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Day 8 - Help me, please


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

The message here is to speak up, that is to say, tell those around you what you need from them. This means family, friends, co-workers, anyone who may impact your weight loss journey.

The recommendation of the day is to write in my journal (here) what I want from all those people. Do I want them to rip cookies of out of my hands, stop sending me candy for holidays, offer seconds when I visit?

So here is my list:
Tell me when you think I am looking thin, don't mention when I'm not, I'll get the difference.
If you're going to cook for me, ask me if I have any limitations or at least tell me what is in the food without a hassle.
Don't offer me french fries when I don't order them.
Don't bake a bunch of cookies for Christmas and then frown when I eat one, just don't bring them.
Don't watch me eat a meal and two hours later, say, lets go out for lunch.
Don't say, "salmon, again, really?"
What kind of beer do you want?

My take on this, I can listen and ask for help, but in reality, I am ultimately responsible. I can say "no, I don't want any". And "yes I want salmon." And "I think I'll have unsweetened iced tea today instead of any alcohol."

The cookies I may speak up on. I have a serious problem with cookies, just can't stop at one, or two or sometimes six. And I never met a cookie I didn't like. So next Christmas, I will ask all the bakers to keep them away from me, or when needed rip them from my fingers.



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THEMRSH 2/28/2012 9:21AM

  Catching up with your blogs Linda and I think this is fantastic! I should do a list of my own. Too often those around us that don't understand what we are going through are baffled by what we need. We shouldn't expect them to be mind readers!

Not to long ago we went to a dinner at my Mom's and I called her ahead of time and asked her to put her candy jars away. She gladly did it for me. A few weeks later I made a return trip and had no less than 10 handfuls of misc candy from her jars that just scream my name. I got a bit sassy with her asking why she didn't put them away and she simply said, "You didn't tell me to." She's right, I didn't. It's not her fault that I can't stay away from those jars!

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HOLDINGMYOWN 2/15/2012 5:02PM

    A lot of the time these feelings you have about "food pushers" will become obsolete as time goes by and your weight starts to drop. You will start to feel "smug" and "judgemental" about what others are choosing to eat ( especially the 'fat" ones~~lol ) BUT don't be "like" them~~ keep your comments to yourself BUT eat as you want to!!

Rather than having people try to "push" things at me once they knew I was on a diet~~ I had people watching everything I ate...and asking if it was on my "diet"~~ I use to say "yes it is" every time! BECAUSE it is! All foods good and bad are on our diet~~ BUT it is up to us to choose WHEN we are going to eat the BAD ones! despite so called "experts" saying NOT to treat your weight loss with food~~~ this is how I was able to cope~~ and so often when I was asked~~it was when I was having my "treat" so YES it WAS on my diet! It was PLANNED for~~

I also use to haul people up when they were 'at" me by smiling sweetly and saying to them ~" And who has lost ????? LBS eh?" I must be doing something right!

I am at a plateau right now since I stopped smoking last fall~~ I have stopped the 'gaining" I was doing but cannot get back to "losing"

GOOD LUCK with your journey~~ emoticon

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SHELLEY81 2/15/2012 12:15PM

    you are right that you are ultimately responsible for what you eat but having people around who are supportive in a nonjudgmental sort of way is so ideal. I can't stand it when people ask "should you be eating that?" or commenting on what I'm eating...

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FITAT50 2/15/2012 11:25AM

    We're never going to stop the food pushers, so we can't let them make us feel guilty for choosing healthy foods. Nine times out of ten I will choose a broiled fish when we go out to eat, I used to hate fish, I have now come to enjoy it.

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LMK206 2/15/2012 10:40AM

    great blog

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EUGENERUGOSA 2/15/2012 10:37AM

    emoticon

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TEKRU1 2/15/2012 10:11AM

    You are right on with this blog! I'd like to print it out and hand it to all the food pushers out there!

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