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watching loved ones age......it's a challenge.

Friday, March 23, 2012

My heart is breaking...it's time to place my loving parents into assisted living/skilled nursing facility. I know, and they know that it's time - for their own safety and well-being, but I never dreamed it would be this hard on me. It's like, they're moving into the last phase of their life....they know it, and I know it. They are actually "okay" with it, just a little sad that that after sharing the same bed for 64 years that now - although they'll be near each other, they'll not able to hold hands as they fall asleep. My mom is blind, and has dementia so she needs more help than my father.....we are working with a wonderful social worker who is helping us to find the best facility for them. I will do my very best for them - I do so want their twilight years to be filled with love and comfort.
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EXERTIGER 3/25/2012 11:20AM

    I feel for you. My dad died of Alzheimers 11 years ago and my mom is planning to move closer to me this spring or summer. My husband's dad died two years ago and his mom lives next door.

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BEENHEREB4 3/23/2012 8:01PM

    My heart goes out to you. We just completed this journey with my mom. I am convinced that she was with us longer because she was in an excellent facility. We tried but the time came when we couldn't give her the care she needed at home. It was so hard but it was the right thing. I hope that you can find peace and enjoy this stage of life. Every part of life has its own beauty, even though it's hard to find sometimes. emoticon

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MISHMOM 3/23/2012 6:31PM

    I work at an adult day care center and the feelings you're describing are so common. It's likely that the facility that your parents will be spending time at will have a caregiver's support group. I think you will find comfort and camaraderie there by participating if you are able.

Your post shows what a good daughter you are and how much you care -- I'm sure you are a blessing in Mom and Dad's life. emoticon

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MOMMA2X6 3/23/2012 5:57PM

    My mom recently went through this. It is so hard! It is good that they are "okay" with it. That makes it a little easier on you, but only a little.

Cry a little. Love them a lot! And cherish all the time you have with them.

Hang in there!

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JOYFULJUDYLYNN 3/23/2012 5:46PM

    emoticon I'm so sorry that you're going thru this. I do empathize. Last summer we bought a house across the street from my parents. My mother was diagnosed with alzheimers, and my dad simply can't do it all on his own.

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