Saying goodbye to baby Elijah
Friday, April 06, 2012
I havent been around here much lately. We had a terribly sad event happen in our family. As some of you know, all 3 of my children are expecting. The photos on my page are from my oldest daughter, Angela's baby shower. Angela was 3 wks from her due date and went to the dr because she didnt feel the baby move. We all thought it was because he was getting into position, but our worst thoughts and fears became reality when no heart beat was found. They gave her medication to put her in labor, and after a painful delivery (the epidural didnt work very well) it was evident that little Elijah had a cord accident. He was 6lbs, 8oz and looked just like his father. Obviously this was situation that one never sees themselves going through. It was much worse than I even imagined it would be.
However, despite the tragic accident, God is still good. Angela & Toby have amazed me through this whole process, and God has amazed me too. God knew this was going to happen, and look at how he took mercy on his daughter:
First of all, Angela and Toby are young in their faith, but have grown to a maturity early that many never get to. This is what the Lord did: Angela and Toby chose a doctor, not having been referred to him, but chose him randomly. Upon their first visit, they noticed the Christian type decor in the office. Angela thought it was a very refreshing find. At the hospital where I met him, he showed so much compassion and kindness. He had a gentleness about him with a sense of humor that was great to lift the heaviness in the air. He told our kids that his men's ministry were praying for them round the clock. He also arranged for an organization called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep who are volunteer professional photographers, to fly in, and take beautiful keepsake photos for the parents to have. I was so grateful that God put my daughter in the hands of the best possible candidate available because He knew what was to come.
Not only that, but 2 mo before this, Angela met a woman on the internet that had just lost a baby at birth and was going through the most painful time in her life Angela had been helping her through her pain. Who would have thought that 2mo later, Angela would be going through the same situation. The lady came to the hospital before Angela delivered so she could be there to return the kindness. I dont believe in coincidence. God put someone in Angela's life 2 mo before this tragedy that could ACTUALLY understand how she feels to help her through this. God's mercy and love for my daughter just makes me love Him more.
Because Angela & Toby were still in the hospital, we grandparents had to plan the funeral. We took care of the cost and made all of the arrangements. It was our honor to do so. We didnt want them to have any more stress than necessary and wanted them to just focus on trying to wrap their minds around this and start the healing process.
The funeral was beautiful and of course very painful. Angela made him a temporary grave stone from the plaster foot prints that the nurse in the hospital help her make.
Below is the poem his Daddy wrote to him:
Though we never got to meet you
and you didnt get to stay
We have faith that God the Father
must have wanted it that way.
He designed and loved you so,
before you ever came to be;
You're our precious blessing
whom we, too, will love eternally.
He called you for His purpose
and is changing us inside
to accept His sovereign will
and know our baby is alive
We will miss you
but we have within a hope we an afford;
That you're absent from the body
and now present with the Lord.
Elijah Kai Moore, we love you, know you are with our Lord, and cant wait to see you again.