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Goodbye to a friend...

Saturday, March 03, 2012

Today, I went to a "Celebration of Life" for my friend Amy. She passed away on Monday. She was diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago, fought a good fight, but lost in the end. They could never even tell her what type of cancer she had. She went through traditional treatments and experimental. Though we hoped for a miracle, nothing worked.

Amy was the perfect example of someone who lives life the right way and still gets the short end of the stick. She ate healthy, power walked marathons, bicycled thousands of miles each year and drove a Subaru. (According to her nephew, during her service. He said there must be a certain body fat percentage that you have to be below to drive a Subaru because they're all healthy. lol) She ate organic food and was tall and slender. Bad genetics caught up with her. She was only 53 when she died.

Sometimes, I think of this and wonder why I try so hard. Then, I put it out of my mind and push on. Amy's healthy lifestyle showed through in her vibrant life and her healing touch as a massage therapist. Her confidence in herself came from her love of life and all things good. Those are the things I have to remember when I want to slip into unhealthy habits.

The memorial service was beautiful. It was standing room only. There had to be at least 250 people there. The chapel seats were filled and people were standing along the walls and out the door.

When we got there, her boyfriend Joe, also a biking friend of mine, told us he had something to show us. There was Amy's Specialized Tarmac, with a bandana tied around the handlebars, in the far corner of the room. Strange how a bicycle can make you cry. That was the beginning of my tears and they continued through all of the loving stories told about her.

Here are some words of advice that she gave one of her nieces: "If it has tires or testosterone, you can expect trouble!" That is so Amy!

Though she hasn't been able to ride for 2 years, I will still miss her out on the road. Joe gave me some of her cycling clothes a couple months ago. I will wear them when I need her strength.

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    Sorry, this is tough. Keep going with you fight to be healthy.
    2173 days ago
    Sorry for your loss :( The bike in the corner got to me. It's amazing how you recognize a person sometimes by their bike first and them second. Take care !
    2206 days ago
    Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I was moved by your words - especially about the bike in the corner of the room. Thanks for sharing.
    2206 days ago
    So sorry for your loss. emoticon
    2209 days ago
    Sorry for the loss of your dear friend, she sounded like she really loved life and enjoyed it to the fullest. emoticon
    2209 days ago
    emoticon I really am sorry. I can empathize with your and Amy's family. My beloved brother passed away this past September of cancer. Which could never be diagnosed. The doctors could not find the origin of his cancer either... they just kept saying it was one of the most aggressive cases they seen. Once his was diagnosed with cancer his passed on 3 weeks and 1 day later at the age 50.

    Hope this helps:

    "The people you love become ghosts inside of you and like this you keep them alive" by Robert Montgomery.
    2209 days ago
  • MCDOWN75
    Peggy, my heart breaks for you. Keep your chin up. If you need someone to lean on I am here.
    2209 days ago
    You'll just have to keep memories of her in mind and imagine her beaming with pride over your accomplishments in cycling and life!

    2210 days ago
    So sorry you lost her. She sounds like a truly wonderful person. It can be quite maddening sometimes when we think how unfair life can seem. What a blessing for you that you had her in your life to share those wonderful memories.
    2210 days ago
    AWWW . . . so sorry to hear of the loss of a precious friend. She's spot on, though. If it has tires or testosterone, definitely TROUBLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    pe today is a peaceful one for you.
    2210 days ago
  • BILL60
    So sorry for your loss. Her strength will forever help you during challenging times. Hang tough!!
    2210 days ago
    Sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I lost a good friend to cancer almost 1 year ago. I think of her often while taking my riverwalk walks.
    2210 days ago
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    2211 days ago
    That's just so not fair. You know that she will be with you always, telling you to go faster as you have some of her stuff on.

    Sorry for everyone's lose.
    2211 days ago
    I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like she touched many people during her short life.
    2211 days ago
    So sorry for your lose. She sounds like a wonderful person. Here is a saying that has helped me when I have lost a loved one...."when someone you love becomes a memory that memory becomes a treasure" Treasure all your memories of her.
    2211 days ago
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