Sunday, February 05, 2012
I have always tried to not let my weight get to me while I am pregnant. My main focus is always on having a healthy pregnancy and a very healthy baby rather than how much the numbers on the scale move. I have to admit sometimes it is difficult to not feel upset about being obese and pregnant. I don't get to wear any cute maternity clothes. The grocery baggers at the store always help the pregnant mom's with the cute little baby bumps take things to their cars while I try to get everything put into the cart and out to the car myself. Many people still do not notice that I am pregnant, even though I think it is very evident. These things have been bothering me lately and it only gets worse when family has to add to my low feelings. The other day we received a phone call from my mother in law. When it was my turn to talk to her the first words out of her mouth were "How are you feeling? Probably pretty heavy?". I was stunned. What a weird thing to say. Then today I dug one of my husband's shirts out of the closet because I needed a nice big comfy shirt to wear; most of mine do not completely cover my baby belly anymore. He seen me wearing it and said "Wow, that shirts fits you pretty good. If it covers your belly it should cover mine". My husband is almost 400 pounds. He has gained a lot more weight during this pregnancy than I have and his stomach is actually quite a bit bigger than my my baby belly. I felt hurt. I actually sat down and cried. I just do not think that weight or fat comments should be made to women while they are pregnant. The weight can be dealt with after a healthy baby is born. I am happy that my doctor is very supportive and feels I have done a great job on my weight through this pregnancy. I do not think that a weight gain of 11 pounds at 8 months is too bad. I may even come out of this pregnancy even with my prepregnancy weight or even lower. My baby is growing great and we are both healthy, despite my obese status; this makes me feel a bit happier.