Thursday, February 09, 2012
"You're wasting away!" someone said to me today.
I know they meant it nicely, but let's get one thing straight- that is NOT a compliment!
Yeah, I'm way smaller.
But I'm also way stronger. I'm wearing a baggy sweatshirt, but if you could see my arms, you would see MUSCLES! And I don't know how you're missing my leg muscles, which you can see through my leggings! You don't need x-ray vision for that!
I know people have good intentions when they compliment someone on their weight loss, but saying things like "you're wasting away" or "you're going to disappear soon" can be more hurtful than helpful. While I'm small on inches I'm big on strength, and on health, and I don't like being compared to someone who is starving, impoverished, or sick... because I KNOW I don't look like that. And really, unless you're SURE someone has been actively trying to lose weight, it's probably better that you don't comment on their weight at all. While my weight loss has been intentional, I know that in many people it is an unwanted consequence of illness or stress. And nobody wants to be celebrated for being sick and anxious.
Mind your words, folks!