Death has taught...err...remin
Friday, February 03, 2012
Has been a long week, and has been a week of looking at true value of things as opposed to assumed/implied value. And as I analyzed, thought on and looked at various things I came to a few "aha" moments. Let me share.
1. There is no such thing as too many hugs. In fact I think there should be a hug break every hour. I know it seems simple but sometimes the best things in life are simple!
2. The things in your house are just things, they don't define you they don't make you a better person. When you are gone they will still be here. Ask a loved one who has lost someone if they want the things left behind or the person who left the things I think it is safe to say they will say the person.
3. You can never say "I love you " too many times. It doesn't matter what is going on in your life. The people around you NEED to hear it. It sounds cliche but I wish I had told Boz how much he meant. I showed him with my actions (I hope) but that could have been strengthened with my words. When I pass I do not want ANYONE I care about to say "Man I did not know she felt that way about me." I want my last words to anyone I love to be "I love you!".
4. Answer the phone. "I don't feel like talking to anyone!" I admit sometimes I do that. Why? No clue, but from here on out I will at least answer and say "Hey I will call you back later ok?" if I am too busy to talk at that time. It takes a few minutes of time to share a little with someone who is important to you. Take the time now before you cannot take the time later. At least 3 different times after Boz was released from the hospital I thought "Man I should give him a quick all to see how he is doing" but I let myself get sidetracked.
5. Do not put off tomorrow what you can do today. So many times I thought "I want to text _____ to let them know I am thinking about them" And something bright and sparkly catches my eye. Then before you know it a week has gone by and I have done nothing. There is no better time then when I think it to do it (unless I am driving!)
6. We are not guaranteed tomorrows. I guess this really goes hand in hand with the above one of not putting anything off. But I think it bares repeating. I need to get out of the mindset of "I will catch up on that tomorrow" or "I will go there tomorrow". On the same lines I will look for the adventure in my life everyday. It is there. I need to capture it like a child captures the joy in hearing the first ice cream truck of the summer.
7. Your body is your temple. I think sometimes I treat our new car Maybelline better than I treat myself. No..I KNOW...I treat Maybelline better than I treat myself. I started monitoring my blood sugars actively 3 weeks ago and exercising and being carb smart. I know I have a long way to go but I want to take two seconds to say that even with all the stress/sadness this week I did not reach for a honey bun! How can I honor life when I do not honor what gives me life?
8. Get outdoors and play more. The wonder of nature has been lost. I spend more times indoors than I do outdoors. And everytime I go outside I think "I love it" I love hearing the birds sing, feeling the wind on my face. So why do I spend more time with my face bathed in artificial computer light than awesome sunlight? Camping at least 2 times is going to happen this year.
So I know this seems kind of "well duh" but I think I let myself forget. And I think in forgetting these basic prinicples we lose our sense of wonder and delight. And I am counting on friends and family to remind of these things when I lose sight of them and get lost in work or "stuff".