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Loving Myself Into Health

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

emoticon I think loving myself is the most important part of reconnecting with my Healthy Me.

Lack of self-love is one of the things (hmmm … perhaps THE thing) that drives my emotional eating. I seek out my comfort foods, sweet, creamy carbilicious goodies, as a substitute for self-love. And we all know how well that strategy works! Oh sure, for a few minutes I am transported to a place of pure bliss as the sugars hit my tongue and fire off all those good-feeling sensations. But then all the sugar, fat and carbs hit my stomach and my system, and I feel physically sick and yucky. Then emotionally I feel empty, and mentally I feel like a failure. Like the addict I have become, craving another hit to make those bad feelings go way, I eat more sweet, creamy carbilicious goodies. I end up packing on the pounds, instead of packing in the joy, bliss, and peace I am really looking for. I end up with self-hate and self-loathing, instead of self-love. So I seek out more comfort through food, because I certainly have no comfort to offer myself. I became entrenched in this never-ending, downward spiraling, vicious cycle.

I have decided to get off this not-so-fun merry-go-round. After flailing around, trying this diet and that diet, reading about this food philosophy and that eating philosophy, taking up the self-flagellation whip and driving myself to exercise harder and faster, I have come to the conclusion that more self discipline and more self control is not the way. It just simply is not working for me. Just like hitting a dog when she poops in the house does not train her to go outside to relieve herself, smacking myself on the head and exerting tighter control over myself does not help me stick with the healthy habits I am trying so hard to acquire. I just yelp and feel confused over the pain.

Several things have been clicking for me this month. I have re-immersed myself into my spiritual practices, including meditation. I started on another journey with “The Artist’s Way,” and my morning pages have included some wonderful insights into my thoughts and feelings. The Healthy Lifestyle Blog post “Is Your Weight Loss Puzzle Missing a Crucial Piece?” set off lovely chimes within my head. I am ignoring my scale, not logging my food, and refusing to feel guilty because I’m not exercising. I am just concentrating on feeling that illusive emotion, self-love.

So right now, in this very moment, in all my moments, I am building up a deep love and heart-felt appreciation for Me. I know, to the depths of my being, that as I love myself into a state of allowing, into a state of thriving, into a state of blissed-out, joy-full, peace-filled, heart-stoppingly ecstatic self-love, everything else will fall into place. I will nourish myself with healthy foods, because I truly love myself. I will choose fun-filled, body-stretching movement, because I truly love myself. I will fill myself with sweet, creamy, delicious, comforting self-love, and that will fire off all the good-feeling sensations I will ever need. And all that love will overflow and reach out to everyone around me.

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In case you missed it, here is a link to the Healthy Lifestyle Blog post, “Is Your Weight Loss Puzzle Missing a Crucial Piece?” that I mentioned. I heartily recommend it!

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  • SKY2012
    beautifully written, hugssssssssssssss
    2127 days ago
    When you meditate, try smiling at your heart and acknowledging your gratitude for the gifts you have been given. This is a really helpful practice.
    2130 days ago
    Wonderful post... and so true! It is so funny how just in the past few days I have been hearing and reading more and more about self love. I know that loving myself will not only help me with my food issues, but will help me move past my divorce and the issues that lie there for the past 4 years! Thank you for sharing!
    2130 days ago
    Wonderful post... and so true! It is so funny how just in the past few days I have been hearing and reading more and more about self love. I know that loving myself will not only help me with my food issues, but will help me move past my divorce and the issues that lie there for the past 4 years! Thank you for sharing!
    2130 days ago
    I heartily concur!! I've heard good things about "The Artist's Way"
    2130 days ago
  • LE7_1234
    It's funny, but the more I love myself, the more those sweet, creamy carbolicious goodies just don't taste so good anymore.... My path to discovering this started with FlyLady, several years back, when I was looking for a way to keep my house clean. Or clean enough. :-) "FLY" stands for Finally Loving Yourself. I thought that was silly--I mean, it wasn't like I hated myself.

