a little performance each day? As Bud Grant once said, "Durability beats ability." And this, my friend, is a marathon - not a sprint. (A fine phrase, courtesy of my division's CEO.)
I've noticed that you're not nearly eating as many sweets as you used to. That "60 Minutes" segment on sugar was alarming to me, too. You could probably cut back a little more, even, but if you make it a gradual transition, I'm guessing you will hardly notice it at all.
Now, for the tough parts.
I know you're pleased - no, slightly smug - about the fact that you don't eat fast food. But you do eat out quite a bit, and while it's not necessarily prepared "fast," it doesn't mean that you can eat whatever strikes your fancy. I realize that a lot of dining out is part of your job - and that's okay - but consider striving for a 90% goal of making healthy choices. Even though the restaurant calls them pommes frites, they're still french fries, you know?
And I know that you often taper off tracking your food when you're too tired to figure out exactly what was in it at the restaurant. Sorry, honey - that won't work. If you force yourself to journal your food, then you'll make sure that you order things that CAN be journaled easily, instead of wondering what exactly was in the mystery sauce.
Oh, and the exercise part.... I know your biggest challenge has been the chronic pain in your back, knee, and the variability of your energy due to, ahem, perimenopause. But didn't you feel great on Friday when you worked out even when you didn't feel like it? I know you hurt the next two days, but you CAN take pain medication and manage this - and the doctor said you could come back in a month or two if the back pain isn't improving. However, we both see a definite improvement so I think you'll be back to new in no time at all. Just do what you can and be good to yourself.
Speaking of being good to yourself - I see you struggle with stress eating particularly at work, but sometimes at home. Regardless of whether it's a snack or glass of wine, they do add up, so you may want to consider substituting other activities instead. All that reading we do on human behavior indicates that we're easily distracted, so take advantage of that.
On the subject of snacking, I've noticed that you're not doing that at night as much, so good job on that! Isn't it exciting to see that you CAN change your behavior? I guarantee that if you are consistent, you'll look back at yourself in a year and think, "What a nice butt."
That's all for now. We'll catch up later.