How do we deal with people trying to derail us?
Thursday, March 01, 2012
11 months ago I stepped on the scale at a hefty 305 pounds. I knew it was time to change. I started my weight loss journey April 5th 2011. I stand before you now at 178 pounds and working on muscle mass gain now. Along the way I had some VERY unexpected comments, looks etc, here's some of the things I experienced.
My wife constantly telling me to not lose any more weight or I won't look good. My WIFE! I thought of all people in the world she would support my goals. This completely crushed me to hear her say I wouldn't look good if i lost more. I had 40, then 20, then 5 lbs to go.
She eventually had all her coworkers telling me to not shrink anymore. They started telling me to stop. Why?!?! Why can I not lose weight without criticism from others? Why can i not set and achieve a goal without negativity? I did all my weight loss through healthy eating and excersise. I never went balemic or anything stupid like people think I did to lose 130 pounds in 11 months.
I am now happy with my body. I'm wearing size 32 pants and large tee shirts or medium dress shirts. I am down to an easy 9.5 minute mile and lifting heavier than I knew I could.
Why do people tell us to stop? Why are people so against our success? Why are we constantly told to stop when were still overweight and working on it? Why do we get criticized for turning down sweets or unhealthy meals.
How many times have I been told " 1 piece isn't going to kill you." Or "fast food once in a while won't hurt your weight loss". Well you know what, I know my body. I know how I act. If i OK it once ill OK it more than once. I have an addictive personality.
I continue to get slack for going to the gym 5 days a week now. I get told you look so good, you've lost so much. I have new goals. I achieved my weight goal. Nobody is stopping me.
Do you guys get a hard time like this? How do you explain. That its your body to someone ? Is everyone else's journey as heart crushing to have a significant other tell you that "you won't look good to me anymore"?
Now I actually hear complaints that I'm not soft in bed, but all she feels is muscle (butt, shoulders and chest area.)