Sunday, April 15, 2012
I am a fulltime caretaker, who gets some breaks during work hours. Family members are either distant or hostile-- a decades old situation-- and life is happier with a peaceful day without their presence. Holidays, that's another story though. Sometimes it would be nice to break the pattern of isolation and have family.
like many others, we discover family gatherings can better involve nonrelatives. this Easter, one of my assistants was sick, and as involved as she usually was with her family, she just couldn't make it. But I called, along with her grown children, to make sure she was alright, and they brought her their Easter dinner when she had little energy to enjoy it. She has very sweet children and it was nice to see how they pitched in to help her.
All along, she and I talked about sharing the free ham I obtained... and today we had a very nice Easter dinner. 6 days later. But you know, as far as I was concerned, this was the sister I never had, the one who is here through the easy as well as the tough times, the one who watches out for both me and my parent.
Feeling isolated is sometimes stressful. Holidays emphasize family gatherings, but for some of us, it's not possible due to old hurts, distance, or the quality of the relationship. It doesn't matter when the gathering happens, but the dance-- let me dance with those who I know care and understand our little household for just a little while over food and conversation, and the meaning of the holiday is not forgotten.