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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Are we too nice?

I do not think of myself as a mean spirited person. I try to be respectful, kind, generous and positive. However, sometimes I wonder if I am taking those traits too far and hurting more people than helping by not giving the wakeup call that is needed.

The cold hard awful truth of the matter is that life and weight loss is not easy; it is hard and tedious and sometimes it sucks and is not fun. Every day I read blogs about giving up and starting over. I read threads begging for help. The truth is that no one can help you until you help yourself. I can write every tip I have, I can plan your meals for you, I can share with you what I do for fitness but at the end of the day none of that will get you to your goal without you helping yourself and just doing it. Nike was right with their slogan “Just Do It.” That’s the solution to the weight loss mystery. Just eat right, just make good choices, just move your body.

All the answers are within you. Dig deep and find them. Do the work. I can inspire you and I am so honored to have inspired so many. I hope knowing that I could lose a few pounds makes every person who needs to lose a few feel like they can to. But that’s not enough. You have to find the inner motivation to get yourself on the road and the inner motivation to push yourself past your limits and your excuses. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.

I read a post from someone listing all the excuses about why they can’t do whatever they signed up to do. I posted my experience which was short and to the point. It wasn’t appreciated. However, it was an honest response from me. How did I do a half marathon? I’m cheap I didn’t want to waste 100.00. I made myself run even when I didn’t want to. That’s the secret I just did it. There is no psychological roadblock that you can’t get over by just getting out there and doing it. Stop the insanity of the excuses and do it.

The first step in helping yourself is getting a plan. You did that because you signed up for this website. The next step is to follow the plan. Make good choices and be kind to yourself and then when all else fails and you want to quit you “Just Do It.”
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    Thanks Chelle. I needed the Pep talk today. You hit me right where I needed it. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2213 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    We can have all the help in the world but ultimately we are the ones who make the final choices. Thanks for the kick in the butt!
    2213 days ago
  • DEUCE119
    Thanks I needed that!
    2213 days ago
    I have come to learn this myself...no one can motivate you but you. We often don't like the truth because it spotlights what we don't want to see or hear about ourselves..keep up with the honesty, we need more of it!!
    2213 days ago
  • NORMA328
    I completely agree!! Well said! (:
    2213 days ago
  • MARGIEH0104
    Yes, determination and hard work and following a plan. It is the only way and no one can do it for us. We have to stop making excuses and do our best and like you said, Chelle, Just Do It !
    2213 days ago
    Thanks Chelle. This is SO TRUE! Great and honest and it is up to each of us to JUST DO IT!!! emoticon
    2213 days ago
  • JENNYR0506
    So true!
    2213 days ago
    honesty always pays in my book.i am training for a 10k at the moment i am going to push myself. emoticon
    2213 days ago
  • FARIS71
    Tough love. And honesty wrapped in love. Thanks for the kick!
    2213 days ago
  • BARB5970
    You're so right... not magic, nothing mysterious. Thanks for the reminder. You speak the truth, but sometimes the hurts. I have to do this myself, no one can do it for me.... although I wish someone could. Thanks for your blunt honesty.
    2213 days ago
    Awesome Blog Chelle!
    2213 days ago
  • MYRA88T
    EXACTLY!! I've tried dieting in the past and it never worked. It was only after I arrived at the same mindset you've come to that I've been able to drop 23 pounds and exercise.
    2213 days ago
    So very true! If more people would quit making excuses and admit what their problem is, they could do the work themselves. Sure everyone wants to miracle the weight off, but that isn't gonna happen!
    2213 days ago
  • GINA180847
    So very true!
    2213 days ago
  • DEBLYNN323
    2213 days ago
    Thank You so much for this very honest blog! The only one that can do this for me is me!
    2213 days ago
    This is very true. I know that this month I have lost 4 pounds and 3.75 inches. This didn't happen until I realized that the only person holding me back was me! :) Be blessed, Dawn
    2213 days ago
  • NAYNAY69
    The same words I told my daughter. She's on her 2nd week of 'doing' it. Don't know how long it will last but she's never done it over one day before! I think showing her a lot of my team mates on here has helped but it took her choosing to "do" it to get it going!

    Wonderful post!

    NayNay emoticon
    2213 days ago
    Wow what a great blog and you are so right. Thanks for sharing.
    2213 days ago
    Girl that was a kick I needed. I have to do this for me. You can't do it for me. Nobody but little ole me. You do inspire me to be like you. thank you girl and you know what? I"m ok with honesty...you can only sugar coat so much.
    2213 days ago
    emoticon Thank you for the reality check.
    2213 days ago
    Thanks Michelle.... how very true. I am fiddling around, making excuses, just not taking control. You are an inspiration - keep it up - love your blog. emoticon
    2213 days ago
  • SUSANK16
    We all have down days where we feel we can not do it. Even after losing a substantial amount of weight, I sometimes think I can not do it. In those moments it is good to hear some encouragement from others. I do not disagree with you what so ever, the only person who can make you win or lose is yourself, but some positive kind words can be the catalyst not to quit on a rough day.
    2213 days ago
    Absolutely, Michelle! It all boils down to deciding to make the effort yourself! Thanks for putting the "bottom line" on paper.
    2213 days ago
    Amen! Now I'm going out to run, even though I am lazy and it might rain any minute and it is freezing. :)
    2213 days ago
    Very true!!! emoticon for being so frank!
    2213 days ago
    I could not agree more with you. This is the greatest statement ever: "The truth is that no one can help you until you help yourself." We all know deep down it is true. Get one's head right is the most important thing. It is not the what, when, etc. it is the "why". Why did we get fat in the first place.

