Well, we have all come to the same conclusion, mostly. My husband's sister and family will be taking Brownie for us this weekend. They may keep or if it doesn't work out, then his other sister which really wants her and already has a dog will also take her. They wanted her when we visited at Christmas time.
Abby, 8 yesterday, is still a little hesitant, but as the days get closer and closer to the exchange date, she understands and seems to accept that it is a better choice for all. My husband was the 1st to notice the changes. He was probably neglected by me so it bothered him a lot. I took on most of the responsibility for caring for Brownie because I stay at home. I'm used to this so it didn't hit me right away.
Our son, 6, Ben, was next. He didn't like all the attention Brownie was getting and also didn't like the limitations that were put on our family. Less Wii time with Daddy, less time out of the house with everyone, taking the dog out in the cold, the dog biting and jumping, having to put his toys away (right away, not in a few minutes), less cartoon time, not being able to hold her anytime he wanted to (she's not a stuffed animal, she bites), Mom and Dad have to play with her so they get tired and so much more.
I got sick and that started to weigh on me. I got migraines and a cold with chills and body aches. I think I am at the tail end of it, but it's been going on for over 3 weeks. I have had no time for exercise and that has hurt me as well. I miss my family and my exercise friend. She's a great, smart and loving dog, but we just aren't dog owners. We like our relaxing time with our two kids. We like quiet time. We like visiting with friends w/out dog interruptions. Brownie has had several issues medically, too. Puppy lice, ring worms, very dry skin, Kennel Cough, Mange, vomiting from new food, loose and frequent stool from new food and most of these problems lingered or reoccurred. Thankfully the center that we got her from were super amazing and never charged us anything other than the original adoption fee. We never paid any vet fees for ANY shots or medicine!!! She went back 4 times and they gave her at least 3 doses of Frontline, 2 antibiotic pills, 2 syringe meds and several shots. We got some Mange ointment and special shampoo. They clipped her nails for free. They gave us some puppy food on the last trip to tide us over until we handed her to her new owners.
We will miss her and have lots of memories and when we owned a dog, but it wouldn't be right to keep her, not for us or her. She woke me up at 12am, 4am and 6am. I'm sick. I need sleep. The next day she puked 2x in the van on the way to the vet and by 10:30 am had pooped 4x. She's a handful.
know for sure what you are getting into, if not, it's ok to get out. Don't let others make you feel bad, as long as you gave it your best shot. We have. We have worked with her every day and she now knows so many tricks and lessons. She's a super smart dog and hopefully will make my husband's family very happy.