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The Ugly truth

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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Are we too nice?

I do not think of myself as a mean spirited person. I try to be respectful, kind, generous and positive. However, sometimes I wonder if I am taking those traits too far and hurting more people than helping by not giving the wakeup call that is needed.

The cold hard awful truth of the matter is that life and weight loss is not easy; it is hard and tedious and sometimes it sucks and is not fun. Every day I read blogs about giving up and starting over. I read threads begging for help. The truth is that no one can help you until you help yourself. I can write every tip I have, I can plan your meals for you, I can share with you what I do for fitness but at the end of the day none of that will get you to your goal without you helping yourself and just doing it. Nike was right with their slogan ďJust Do It.Ē Thatís the solution to the weight loss mystery. Just eat right, just make good choices, just move your body.

All the answers are within you. Dig deep and find them. Do the work. I can inspire you and I am so honored to have inspired so many. I hope knowing that I could lose a few pounds makes every person who needs to lose a few feel like they can to. But thatís not enough. You have to find the inner motivation to get yourself on the road and the inner motivation to push yourself past your limits and your excuses. Itís not easy but itís worth it.

I read a post from someone listing all the excuses about why they canít do whatever they signed up to do. I posted my experience which was short and to the point. It wasnít appreciated. However, it was an honest response from me. How did I do a half marathon? Iím cheap I didnít want to waste 100.00. I made myself run even when I didnít want to. Thatís the secret I just did it. There is no psychological roadblock that you canít get over by just getting out there and doing it. Stop the insanity of the excuses and do it.

The first step in helping yourself is getting a plan. You did that because you signed up for this website. The next step is to follow the plan. Make good choices and be kind to yourself and then when all else fails and you want to quit you ďJust Do It.Ē

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CLIMBERS_ROCK 6/5/2013 11:57AM

    Well said.

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JOANNHUNT 1/12/2013 11:28AM

    emoticon emoticon This is so true. Nobody can do it for us. We have to believe in ourselves and want to do it. YES YES YES emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHANGE4THEBEST 6/23/2012 9:04AM


Thank you for writing your blog - there are many here who appreciate your advise.

Keep blogging!

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FRENCHMARKET 6/10/2012 10:00PM

    Great blog!!!

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LAURAJS2 6/10/2012 2:36PM

    I needed to hear that. Thank you. Excuses, excuses. That's all they are.

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BOOKWORM27S 4/26/2012 8:46AM

    WOW, this is exactly what I have said to people hundreds of times! They want my "secret" to weight loss..... and I tell them there is NO secret! Just hard work, dedication, and at times.... deprivation.

Great blog!

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PURPLEPUDDLES 4/19/2012 12:21PM

    Thank you. I needed that....

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MAGGIEVAN 4/11/2012 12:18AM

    Loved the truth girl. I am with you on this one. Chelle I think the biggest problem is that most people don't find out the "why". The reasons why they got overweight in the first place. Once you know the why and deal with it, the other things fall into place. Healthy diet, enough sleep and water, having fun etc. is just doctoring the symptoms. It is not getting to the heart of the matter.

We help no one by feeding into their need for acceptance when they go against everything they say they hold dear.

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LCDM83 4/10/2012 8:21PM

    Love this Chelle! So so true! I tell you, I need to pull myself up and find that inner motivation EVERY morning when I put on my workout clothes at 4:15 in the morning. You are so right you have to do the work. Sometimes I hate every second, but "Just do it". Keep on keeping it real!

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CTUPTON 4/4/2012 11:02AM

    'JUST DO IT!" well said!

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PHOTOMUM 4/3/2012 12:32AM

    Good points made.

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TASNIM81 3/27/2012 11:47AM

    Great post. Thanks for the motivation, I needed to read that! emoticon

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MOMMY_TO_TIEN 3/25/2012 7:48PM

    I found what it is going to take in my journey to being healthier.

I hope that I never lose sight of that.

I like the quote that says, "If you don't like starting over, then stop giving up."

Ain't that the truth!

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CITYZOZO 3/20/2012 7:28PM

    well said!

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KDYLOSE 3/12/2012 12:47PM

    Don't let the occasional drama on these boards get to you.

