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Friday, February 24, 2012

What is the worst comment people have made to you since you lost weight about how you looked before?
Don't get me wrong I like hearing from people that I look great and lost so much weight. I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth but some comments are just totally over the line of normal and some are in fact harmful. For example...
I really hate it when my family or anyone else makes additional comments. Both my aunts, my mother and my dad believe they are helping when they make these comments but they are not helpful. Here is a list of comments I've heard recently:
Dad - "You look great" my response: "thanks" (it should've stopped there but then he continues...) "you look much better at this weight. you were getting too fat" me: "yeah I know so what's going on with you?" (changing the subject)
Mom- (email response to my telling her I will be interviewing for new jobs soon) "keep getting trimmer as you looked better with the pounds off last time I saw you. A two ton tony does not get hired. A slim/trim, good looking and smart girl will. All of which you can achieve loosing that weight." (email deleted but I'm still angry about it)
Aunt1 - (this one is an exercise fiend and always watched her weight her entire life and picked on all of us fatties in family. Last year she says while at my fattest) "Well I don't say anything anymore because then everyone gets mad at me but you know you need to loose weight. I'm not going to say anything so I'll just say you know what to do" (um, thanks, I think? You're not going to say anything but you said it anyway)
Aunt2 - (after I lost the weight she posted as a public comment on Facebook about I picture I posted) "You look so much better. Remember exercise whenever you can and eat apples instead of sweets. every little bit counts" (thanks, if I didn't already know that I wouldn't have lost the weight in the first place, but thanks for the public comment on my facebook page.)
I've also heard from random people who were not family "you were fat" and "you look SO much better now" (emphasis on the so).
Why can't people just STFU? Say you look good and leave it at that.
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    I'm sorry you have to deal with those backhanded compliments!

    I think this is part of why the social aspect of SP is so great. Sparkers tend to "get" each other because we're all going through similar things...and hopefully would never say anything so insensitive!
    2185 days ago
    Oh my goodness! I completely agree with you...I have only lost about 25 pounds almost so far and people are just now starting to say things but yeah all of the you look SO much betters and the tips that I dont even need to hear. Its even worse when you get weight loss tips from someone else who also is overweight and not doing anything about it. I dont know why and i dont know if its wrong but it drives me nuts.
    2188 days ago
    yeah-what IS up with that??? I can't imagine saying those things to someone! Congratulate them on their accomplishment and let it go~~~
    Anyway, I'm proud of you! 'nuff said. :)
    2189 days ago
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