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Excuses vs. Reasons

Sunday, January 29, 2012

This was written by one of the participants on an Asperger's support group that I am on. I'm blogging it here to remember.

"Sometimes people get confused between an excuse and a reason. With an excuse, you are seeking to be excused from being responsible or learning or fixing whatever it is. With a 'reason' you can begin to explore how to work on changing things or providing appropriate modifications and tools. Just as an example, if you have a blind child would someone say "Oh that is just an excuse for not making your child read"? In the case of a blind child, you would have to teach the child new skills, and provide the right kind of materials for the child to read. It is the same with a child with autism/aspergers. You don't use the disability as and excuse, but you do acknowledge it as the reason and understand that it will require some teaching and some changes in delivery for the child to make progress." - Kathy J.

I think this sentiment is also applicable to our fitness/weight loss goals



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BRAVAH 1/31/2012 9:29AM

    Wow. Interesting perspective. Yes, I am not as fit as I could be, but I don't let that get in the way of doing something. I might have to do it slower, or may not have the form that someone else has, but that isn't an excuse or reason to not do it. Thanks!

Cheers,
Heidi

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RESOLVEDTOWIN 1/31/2012 9:01AM

    An elderly Sunday School teacher of mine once said that an excuse is merely a lie, stuffed inside the skin of a reason. You couldn't get anything past her!

I often tell my 13yo that she needs to be very careful to distinguish between excuses and explanations. That while explaining the situation may clarify for me what is going on, it does not excuse any bad behavior.

Complicated issues. Thanks for bringing them up.

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MAGA99 1/30/2012 10:46AM

    something I really need 2 think about

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STRINGS58 1/30/2012 6:25AM

    This is interesting especially as my mind shifted to my reasons for motivating exercise today - and not my excuses for why I didn't do it yesterday . . . or was my reason yesterday the fatigue, and today I feel more rested so I have no excuses??

Anyway, I don't need to avoid the responsibilities and I think maybe I can come up with reasons to enjoy doing them!

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CHANA-D 1/30/2012 5:59AM

    Thanks for posting. It makes one think about things in a different way.

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PHEBESS 1/30/2012 5:40AM

    VERY true!!!!

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TERRI289 1/29/2012 11:25PM

    Very good point!!

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