Turned out that the March 27 court date was still valid--but now it was to finalize the divorce. Oh, what a HUGE BLESSING it is to have this done at last!
When my lawyer asked me, before the judge, whether I considered the settlement "fair & reasonable," I paused. Simple agreement would have been false. Then it came to me: "It's adequate," I said. Sometimes adequate is the best we can get from a flawed system & a very flawed ex. And so I'll take it.
I want to thank so many of you who have commented or messaged me with words of caring. You have blessed me so abundantly.
It is wonderful not to be alone.
Today I talked with my therapist about how to use the new emotional space that has opened up in my life, now that I don't have to think about the divorce process anymore. For example, I've been nominated for elder at my church. A ton of nominations came in, so even if I said I was open to being elected it might not happen. And quite recently I was feeling rather disappointed in the church & not sure I wanted to stay there. But I've been encouraged by some recent developments, & being an elder would be an opportunity for me to help shape the church's responses to marriage crises among members in the future. This is an urgent issue, as a good friend is facing divorce from a former member right now. There are other ways I'm interested in leading/serving too. So I'm mulling that over.
There are other realms of newness, but I want to focus here on SP stuff. In regard to fitness & weight loss, I want my newness to be expressed as new commitment:
* actually starting my bedtime routine at 10:00 each evening, Sunday through Thursday
* getting up each morning in time to exercise
* reinstituting a regular cardio/ST pattern
* continuing to eat good food, but LESS of it!
I've started today by eating three good meals + one little piece of Colombian chocolate. Supper was my smallest meal; though I was tempted to add a couple more foods to it, I didn't succumb.
Off with those divorce pounds!