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The sad side of downsizing

Saturday, April 07, 2012

Earlier in the week, I researched online and found a place that takes donated wedding dresses and uses them to help brides who have breast cancer. (I'm unclear whether they donate the dresses to brides going through chemo, or if they sell the dresses and use the money to help women with cancer, or what.)

At any rate, I found this organization that sounded good, and I wanted to do something charitable with my wedding dress - as much as I loved the dress, as gorgeous as it made me feel.

So I packed the dress, train, and veil, and today mailed it all off.

DH and I agreed that it was sad. It was sad to let go of a dress that made me feel glamorous. A dress that, when he saw me in the store, made his heart stop a moment. A dress that held so many happy memories of a wonderful wedding.

Not that we have any use for it, or any space in which to keep the dress. Our retirement plan is to travel until we're tired and ready to settle down.

Plus I did get to wear the dress twice - for the wedding itself, and then at an early breakfast the next day, when I couldn't sleep and my luggage was still in the car and I seriously had NOTHING else to wear in our hotel room! So I put on the lovely dress, and had some tea and toast, and had strangers come over and ask if I was getting married and I'd answer, "No, that was last night!"

So, let me be a bit nostalgic and post some wedding pictures, to say goodbye to my wonderful magical dress, that went from Cinderella-ish for the wedding to hot sexy and sophisticated for the reception (the magic of a removable tulle train).

Goodbye, beautiful dress. I hope you make another woman feel as wonderful and happy on her special day as you did for me.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
PHEBESS 4/15/2012 12:30PM

    That was it, Susan - we got married late in life, so we never had kids; my nieces all are taller than I am; and we're getting ready to travel for 10 or so years. So it just made sense to send the dress off. Sad, but sensible.

The place moved to FL, from OR, so I apparently sent it to the old address. I'm just waiting for it to come back, and I'll send the package onward.

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SUSAN818127 4/15/2012 10:40AM

    What a lovely and inspiring thing to do! I had mine boxed and preserved with some vague notion that a daughter might wish to wear it one day. Silly me-- the dress was reminiscent of the Princess Di era in which I married: a puffy sleeved, ornate, bling-everywhere style that seems rather dated today (although I'm sure it could be made-over to update the look). Oh yeah, and the daughter I envisioned as a "mini-me" shot up well past me in height at age 11. Best laid plans of mice and men. Now you've got me thinking about donating; I like the idea of having my dress help make someone's dream day come true.

PS Your dress is beautiful.

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TARABEAR 4/9/2012 12:46PM

    p.s. You just spared your niece or sibling from having to make that decision someday. So, hooray for that! ;)

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TARABEAR 4/9/2012 12:45PM

    You looked amazing in that dress! It will live on in your pictures and memories. I hope someone else will get as much joy out of it as you did.

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PHEBESS 4/9/2012 10:10AM

    I mentioned sending off the dress at the second night seder - and all the women said they saved their dress for a while, but the ones who have lived here in the VI for a long time said eventually they had to throw the dress out - it discolored, or got wet in a hurricane when their roof blew off, or insects moved that was why I thought I should send the dress on to someone who could use it.

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SECRETFUN 4/8/2012 11:01AM

  Beautiful photos and memories. I never saw the black and white one and it is stunning. It is sad, though, even with the happiness. Peace.

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MILLISMA 4/8/2012 10:18AM

    What beautiful photos. I will have to check into that since I still have my gown and have been unsure what to do with it. Such wonderful memories!

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ILOVEROSES 4/8/2012 10:09AM

    You looked radiant on your special day. Thanks for sharing your photos.

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WATERMELLEN 4/8/2012 8:31AM

    What a lovely and generous thing to do: and thanks for sharing your pictures of a special special day. (So cool that you wore it for breakfast too!!)

And thanks also for your birthday wishes and boots comments!

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JANET552 4/8/2012 6:50AM

    What a wonderful idea!! I too still have my dress which sits in its special box in the closet. You looked beautiful in your dress and very happy!

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PLATINUM755 4/7/2012 11:22PM

    What a wonderful thing to do, and I feel for you, it is a beautiful dress and you're so lovely in it. Thank you for the pics!

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CCSDESTINY 4/7/2012 9:45PM

    Awe, that is so sweet! I have mine, still, but I dont know why on earth I do. I saw the comments that the dress would now be too big for you, and I smiled - because I was already thinking that when I was reading the blog :)

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GINIEMIE 4/7/2012 8:15PM

    Thanks you for the view of such a beautiful bride. This is the second reference to wedding dresses that I'm seeing today, the first was my niece who posted a picture of her in her mom's wedding dress. A dress my cousin and I finished for the wedding so many years ago.
Sweet memories. I should look them up and give away my wedding dress too!
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JLPNURSE 4/7/2012 3:10PM

    You were so BEAUTIFUL in your dress.

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PHEBESS 4/7/2012 1:49PM

    My nieces and I have talked about the fact that they could have it turned into a dress for them - but I'm a bit short than they are, and there's no way to lengthen the dress.

Plus I'm beyond the baby stage of my life, LOL.

So I hope some bride somewhere enjoys the dress, and that it makes her as happy as I was on our wedding day.

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    You looked lovely in it, what a great story....

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REDSHOES2011 4/7/2012 1:07PM

    Did you know in denmark when women are finished with wedding dresses- they make a garment for babies whom are welcomed into the church.. A blue or a pink ribbon is put around the waist.. These garments are often kept and stored being passed on to others in a family whom have babies..
A wedding dress is not a one off in denmark- it is recycled and many many times. If not used then, a teenager in the family with a grandma whom is super with a sewing machine is truelly treasured when re-confirming her t´faith with the church..

confirmation church dress..

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NIKO27 4/7/2012 1:06PM

    Thanks for sharing

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LUCKYNUMBER25 4/7/2012 1:05PM

I miss it and it wasn't even mine.
What a lovely story. Thanks for sharing.

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PHEBESS 4/7/2012 1:04PM

    Besides, wonderful dress, you are now too big, thanks to SparkPeople!

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