Wednesday, March 14, 2012
A few minutes ago, I was leaving a comment on a friend's blog regarding choices. Reading about the problems she's been having and the changes she is planning to make got me thinking--what is the best way to go bout this whole weight loss thing? Not the physical aspects, we all know that formula. Calories in must be less than calories out, easy peasy lemon squeezy, right? Riiiiight. Can you see my eyes rolling from there? It isn't the knowledge of said equation that makes weight loss so hard, at least not for me. It is the mental game; knowing that I will have to make smart choices EVERY DAY, that I won't be able to eat whatever I want, all day every day for the rest of my life. That is staggering, overwhelming! Like trying to imagine space, or a zillion dollars. My mind shuts down, and I reach for a cellophane package of goodness, figuring I will start the denial tomorrow.
Obviously, this doesn't work.
A few years ago, I lost 32 pounds. It was wonderful! But I didn't think in terms of The Rest of My Life; I thought about it One Day at a Time. It was the only way I wouldn't get overwhelmed by the thought of making these responsible choices for so long, of never slipping up more than once or twice a week. And when one day got too overwhelming, I would narrow my vision down to one hour. Or ten minutes. Whatever it took to get me past the chocolate, the cheesecake, the spongycreamyheaven staring at me so enticingly. And as long as I thought that way, it worked!
I'm not saying don't make long term goals. We have to have something to work toward, after all--me, I'd like to wear cute swimsuits from Target. Shallow? Absolutely. But so am I sometimes, and I've learned to accept that about myself. But that goal is a long way off, and there are a lot of choices between here and there. So when those long terms just seem so far away, lost in the haze of the calorie fog, I will simply narrow my vision. Focus on that next meal, that next choice.