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NSPIREME 3/12/2012 11:05AM

    Having been inspired by your success, I say tell it like it is! Sometimes a good kick in the pants is what we need.

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BAMBI31311 3/12/2012 2:31AM

  Well said. There's too much political correctness in this day & age. More people need to say it like they see it. Thank you.

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BIANCAHOOVER 3/8/2012 6:46PM

    Thank you!

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AKAKITTY 3/8/2012 6:34PM

    Way to tell it like it is and not sugar coat it!!!!!!!!!!!! SO TRUE. You have to REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLY want it folks. I quit smoking recently and I did it because I WANTED to. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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-HEALTHYAMY 3/8/2012 5:31PM

    I think you are right on. In order to change any bad habit you must first really want to change. For example, a person who smokes knows that the habit is bad for him or her, and everyone can tell that person to quit. Until that person trully desires to quit he or she will not. Weightloss is the same, unless the person trully desires to change their lifestyle, they will continue to repeat their behavior. I don't think honesty is hurtful, but sometimes the truth hurts.

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MSGNOME 3/7/2012 9:00PM

  Totally agree!

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CKGO69 3/7/2012 11:08AM

    I'm a very direct, plain-spoken person. In my experience, people generally don't really want to hear the truth.

You are so right, though. Unless a person is truly, deeply, passionately committed to change, they will not succeed. Getting fit isn't easy. If it was, there would be no overweight people. Everyone would be fit, trim and healthy!

A co-worker said to me yesterday that I am one of those people who goes overboard about everything. As an example, she used my weight loss. She said, "You log in all your food. You think about it all the time. You quit drinking completely (like that's a bad thing?) and you go to the gym too much. You're obsessed!" She wasn't complimenting me, by the way. Am I obsessed or committed? I guess it depends on your point of view. ;)

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PENOWOK 3/6/2012 8:47PM

    You are right! Thanks for speaking the truth!

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ALLOUJ 3/5/2012 3:33AM

    i'm agree with u

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BILBYGIRL 3/4/2012 11:03PM

    Yep - agree entirely and would add that everybody's going to get to that point at a different time and rate. In the meantime a little compassion wouldn't go astray which is not the same thing as pity or sympathy - it's based on empathy - like I think we have all tried things that have been challenging to us and failed in the process - sometimes we've told ourselves we didn't really want it and sometimes we've walked away. Sometimes we've gone back years later and found the strength we lacked the first time. If we're not challenging ourselves and failing on occasion there's a risk we may be deluding ourselves. We learn as much through failure as success imo.

In terms of what we write to others I think maybe it says far more about what's in our own hearts. Whether it's helpful to anybody else is another story.

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REENIE131 3/4/2012 10:33PM

    You're completely right. You can't do it for someone else, or make them do it, they have to do it themselves, and sometimes the blunt truth will get them there.

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REDSHOES2011 3/4/2012 9:57PM

People used to report me for inappropriate blog "being mean telling them this fact". I guess times have changed..

Comment edited on: 3/4/2012 9:58:11 PM

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TIMOTHYNOHE 3/4/2012 9:38PM

    I have said it to my boys and my father said it to me and I would bet you a quarter his father said it to him ... I don't want to hear your excuses, there is something you need to do and I can't do it for you.

But that is Father to Son. Barely know each others ? That's a bit harder.

I early on wrote a blog about saving the life of your man, kick is fat ass off the couch. I could not believe the number of excuses I read why it wouldn't work.

But when She(WMBO) did it for (not to) me, it was just what I needed.

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GR8FULLONE 3/4/2012 7:15PM

    Thank you for this ugly truth. I needed to read these important truths.

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LMCBUD 3/4/2012 6:02PM

    You nailed the entire healthy living/ weight loss secret of success in one blog. AWESOME! emoticon

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CHEBBA 3/4/2012 4:38PM

    As I once heard and then repeated somewhere in SP, I can't remember now: "You don't have to do this alone but, in the end, only you alone can do it." Says it all, really, doesn't it?

