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A matter of duty and of conscience...

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Wednesday, February 22, 2012

I haven't seen the series "My 600 pound life" on TLC, I don't have the service but I did see some clips.. That's all I needed to see. It all came back to me, how I felt, the struggles, the lost feeling.

I regard my thirties as the "Lost Decade". Those years will never be reclaimed, they are lost forever, a time that would be regarded as my best years. Gone, lost to morbid obesity.

Now that I have regained a great deal of my freedom back, I am once again reminded that although I struggle with things, they pale in comparison with those who are wondering if this day will be their last. The things I now enjoy, some only dream of.

Running? you have got to be kidding, let's just try to get to the mailbox, get out of bed, or just breathe without help. I don't want to take this second chance at life for granted.

My Spark Friend JMERLAU asked me a question the other day, basically, what got me going on my journey or what motivated me. In short, I told him that when a man is fighting for his life, the gloves come off.

One thing though that I failed to mention is that I had a trainer who was there for me during the critical parts of my journey. After I lost 50 pounds, I regained 20 during a personal crisis and could not get my momentum going again after it was over. Although I am not with that trainer anymore and haven't been since last summer, the lessons I have learned are a big reason I made it this far.

I didn't do this totally alone, she was there for me when the battle could have gone either way.

The lessons learned - Never quit!, Make and keep the commitment even if it is a small one at all costs, and do it even when you don't feel like it. Master that, and you will come out the winner.

I know how much it meant to me to have someone who cared around, yes it was her job, but I knew that she cared. You can tell.

After seeing those clips of people in such dire condition, for a moment, I guess a moment of clarity, I saw myself as having escaped a burning building but I can hear others still inside. Do I walk away and be content with the fact that I got out, now I can move on, sighing with relief?

It is my firm belief that those of us who have lost a significant amount of weight have an obligation to pay it forward. We have, as a matter of duty and conscience, the burden of sharing our knowledge and experience with those who are getting started, struggling, or are trying to find the will to begin again.

I'm not a fireman but I can help pull a fire hose, carry equipment or help in anyway I can. I really don't know where this will lead. I have felt it for a long time and have always leaned in the direction of trying to help others in some way.

Its pretty murky right now but I have learned that what some people call "luck" is really found at the intersection where preparation meets opportunity. Maybe I am in the preparation stage for something meaningful. I don't know.

Maybe the highest calling of duty and conscience is to simply be a friend and to reach out.

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CLIMBERS_ROCK 5/25/2013 1:50PM


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ANDYLIN90 3/30/2012 6:04PM

    Your blog brought tears to my eyes...your compassion and commitment are very inspiring. I think about my 350 pounds + sister-in-law who thinks it is impossible to lose weight. I will share your blogs with her. Congratulations and thanks for posting.

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JMW65483 3/15/2012 7:48PM

  What most of us either seem to forget or never realized in the first place is that God allows us to do some pretty stupid stuff but then when we are are on the other side of it expects us to use the lessons we learned along the way to be a blessing to those that are in a similar situation.
One of the greatest blessing we can have is being a blessing to someone else who is in need.

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DONNA088 3/7/2012 11:31AM


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DEBBIELYNNE64 3/4/2012 2:15PM

    Lots to think about here and it is true, we do have a responsibility to help and encourage others on this journey called Life.

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4BARBIE44 3/2/2012 9:08AM

    I always look forward to reading your blogs. You have such a way with writing. Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 2/29/2012 8:01AM

    You have been both, friend and helper, all in one very enlightening blog. Once again you've touched my heart and my day. I'm glad to be one of those friends...........

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VIKINGAA 2/28/2012 3:29PM

    Very thoughtful and insightful. I think you are helping others.

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NEWFORTE 2/28/2012 6:10AM

    Words touch me, and yours just did. I am at the beginning of regaining my health and what I just read from your heart spoke to mine.

Thank you for your inspiration.

You are have a mission.

We all do.

You just helped me, now I must continue the domino effect.


Have a blessed day !!!

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TXGRANDMA 2/27/2012 6:53PM

    How true! What a thought provoking blog. It especially struck me when you said you couldn't walk away, thinking how lucky you were to escape, and leave the others to their fate! If more people had your compassion, the world would be a much kinder place! emoticon

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REJ7777 2/27/2012 5:49PM

    I've just read a couple of your blogs, and I assure you that you're already motivating and helping people! And because you do care, who knows where it will lead. emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 2/26/2012 2:58PM

    thanks for the great blog it made me stop and think have a great day emoticon emoticon

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YOMAMA128 2/26/2012 12:44PM

    This is a wonderful blog - once again. I love your analogy of the burning building with people left inside.

Yes -- we all help each other in this life. In terms of the weight loss journey, your having "been there" will be such an authentic and meaningful inspiration to many. It already is!

THESE are the best years -- right now!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your caring commitment to helping others on their journey. You inspire us all!

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SAPHRAEL 2/26/2012 10:45AM

    Yay! Wonderful thoughts. Thanks for sharing!

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SISSYB3 2/26/2012 10:06AM

    You've given me lots to think about this morning...thank you! I got derailed after a 20 pound loss and regained it all plus a couple and have been struggling to get back on track. You have helped by sharing! Thank you!

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GINA180847 2/26/2012 8:33AM

    I forgot to add that not only are we doing better more often than not but we also realize that we need to help our fellow man then we have the gas to fuel the journey with caring and that we are not alone.

