Wednesday, March 07, 2012
I have adopted this beautiful, baby girl and she is now 10 months old. As she has met my different family members, it is astonding how many refer to her as a "fat baby". She is of normal size and has full cheeks, which I know with time will slim out. It got me thinking about how we begin to tear down our children at such an early age. The fact that I attend to my child when she cries, my family tells me I am spoiling her. They would prefer that I not carry her and let her scream her lungs out when she is in need of attention. I listen to what everyone has to say, and do what I instinctively know is correct, shower her with love and attention. We can become insecure as adults without having our parent be the one who contributes to these feelings. One well intentioned friend said I should put my baby on a diet. She was six months old and she thought she needed to be on a diet. She got offended when I told her she was crazy and that you don't put infants on a diet. This obsession with being thin is too much. I want to be healthy and I am learning new ways of eating to be a role model to my child. I am changing my lifestyle to ensure that my daughter has a healthy and secure view of what she eats. I have asked my family to keep their negative comments to themselves and unless they have something sweet to say to the baby, not to say anything at all. She is beautiful, healthy and I hope that she does not have the issues that I did growing up in such a critical family.