    The battle is won or lost in the mind. No back slapping and high fives can change that.
    2213 days ago
    I agree. You have to be willing to accept that you CHOSE to eat those extra chip, cookies, soda, ect.
    And you have to accept that you can also CHOOSE, to have 1 cookie or 2 as opposed to, say a handful.
    Keep up the great work! emoticon
    2213 days ago
  • GOIN4GR8
    Here's another Amen! :-)
    2214 days ago
    Amen Chelle. By the way YOU SO ROCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    2214 days ago
  • MELP06
    So true! No one can do this until they have made the decision themselves and follow through with it!
    2214 days ago
    People want to know but they don't want to take the effort. I believe most of us have had those struggles over the years or we'd be where we want to be already, at our goal weight. Until one can face their own truth, there is nothing you can say to help them. Most people want to claim and prove they can't do it but when it comes down to it, they just don't want to do what it takes. Being honest is best but, not just with weight loss, many people don't want to hear the truth. You're doing great and we appreciate your words of wisdom. I love to hear what others do on this journey to get new ideas. But when it comes down to it, I am responsible for myself and until I take the action, nothing will work without my input. My husband one time asked me to help him with weight loss and I told him I can give him the tools but he'll need to do it. He does not like to weigh, measure or be as accountable as I do so until he does, he continues to carry extra weight. He has some to lose and has made changes but he is not dedicated as I am. So even family members don't want to put the time and effort into the it.
    2214 days ago
    I notice when you mentally claim it, you can do it!
    2214 days ago
    This is really what it boils down to each day. Get up and do it. =) I love your blogs! emoticon
    2214 days ago
    What you say is totally true. I wasn't able to commit until I said "enough of these excuses!" and I got off my butt and did something about it. All we can do is keep moving, even when it's hard, we have no time, even when we want to give up. Giving up is the worst thing you can do. People can't always see that right away, and sadly some people will never see it. It took me 2 years to finally do something about it, it took some really nasty pictures of me in a bridesmaids dress and my doctor telling me my glucose is high. Thanks for sharing, hopefully many people will benefit from it :)
    2214 days ago
    Love your post!
    2214 days ago
    You are so right Chelle. Great blog. I should reread it over and over and maybe, just maybe, it'll all sink in!! Keep up the wonderful work that you're doing.
    2214 days ago
    Wonderful post!
    2214 days ago
    I love your post! I lost more than half my body weight, and I was 63 when I started at it. I am so worn out by people asking me how I did it and then watching their eyes glaze over when I tell them I weighed, measured and counted everything I ate, tracked every mouthful, and got to gym to complete a full routine everyday.

    They were hoping I have a magic bullet that will shoot them to success without any effort.

    Well, I don't. I have three words for anyone who asks the key to success: JUST DO IT!
    2214 days ago
  • DADDO-62
    You have an excellent point - friends should have protested to Whitney
    2214 days ago
    I completely agree even being one of those that keep starting over!!!
    2214 days ago
    Great blog, Chelle! Way to tell it like it is. From what I've read of your blogs, you don't seem mean spirited at all. That stinks that the poster did not appreciate your response but maybe they are not ready to be honest with themselves.Until they are, they will be just full of excuses of why they can't do things. They just want someone to coddle them and say they understand which is NOT helping them at all. Sometimes the truth hurts but at least it's honest. I know for me I recently made a decision to drop something from my schedule that I had added to help me overcome the food struggle.I've just got too many things going on where something needed to be cut. But of the things I'm involved with it was the least helpful. It was a recovery group but to be honest to me it just takes the power of choice away from a person by saying they have a disease which takes away that power. EVERY person has that choice and that to me is just victim mentality that was not serving me well so I am distancing myself from it. At the end of the day it all comes down to choices and if you chose to move, choose to eat healthy, etc.
    2214 days ago
    I agree! You have to want to do it. It is great that we get tons of support and inspiration through this site, but it won't make a difference if we don't do anything with it. I know many people that complain about their weight, but they are not willing to put in the hard work...so they stay that way. I try to motivate them, get them to walk on lunch etc, but they back out. Well then you must not mind too much......
    2214 days ago
    Amen Chelle. I find all too often people don't appreciate the truth that even with all the knowledge and planning it is the actual doing that will get results. It's not easy. If it were, then everyone would be a healthy weight. Although I have not reached my goals, the reason is not because I don't have enough tools, it is because of the choices I have made that have derailed me. What I know now is not to let every not so great choice throw me off completely, but to own it and move on. Anyhoot, I find myself following the just do it mantra more and more.. cause, well, that's what needs to be done!
    2214 days ago
    You are absolutely right, of course!
    2214 days ago
    You are right - maybe people don't want to hear the simple truth of "Just do it". But, you are right again - that is the only way to succeed. Thank you for posting this blog. I am printing it out to read over and over. emoticon
    2214 days ago
    Absolutely true! I am the only one that can make the choice for me.

    2214 days ago
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