How right you are - in the end it's about stopping wasting time, stopping making excuses, just bloomin' well getting on and doing it. Of course, that's simplistic and we will all have up days and down days, sometimes even longer phases - but those are usually choices. And we must be accountable for those choices. It's not a crime to be overweight and if we want to mess around and not achieve what we say we want to achieve, that's down to us. It's a choice.

I've wobbled a bit of late, I've had a shed load of distractions of huge proportions - but I'm not blaming the distractions, I've accepted that my wobble was down to me. And that's how it is, in the end - it's down to us. As Cannie50 says, it's uncomfortable and tedious at times, but it's also exciting - a veritable roller-coaster. Thanks to blogs like yours; writing ones which help marshall my own perspective; SP and it's resources and the fabulous Friends I've made and who are always just a click away, my approach to the scourge of excess poundage is much more calm and I've completely stopped blaming events, distractions, other people etc. This is down to me and that is the bald, completely naked truth. Making me my No 1 hobby and priority without faffing around with excuses, well, that's when the results show. Successful Sparkers know this to be true, too.

Well done you.

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    emoticon Tell it like it is......

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MAVERICK59 3/4/2012 1:00PM

    Well said, right on point.

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MOMSUE1 3/4/2012 10:04AM

    Your words are so true. Great blog.

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SANDIBETTS1 3/4/2012 7:48AM

  Thank you for this inspiring post. We can do it, if we want to.

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PARKERB2 3/4/2012 7:36AM

    Thanks for the pep talk.

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THEIS58 3/4/2012 6:06AM

    In complete agreement. Thank you.

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MOM2HANDH 3/3/2012 11:52PM

    Very true. Though the first time I signed up for a 1/2 marathon, I injured my knee and couldn't walk, let alone complete 13 miles, so there are times when the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak!

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PATPCOOK 3/3/2012 7:53PM

  emoticon Your attitude is the thing that makes you great! Thanks for your great attitude!

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DEZZIEJAMES 3/3/2012 7:50PM

    Too True!!!

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CANNIE50 3/3/2012 7:29PM

    Absolutely. I have been on both sides of this issue. When I was at my heaviest I had to face the cold hard truth that I could not rely on my trainer, my best friend, my husband, my workout buddies, a nutritionist, a weight loss doctor, a paid weight loss program - no one, absolutely no one besides me could provide the work and committment and dedication to rescue me from obesity, besides me. Even prayer would not work unless I worked. So, I began the uncomfortable, sometimes tedious process of losing excess weight. I have run and hiked and walked a lot of miles, and lifted thousands of pounds of weights, and said no to many, many calories that looked very, very good. Sorry, I didn't mean to go on about me. I found your blog to be very inspiring, obviously. I love to be a cheerleader for people, but I can't drag anyone away from food or off the couch, just like they can't do that for me. Keep doing what you are doing because you do it very well.

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    You are so RIGHT and gave me new inspitation and faith.
Thank you for a great blog.

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NEWMOM20121 3/3/2012 6:34PM

    I thought this same thing just last night. It is not easy, loosing weight is hard. It has got to come from somewhere deep inside to make the changes that you HAVE to make. As I hear myself saying more often than not, this is not a diet, its a live changing learning journey. I can not go back to what I was doing once I loss the weight that I want to lose. Great blog

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JERZEYFRESH 3/3/2012 6:30PM

    Bravo!! I need to change many things in my life, and I know nothing will happen unless I make it happen. When I feel like quitting, I may stop by your page so you can tell me to "Just Do It." Thanks for the extra motivation today! emoticon

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TERRIJ7 3/3/2012 6:30PM

    Great blog--thanks for posting!

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GLASSART43 3/3/2012 6:00PM

    Oh, I so agree with you! We can be supportive, but people have to actually do the work it takes to get healthier. I checked out your blog after seeing the goodie you gave me for my NSV today - thank you - and I'm glad I did. You have done so well!

Marianne, an Amazon Warrior

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BRAVEHEART4ME 3/3/2012 5:05PM

  Oh so true. Great blog!

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STEF52209 3/3/2012 12:32PM

    Great blog! Loved it! emoticon

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GETTSTRONG 3/3/2012 10:51AM

  Thank you so much for the honesty. This was something I needed to hear.

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