    Oh. Not hating is not the same as loving, is it?

    Since I started down that path, EVERYTHING has improved. Not always quickly--but the longer I'm on the path, the less I care how long it takes. Welcome to the journey. :-)
    2130 days ago
    Love it!
    2131 days ago
    I'm so glad you've found first a place of self acceptance and are now reaching into the corners of the place of self love. This is beautiful. I find the harder I drive myself I often end in a ditch, as in stuck and I can't work my way loose. You sound like you've discovered something similar. Self love like you are beginning to experience will lead you in a healthy direction. You love yourself you want to give yourself nice things and chief among them are a feeling of lightness and and beautiful healthy food. I'm glad to see you are back with us and in a good place. emoticon
    2131 days ago
    I agree that this is where we all need to be to become truly healthy. What a lovely blog and I am happy to see you feeling some peace with yourself. Hugs, Di
    2131 days ago
    I really enjoyed that blog too. I reached this epiphany about self love sometime recently too, and it has made ALL the difference!
    2131 days ago
    Lisa, you have a gift for writing - I loved how you described your feelings and challenges with loving yourself! Your honesty and creativity really shown through. You are definitely not alone in your struggles with emotional eating. I think you are very wise to concentrate on loving yourself first, and the practices you have chosen to do that sound perfect! I wish you all the best on your journey to loving yourself and seeking healthy food, movement and joy of living to fulfill that love! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2131 days ago
    You are amazing and I feel ya! Truly! and I love the Artist's Way! Artist date!
    2131 days ago
    Lisa, you are so right you need to love yourself to get the motivation to get healthy.

    2131 days ago
    I am *so* very happy to read this blog, Lisa! emoticon emoticon I have been concerned that you kept joining challenges, but they didn't seem to be working for you. I believe you have found what was missing for you, and I'm thrilled! emoticon

    It's interesting that the simple step of loving and accepting yourself *exactly as you are* (regardless of any number on the scale or degree of disorganization/amount of clutter) relieves that stress of believing you must reach some certain level before you will be worthy of love.

    My songwriter friend Jai Josefs said it beautifully:
    "I love myself the way I am and still I want to grow
    But change outside can only come when deep inside I know
    I'm beautiful and capable of being the best me I can
    And I love myself just the way I am."

    I eagerly look forward to witnessing your life unfold joyfully as your love for you continues to grow and blossom! emoticon emoticon

    Blessed Be, Amanda emoticon emoticon
    2131 days ago
  • BARBIE176
    Great blog Lisa and I am so happy to hear that things are starting to work for you in a positive way. Thank you for the link I am going to be reading that very soon.You are so right about the necessity of loving ourselves. We have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else or before we can achieve our weight loss goals. emoticon Way to go! Keep up the progress!
    2131 days ago
  • NICKI109
    Great blog. So very true. I am on the same Merry Go Round right now. Maybe I need to find some love towards myself to continue! Thank you for sharing
    2131 days ago
    emoticon blog Lisa! How can we lose weight if we don't love ourselves first. I think you are wise to focus on loving yourself first. Once you have realized that loving yourself is the important thing you can you can then focus on eating right and moving your body because you truly do love yourself! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2131 days ago
    There really is nothing more to said it very well!

    2131 days ago
    Thanks for the link. We have some threads on Ultimate Self-Care on Inner Journey under General Information forum. They dove tail with the ideas in the article you linked.

    2131 days ago
    Wow, Lisa - Looks like you and I are on the same page, doesn't it? I also am working with the Artist's Way. And I found the article about the Missing Piece most relevant. No wonder we're friends! Thanks for writing so eloquently. emoticon emoticon
    2132 days ago

    I hope you find the 'peace' that is missing for you.

    2132 days ago
  • 4CYNDI
    Great blog! I think you may be on to something. Loving ourselves is crucial to treating ourselves well.
    2132 days ago
    Way to go! Love to the Power of 10!
    2132 days ago
    So True So True
    2132 days ago
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