Saturday, March 17, 2007
I learned a very important few lessons this week....
First, that all is never lost in this journey toward health and weight loss. I had a weekend home with family that foundme over indulging in things that I knew would cause me to see the scales move in the wrong direction. I knew what I was doing and chose to do them anyway. I accepted that and remained accountable to myself so the movement of the scales upward instead of downward was not a surprise and something I took full responsibility for it.
But, knowing what I had done, I chose to get back on the wagon, eat right, exercise, make sure to get my fruits and veggies, fiber, protein, carbs (for energy), and all the other nutrients I need everyday. I also made exercise a bigger priority than I have in recent days (weeks?).
By Friday, the regular weigh in day for me, I stepped on the scales expecting a slight rise from last week...but that is NOT what I saw. I had managed to maintain my weight at exactly what it was last week. A week of maintenece...and that thrilled me beyond belief!
I know that I can't go hog wild every weekend but I learned a valuable lesson this past week. If I do go home to see family and choose to indulge, I can rectify it by not calling the week a total waste and continuing on that path....I can get back to "work" at it hard and heavy and counteract much of that decadence with eating right and some hard work in the exercise area.
All is NEVER lost...even if I had shown a gain, I can choose to continue on, work hard, take care of me and my body, and work toward my goals of health, fitness and weigh loss. THAT is the route to success.
Another lesson I've learned is that we can't be all things to all people...and some people are not what they at first appear. There are those that truly love and care for us just as we are, imperfections and all; and there are those who have some set of ideals of what you need to live up to in order to be their friend. And when you don't live up to those preconceived notions of what they want or expect from you, when you make a mistake then you are no longer worthy of being their friend.
Those are not the kind of friends I need. I can be the most supportive and kind woman there is...all I ask in return is give to me in return the same kind of support that I give to you. True friendship is a give and take, a place where you know you can be yourself without fear of judgment ...and not a place for being kicked when you're already down, harsh judgments and just being made to feel as though you are not living up to the other persons preconceived ideals of what you SHOULD be.
I learned this week that I do NOT need that kind of negativity or being attacked in my life. I need to surround myself with those who truly care about me and not about projecting their own agendas into my life...people I care about and feel good supporting and cheering on when they have accomplished something great, and being a shoulder to lean on when things aren't going so great.
THAT is what real, true friendship is about.
I am thankful to have that here in the form of two of my best girlies.
Thank you Nadine & Robin. You two are my rocks when I need somewhere to lean....and you both know that I will be yours when you need it, too.
All of life is a learning experience...and I am so happy to be learning so many great lessons everyday, as I grow healthier in body and mind.