WOW! it's tough
Friday, April 06, 2012
Hiya, Why do I always find the motivation really hard to keep going. I start off with all the best will in the world, but then something happens and I get down, then it all goes to pot.
am still enjoying my Wii but am dreading a family get together over the easter weekend
starting tmorrow and I think this is what has dragged me down.
I really don't know how to conquer this. I know my food options will be blown as I won't be in control and maybe there lies my problem. I'm a bit of a control freak
a bit of a eureka moment there really as for the first time I have acknowledged this, maybe just maybe this could be the start of opening me up.
I've spent alot of my life in a big tower protecting myself from the world, to prevent getting hurt, and yet along the way I still get burnt.
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== I've spent alot of my life in a big tower protecting myself from the world, to prevent getting hurt, and yet along the way I still get burnt. ==
I've had to learn that hiding away does not prevent getting hurt. It isn't a solution. It does block us from a lot of potential positives and sometimes it traps us in an even more hurtful position longer than we would have stayed otherwise. I see my best friend do this to himself, too - be so afraid of being hurt that he shuts himself away and hurts from the loneliness, then be so desperate for contact he isn't careful of whom and gets hurt, so he shuts away again.
It's not easy finding the balance, by any means. But there are ways to have some control while granting some control to others. As TRISH261 mentions, you may not have any control over what food options are there, but no one can force you to eat a triple-sized portion or go back for seconds.
1963 days ago
I struggle with my motivation too and have completely lost it over the past few weeks. I am at home with my parents at the moment and there are so many temptations and things to distract me.
I have found that refocusing on MY goals and not putting others first has really helped me be focused.
1963 days ago
These could be my words exactly, honestly. I have a hard time holding onto my motivation, and it seems all it takes is one little thing to completely take me off track, then I'm struggling to find the will power to get back to it. I am also having the same troubles as you....Easter. All that wonderful food that I know is going to be there. And for me, I've decided that I am NOT going to let it get me down. I will enjoy the food (but not over indulge too much) and not go back for seconds. It's okay to have days (especially holidays) where you stray temporarily in your food choices, just don't let it become a daily thing. I learned that last month when I was really bad way too many days, (Pizza is my downfall!) and still managed to lose a little weight. So enjoy your holidays, and don't beat yourself up if you decide to take a small piece of that yummy dessert! No one is perfect, and you have to allow yourself some goodies every now and then! And think of it this way: You may not be in control of WHAT food is there, but you will be control concerning your portions of that food. So technically, you're still in control! :)
As for keeping walls around yourself....I know exactly what you mean, sister! I have done this my whole life too, and when I did let someone in, I wound up getting hurt too and then I swore to never let someone else in. And yet, I did, again and again. But I also found out that if you don't let people in, then sometimes you lose out on some really awesome people in your life that won't hurt you! I have been hurt a lot opening up; but I also have found some awesome people too. And those few beautiful people are definitely worth it!
1965 days ago
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