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Comments, looks, and attitudes...

Thursday, February 09, 2012

Warning: A rant is coming on!! Have you loss a bunch of weight and got rude comments about it? I did. How much did you lose? WOW, that much and then you get the look. You know, the one, where they look you up and down. I love this comment I got from my MIL..."Wow, you look good but now you look sick" What? I look good but sick? People can be mean and judgmental. I get to the point where I find myself fibbing about exactly how much weight I loss. I find that people are less supportive than being supportive. Are they jealous? Maybe. I don't know but don't give me an attitude b/c I've decided to do something about my weight and you chose not to.
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JESSIHOVER1 2/9/2012 11:23PM

    I say own what you have lost. You deserve that number. And forget about the mean people, they are probably just jealous that you look good!!

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ADVENTURESEEKER 2/9/2012 11:16PM

    I don't tell people for just this fear...also in case I have a bad week and gain a couple pounds I don't want any comments about that, either.

A wise woman once told me: soon enough you won't get any comments, because all the people you meet after the point of losing weight will know you from that point on.

Truer words have not been spoken. Soon enough that will be normal for everyone. Ignore the idiots.


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HHB4181 2/9/2012 9:41PM

    You look amazing. Don't let those people upset because you've done so much good for yourself. I bet some of them are jealous.
forget them


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NUMI2012 2/9/2012 7:23PM

    That used to happen to me ALL the time. I can completely relate to what you're going through.

Here are my thoughts:
1. People are uncomfortable with change, especially if it makes them question their OWN habits. If you are all of a sudden doing all these healthy things and they're still running for the doughnuts, you make them see those issues in their own life. That's really uncomfortable for people until they're ready to face it and make changes. People don't have to be overweight to be living unhealthy lifestyles, so you won't just get comments from folks who still haven't lost the weight.

2. For some odd reason, people think it's perfectly acceptable to say something to someone about how skinny they are, because they don't perceive it as an insult. It definitely is, but they don't even realize it. Most people realize that saying blunt comments to someone about being overweight is rude, but they think that "skinny" people can't be offended, or shouldn't be. After all, they're just showing they care about you right? Well...maybe they care, but they definitely need some tact and they also need to learn to wait until they're ASKED for an opinion.

After many, many comments from coworkers, I finally learned the response that worked best: "Thanks for your concern, but I've met my goal weight and my doctor is really happy with where I am and so am I." Firm, pleasant and close the door on the subject.

Good luck...I'm sure it will stop eventually...I don't know for sure though since I ended up moving away and no one here ever knew me when I was heavier. Now I get comments like, "Oh, you can eat whatever you want!" Um...no, I can't. I watch what I eat and exercise. *sigh*

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