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GINA180847 2/26/2012 8:30AM

    Once again a very thoughtful blog. That person who gets depressed, it sounds so familiar. I think that is what it is for us all. Eating becomes a way of comforting ourselves and trying to munch our way out of the abyss. Then we have a wake-up moment where we realize what we are doing is just so destructive and we try not only to stop but to do something better. It is when we do better far more often than not that we are climbing out of the abyss.

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QUEENMABE 2/26/2012 6:23AM

  Wonderful blog--thnxs

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STARPLEWIS 2/26/2012 6:21AM

  Friends helped me through and still do, though not with weight loss. Depression is my demon and I fight everyday just to get out of bed. Without my friends who make sure that I continue to be okay it would be much harder. In return I try to make sure that I say Thank you, that I smile even when it would be easier to cry. I say Thank you to ON2VICTORY. Keep paying it forward.

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LORIAPO 2/25/2012 11:25PM

    I know you will help many more in different ways after this;
but always remember
that you have helped so many already.

You are an inspiration
and your blog was very touching.
Thanks for taking the time to share with us, those thoughts & feelings.

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MRFUZZ 2/25/2012 8:53PM

    You are helping so many people....more than you will ever know. We are all lucky you got out of "the burning building". You continue to inspire us, with your weight loss and your kindness.

Like it or not, we are all role models. Our actions can help break someone down, or help make them whole. Yours are helping make people whole. emoticon

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77GRAMMY 2/25/2012 5:20PM

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SLUDERCATS 2/25/2012 4:55PM

    Paying it forward is the best way to go...also, a great movie.

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JOISIEE 2/25/2012 1:02PM

  Beautifully stated. Thank you.

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BASEBALLMOM410 2/25/2012 11:12AM

    Great blog! I always love reading your blogs and find them so inspiring. You always say something that really hits me and makes me think. You definitely have a gift of encouraging others. Pay it forward for sure!

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    Thank you for sharing - and paying it forward! I am sure you help many people (including myself!) just by sharing your journey!

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BELIEVING-N-ME 2/25/2012 7:54AM

    Great blog! Congrads on progress!

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FUZZYBEEZ 2/25/2012 4:21AM

    I have seen the show you speak of. The episodes I've watched motivate me in so many ways. I am not 600 pounds, but I should probably loose about half my body weight to be at a healthy level. I see these people and wonder how did they get to that point. And then instead of sitting there watching the show I get up and exercise while watching the show.

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VERGE_OF_ME 2/25/2012 1:35AM

    I am driven to try and help others....the how of that for me remains to be seen as of yet, but it is something that I feel so strongly about. I can simply not stand to think about leaving anyone behind in that burning building I existed in for so that I have found the way out. Wonderfully compassionate and compelling blog....thank you.

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FINDYOURSPARK 2/25/2012 1:08AM

    I'm so with you on this! I have that same feeling. I just want to help people. I struggle with it though, since I have not yet mastered it myself. I feel like people will think I'm a hypocrite. But I SO want to help and motivate people! Great blog!

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MISSLISA1973 2/25/2012 12:32AM

    That wasn't a lost decade. You are a different person because of it. Probably more compassionate and understanding. More grateful for your life, and hopeful for what you can become. Of course, you are already awesome, but growing in awesomeness every day.

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DENISEFULLER 2/25/2012 12:23AM

    For someone in that situation to hear that you were there and see where you are now, I would think they'd feel like if you could do it, they can. It's generous of you to reach out to them.

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REBECCA180 2/24/2012 11:59PM

    Beautifully said!

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TARA_ADVENTURES 2/24/2012 11:51PM

    I love your message and commitment to paying it forward. Thank you for sharing!

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DRB13_1 2/24/2012 11:42PM

    keep paying it forward...

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SKIRNIR 2/24/2012 11:09PM

    I so agree, but how to help others in a similar boat? I have a friend of mine that I can't help but think he isn't going to live another year. He can hardly stand for more than a minute and his legs will start hurting him, etc. STanding in the line at the food pantry, I just want to either help him sit down or smack him. I just don't know how to help. I mean, I want to help him, not drive him away. I have told him that I worry about him and don't think he is going to live another five years. I mentioned that spark people has a chair cardio video, and a chair exercise message board group. He has seen my 50 pound weight loss with spark also. I don't know what else to do that won't drive him away instead.

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CAROLJ35 2/24/2012 10:52PM

    Great blog!!!

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DELGADITA69 2/24/2012 10:41PM

    Awesome and so true. We cannot forget where we have been and look to others in the same condition only to help them up. Thanks for sharing.

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BOURBONIAN 2/24/2012 10:34PM

    Thanks for sharing your story, you look great!

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NUMD97 2/24/2012 9:32PM

    Your generosity, Robert, I am starting to learn, knows no bounds. From where I sit, your newfound life is just beginning. Your caring spirit will be amply rewarded, I do believe that.

I wish you nothing but continued success,


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LLINDY65 2/24/2012 8:45PM

    Couldn't agree more! emoticon

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OSUBUCKI101 2/24/2012 7:52PM

    You are a friend and inspiration to all you touch! I bet you have had an impact on people who you may never know. You are amazing!

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MAVERICK59 2/24/2012 6:25PM

    I agree with what you say here. I do my best to pay it forward, even when I am not feeling very strong in my program.
Thank you for caring. It is so rare to read a blog that really is meant to help others.
God Bless you on your journey.


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46SHADOW 2/24/2012 6:18PM

    i dobn't even know you and I'm proud of you!

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TIFFY0906 2/24/2012 5:00PM

    emoticon - love this blog, thanks for inspiring me

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DUXGRL1 2/24/2012 4:29PM

    I totally agree with you!

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